8ucute
South Lyon, MI
age: 44
| without feeling like they are liar or a player?
Meaning, skeptical is ok, but asking questions
to get to know someone making them feel as
tho they are on trial?
I want to believe in the people I meet that they are honest.
Im finding out I am skeptical of all they tell me.
How can you overcome this? I don't want to think all
I meet is lying to me? What if they are telling truth?
How you know?
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brujacakes
Albrightsville, PA
age: 36
| Take it slowwww......and be honest about your feelings. If u had a bad experience on here, explain it and let the person know why you may be unusually skeptical.
A genuine, down to earth, caring, good person, male or female should appreciate your honesty and respect your need for moving slowly.
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hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
| I think that honesty is a must here. If the person being asked feels like they r on trial then they can go to one of those bs sites. I have reciently met someone on here that we both have been very straight forward with each other. Hopefully it will continue going as great as it is. I mean why would someone want to be fake and waste time. I think every question should be truthful in order to get what you want.
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goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| The reality of it is;
If they are good liars you will be beating your head against the wall finding it out.
If they are fair liars you will find out when their stories are different each time the discussion comes about.
If they suck at lying they will be immediately visible to even the most non-attention paying souls.
If they are constant, allow for ease of access by you (when the time is appropriate) and their situations and actions appear totally viable, then you have to most probably give them sufficient leash to either draw you along safely or hang themselves with.
THE KEY IS; PAY ATTENTION, Listen, inquire, Listen, re-inquire at a later time with a slight modification of the question but which should derive the same basic answer... and LISTEN... and PAY ATTENTION....
No need to be immediately skeptical... give a chance follow the above technique and quite quickly you will be able to discern the beings viability!!!!
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8ucute
South Lyon, MI
age: 44
| hvac... have you felt as tho she dont believe
what you say? or vice versa?
great advice for me to learn.
I will totally pay attention. Thanx
[Edited 5/4/2008 9:13:30 AM]
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hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
| So far she is the woman of my dreams. We are talking alot. Sure i beleive her and think she believes me. I figure if it is meant to be just have faith and let time do the rest.
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