mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43 online now!
| I have never been stood up in person, someone was very late once, lame excuse nut typical man bsing too much and could not get away from a longwinded conversation...bullshit its easy "p[lease excuse me,there is somewhere I need to be"...seems to work for me...I see many women have trouble with the men from DHU... I have one male friend that keeps getting stood up by the same girl...well i think one time would be enough for me. I am worht it and so if they cant keep a committment over alittle thing like time;be online at the same time, phione call, date whatever...then how are they going to be able to comitt to something bigger. I have one friend who has seen one tragedy after another happen to his family week after week...oh dear God...wht dont you just spit out the truth...in other words...Men...if your playing say so"hey this ios all an ego boost for me and it makes me feel empowered"...same holds true for women. I may have made a serious mistake by assuming worst and frankly its because of all the shit I see,or the one time that a guy would beg me no dont go i will be better about being in touch..imean when your talking everyday and it goes to once a week but yet when you talk its still fun...something does not add up especially when you know they get online to check mail regualarly ect....no excuse no matter how busy life gets...send a god damn smiley if you have not got time for words but something to keep the string attached...when you disappear for a few days withoput a trace all, men and women often think they are not interested especially if it was very very strong and not stop talking and then nothing...mmmm???. ...it doesn't add up for many of us....A LITTLE COMMUNICATION GOES A LONG LONG WAY...so if you dont have tiome to talk zap a sentence a smiley anything but dont do the mistake that so many people make....and thats is this.......
We can get use to our routines as single people...which includes dealing with situations that arise, stress, overly worked...whatever...but if you have let someone into your circle of trust and have grown close...even if it grew fast...your in the circle and when you dont share your day, your concerns your dealing with and shut down or shut them out to deal with whatever and with no communication or worse saying your going to communicate and not following thru time and again....it sends the signal that you dont care about that person enough to share your life....you dont care about that person that maybe they might worry about you...and you dont care about that person and they have just been played....so think before you choose to live in single mode that your use to, if you want that someone around its up to you to make sure they know it every day....I mean think of it if you lived together would you have a bad day or something go really wrong and come home and not talk to you baby? Of course not. Be kind people, be thoughtful...be considerate of one another. Like I said I have the one friend broken hearted all weekend over another lie....just be honest and say what it is and I have one guy friend that is going to supposidly meet her again....for the first time and this is attempt number 4 or 5...??? I would have said forget it after one reschedule....
When I say i am going to do something I follow thru....when you say your going to do something it is giving your word it is a promise...no need for raising your right hand it is what it is....why the games....imean cant the people who do this on puirpose find other more constructive ways to build their self esteem, why do it at the expense of others...Imean when you think about it...when you pull this shit opn folks how is it any different than mental and emotional abuse...not much difference at all...and the really worst part is these people who pull these games,inconsiderations and such they are making it hard for the next person who truely takes an interest in that person because trust has been stomped on ..so in that sense your actions have been selfish and unfair now not to one person but to two...ok enough lecture to the ones who are "L"...as for the rest of you the folks here who practice kindess and consideration and keep their committments and unoathed promises when they say they are goping to do something they follow thru...bravissimo!...u rock....
ok i will shut the hell up now
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| Geez mindy would you like to write another paragraph perhaps???
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holdinpanama
Panama City, FL
age: 44
| here i am holdin holdinpanama
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