nevyn
Prattville, AL
age: 65
| I think what you should keep in mind, no matter what you do, is the advice from ge0ge0
It's a bar. objects hitting on you appear closer than what they really are.
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| Lord God was this really worth this much dialogue?
Talk about over analyizing and beating a dead horse...by now she's pregnant with another man's child!
Yike.
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| I'm not worried about my awkwardness. My competence at the pool table is evidence of that, LOL.
I'm worried about making her feel awkward.
I have a feeling she's not the type to blush or feel awkward very easily. She may even show you how to turn a few nifty shades of red. 
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| ...by now she's pregnant with another man's child!
ROFLMAO!
That would solve that dilema, wouldn't it?
My usual modus operandi when faced with such uncertainty is to simply do nothing, and my choice of action becomes determined for me (i.e. she becomes unavailable).
Let me rephrase ge0ge0: I don't wish to offend her with my interest.
[Edited 5/2/2008 1:08:01 PM]
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| Let me rephrase ge0ge0: I don't wish to offend her with my interest.
That's such a self defeatist way of viewing your hesitation. Nothing ventured, notjng gained. What's the worst thing that can happen if she isn't interested?
[Edited 5/3/2008 12:10:40 PM]
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oldeschoolcharm
Monroe, WA
age: 47
| That's such a self defeatist way of viewing your hesitation. Nothing ventured, notjng gained. What's the worst thing that can happen if she isn't interested?
Er, ladies: what's that awkwardness you feel when a male friend misinterprets friendly gestures for a romantic interest?
I want to spare her that. I do consider her a friend, albeit not a well-known one. Remember, for me, a deeper relationship starts with friendship.
In any case, the issue is moot: my kids have a crisis and I have taken a sabbatical to see them in Seattle. Drove up from San Diego in one shot (with pitstops and time for one meal) yesterday (Saturday).
Saw her Friday night. Stayed close to me, more terms of endearment (honey, darling, sweatheart, baby, etc.).
So, I asked her, point-blank, how come she's single? She replied that she liked it that way, and couldn't see herself in a long-term relationship yet.
Well, that settled it for me. While she might have been willing to date me casually, I don't seek that.
I explained that I was leaving, that I would miss her, we hugged quite warmly, and that was that.
Right now, I am not seeking to date, as I have to deal with issues with my kids. I have yet too update my profile and am here for the fora only. If someone crosses my path, that would be great, but it is not a primary focus. I am not "searching", but neither am I blind.
[Edited 5/4/2008 12:47:11 PM]
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