| 5/2/2008 6:09:08 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | | kolinahr
Honolulu, HI
age: 31
| Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? The Impotence is the result of an injury, an irreparable injury. So medications or surgery can not help. But although I am Incapable of any physical intimacy but I can at least dance.
From what I've heard, there are SOME Women who prefer to practice chastity, abstinence, in which case they might be my hope. What do you say, Ladies?
So am I destined to be an Outcast in long-term relationship for the rest of my life? Does my Impotence make me an Outcast?
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| 5/2/2008 6:17:24 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I don't think you necessarily must be an outcast nor be pursuing women who are into chastity or abstinence, unless that is what trips your trigger mentally. There are many ways that a relationship can be sexually fulfilling that do not involve penetration - granted an orgasm may be an impossibility for you however you do not indicate that
you simply refer to the turgidity of your penis...so....
if you can still orgasm and simply remaining erect is your only issue, then you have a great many options IF you find someone interested in you as a person.
Good luck
[Edited 5/2/2008 6:18:09 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 8:07:46 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
alaskanpirate
Denali National Park, AK
age: 42
| I have had some real great sexual encounters; some have involved penetration and some by choice have not. The have nots: I have gotten great enjoyment pleasure and satisfaction from pleasuring women in the other ways. Making my woman happy would make me happy. There have been times in my life were even without penetration I have felt like KING KONG....I know it is easy to say but; when you find a woman and get to that stage become a master at what you can achieve.... become the best and she will not want....
For anyone else interested pelvic floor exercises don't just benefit women....Give it a try see and feel the difference.
Best of luck man
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| 5/2/2008 8:44:18 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
bradonshome
Shelton, WA
age: 45
| i was with my husband for 8 years..1 of that married..before he passed away..he couldn't have sex all that time..but we made it up in other ways..it was good too..we had a good oral sex thing going on for 3 of those years..then he got really sick and couldn't do anything..well you take it from there..
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| 5/2/2008 8:52:57 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
bry11ca
Wyandotte, MI
age: 43
| Jokester!!!!!!!
Get drunk and learn to tongue the alphabet backwards and you won't be arrested!!!!
Bwoooop!! Pull over Bo Jangles.
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| 5/2/2008 8:54:56 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 40
| First things first.....EVERY WORD from the Hawiaan vocabulary ends in a vowel. If you are from hawaii...might be a useful tip to know. Secondly....your question isn't designed to make ANYONE close to you...only deter people (women) unless you are looking for some weak assed pity thing.
Not sure where I would get standing on the corner and screaming "LIMP D*CK!"
Are you kidding? The people who actually have that problem sure as Hell don't use it for a conversation starter.
F**king amatures!
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| 5/2/2008 8:57:16 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 38
| and this question is coming from a shadow?
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| 5/2/2008 9:02:50 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48
| I wonder which one he is?
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| 5/2/2008 9:33:56 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
taylorpetty
Aurora, CO
age: 19
| Its a diffinate hurdle to overcome but you just have to find the right partner
I think honesty is the best policy
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| 5/2/2008 9:39:22 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| i had a friend once who went to the doctor, came home put on his best suit and started walking to town. I never saw him in a suit before so I ask what was the occassion? he replied the doctor told him he was inpotent, and he said if I'm gonna be impotant, I'm gonna look impotent!
krupa, quit sugar coating it, tell us how you really feel
[Edited 5/2/2008 9:41:25 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 9:46:04 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| My answer to the OP is... we all are outcasts if we allow our ailments to overcome the good of the being inside. Go forth in life to meet the person you can enjoy life with and not have to worry about those who see themselves as better than you or your situation.
This too coming from a shadow! You self rightous and most insensitive people. Had you taken the time to check out the OP's profile he cites his chaste lifestyle and has made mention via several other threads here On DHu, regarding his condition. It doesn't appear that he has been anything other than completely honest as to who or what type partner he is seeking. 
He simply came here on the forums to get an answer to a question which for most people would be extremely hard to pose. He did receive some good input from some. 
Then the self rightous and always condescending few either make light of a bad enough situation or outright show their insensitive asses. Shame on you pathetic souls !!!!
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| 5/2/2008 9:50:52 PM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
ladyinparis
Paris, TX
age: 41
| Duck...that was HILARIOUS!
On a more serious note....my ex was impotent...not at first, but it happened (well, it didn't happen rather ) I felt I would have loved him forever, but he had no interest in trying to fix it or even trying to still be intimate in any other way.
Well, eventually, it bothered me enough that it became an issue.
All of this to say...women will love you, BUT you will still have to fulfill her needs and desires---not just sexually, but emotionally too. That kind of closeness has to be present to have happiness. You are quite capable of doing all that I mentioned..you just have to have the desire.
LadyinParis
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| 5/3/2008 9:57:44 AM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? The Impotence is the result of an injury, an irreparable injury. So medications or surgery can not help. But although I am Incapable of any physical intimacy but I can at least dance.
From what I've heard, there are SOME Women who prefer to practice chastity, abstinence, in which case they might be my hope. What do you say, Ladies?
So am I destined to be an Outcast in long-term relationship for the rest of my life? Does my Impotence make me an Outcast?
If the fingers and tongue are gone, then I'd say yes. If the fingers and tongue are still intact, then you're still in business.
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| 5/3/2008 10:20:22 AM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
| I agree with the statement...Women can still love a man who is impotent. The key is letting her love you without blaming her for still wanting to have some type of sexual intimacy with you. A man is still desirable in so many ways besides just having a hard on. Real love is more than just a bang in the sack. I think deep down if sex didn't get in the way so much many more of us would have a chance to find unconditional love.
At last we are all human and all of us are at different stages. What is important today could change tomorrow. Make sure you are honest and you find a woman who is also honest enough with herself that she would be willing to say I want you no matter what.
That being said, as a woman who had to deal with this very issue already...
I'd rather not deal with the issue again.
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| 5/3/2008 10:25:57 AM | Does my Impotence make me an Outcast? | |
luvzhugz12
Richardson, TX
age: 42
| There are many other ways to please a woman than by your penis.
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