| 5/4/2008 10:33:01 AM | i just don't know | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| I'm going through a great depression trying to fight for custody of my children and at the same time being lonely in the feelings to have someone with me. I can not see a psychologist because if I do it can and wil be held agaisnt me in the courts eyes!!! I have had some thoughts but always fought agaisnt them, and on top of all of that right now i get my kids 30 days then my ex gets them 30 days back and fourth i have to pay her $500 a month which only leaves me about $300 a month to live on even the moths i have my children. I dont have a very good job and where I live jobs are hard to come by sorry all i juist needed to rant to help et things off my chest
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| 5/4/2008 10:37:24 AM | i just don't know | |
yolandanewell
Modesto, CA
age: 37
| I'm going through a great depression trying to fight for custody of my children and at the same time being lonely in the feelings to have someone with me. I can not see a psychologist because if I do it can and wil be held agaisnt me in the courts eyes!!! I have had some thoughts but always fought agaisnt them, and on top of all of that right now i get my kids 30 days then my ex gets them 30 days back and fourth i have to pay her $500 a month which only leaves me about $300 a month to live on even the moths i have my children. I dont have a very good job and where I live jobs are hard to come by sorry all i juist needed to rant to help et things off my chest
Actually - you may be wrong about seeking the help with a psychologist... the courts look very highly upon people remediating their lives in order to be a better parent for their children. It also sounds to me that you need to do more research on your child support situation - I know that most states calculate support according to custody...
Here is a link that may help you out...http://forum.freeadvice.com/forumdisplay.php?f=57
this is a free legal advise forum... but don't let the "FREE" fool you - most of the senior members are attorney's, judges, court clerks and police officers.
Best of luck,
Yolanda
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| 5/4/2008 10:38:17 AM | i just don't know | |
hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
| Hey rant away. my soon to be ex is driving me crazy. I rant sometimes and wish she would take a long drive off a short peir. Screw the shrinks let it out here you got friends.
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| 5/4/2008 10:39:53 AM | i just don't know | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| I have already been back to court to try to get my child support lowered and the magistrate stated i am voluntarly underemployed i have my application in at like 20 different spots within the last 6 months and nothing right now he is stating that and i cant find anything better to get more income?
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| 5/4/2008 10:46:56 AM | i just don't know | |
yolandanewell
Modesto, CA
age: 37
| so the magistrate is imputing full time wages on you, in other words,.... is he imputing your past earning capacity or is he imputing minimum wage?
However, again, most states (yours included) calculate support according to custody. You say that the children are with you 30 on and 30 off with mom - this is as close to 50% as one can get.... hopefully you aren't taking the kids outside of the boundaries of the visitation/custody order - however if you are you need to take the proof that the kids ARE with you 50% of the time and that will, in turn, adjust support.
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| 5/4/2008 10:48:44 AM | i just don't know | |
brendaj
Savannah, GA
age: 44
| Yolanda that was great advice & also very true, the courts will not look at you seeing a psychologist as a bad thing, it's usually the other way around. Of course venting on here is also another way to get it off your chest, many of us have been in the same boat you're in right now & we do understand. Sorry things are going so rough for you, hopefully it'll get better for you soon. I've been divorced almost 3 years now, My X lives next door, seldom ever sees our daughter, never speaks to our son & after all this time, still manages to make life difficult for me & totally screwed me over. 
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| 5/4/2008 10:52:42 AM | i just don't know | |
yolandanewell
Modesto, CA
age: 37
| Yolanda that was great advice & also very true, the courts will not look at you seeing a psychologist as a bad thing, it's usually the other way around. Of course venting on here is also another way to get it off your chest, many of us have been in the same boat you're in right now & we do understand. Sorry things are going so rough for you, hopefully it'll get better for you soon. I've been divorced almost 3 years now, My X lives next door, seldom ever sees our daughter, never speaks to our son & after all this time, still manages to make life difficult for me & totally screwed me over.
NEXT DOOR????? And STILL doesn't see the kids??? How the heck is that possible??? Some people just don't get it do they Brenda.... I'm sorry for your hard times too.
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| 5/4/2008 10:54:33 AM | i just don't know | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| the magistrate is the one who issued 30 days on and 30 days off he knows we are doing shared parenting and i have them half the time, he is taking it out on me because i never required her to work while we were married and she still hasnt got a job yet. another problem other then the courts about seeing a psychologists is i do not and cant afford to get insurance
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| 5/4/2008 10:55:59 AM | i just don't know | |
hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
|  If he dosent start caring there should acceddently be a house fire. You could get marshmellows and let the kids make smores.
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| 5/4/2008 10:56:20 AM | i just don't know | |
dove53
Tellico Plains, TN
age: 53
| Wow bless your heart,
Please don't do anything to hurt yourself AND your kids. It will get better. Have to trust God and he will give you what you need. God has given me so much in the last 10 yrs after my 2 kids grew up. It was very hard not having child support being paid on time if at all. Tomorrow is another day!
dove53
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| 5/4/2008 10:58:57 AM | i just don't know | |
hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
| I dont know about in Ohio but in SC if she doesnt get a job and do her part with the kids the custody battle is in the bag. Um without getting into you buisness did she want the marriage over cause that could make a difference with the money. Try to find another lawyer and get a second opinion on some of this. That magistrate sounds nuts
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| 5/4/2008 11:02:18 AM | i just don't know | |
snides20
Mingo Junction, OH
age: 26
| she is the one who wanted the marriage to end we had problems before in the past i begged her to continue to see if we can work on things and we did. The last time which was last june the day before fathers day she saiod our marriage is over i asked her if there was any way we could work it out she told me no. I said ok packed up some clothy and walked over to my brothers house which is about a 20 minute walk. When i got there he got into his car to go to my house to see if her and the kids were ok she had already packed and left the house. She upped the kids and moved to north carolina in oxford. I had to file for divorce because she wouldnt let me see my kids so that was the only option i had. Our custody and divorce casses are in ohio but she lives in north carolina
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| 5/4/2008 11:04:27 AM | i just don't know | |
yolandanewell
Modesto, CA
age: 37
| the magistrate is the one who issued 30 days on and 30 days off he knows we are doing shared parenting and i have them half the time, he is taking it out on me because i never required her to work while we were married and she still hasnt got a job yet. another problem other then the courts about seeing a psychologists is i do not and cant afford to get insurance
That's not how it works and I'm a little annoyed that this is happening to you. First of all - you cannot "require" or not "require" someone to work while married... that sounds like something your ex-wife has come up with in order to keep herself out of the work force. Second... you say it's been 6 months since you've been job searching - man I hope you've kept record of your hunt - because you re-file and claim substantial change of circumstance.. meaning increased time shared and failure by judgy wudgy to appropriately adjust the support order. Unless you are in arrears than you should be paying no money out for the period of time that you have the children in your custody. If you are in arrears then the order needs to be adjusted so that you are only paying the toward the arrearage amount during your time of custody...
Sorry - don't mean to get involved in the legal stuff.. cuz I know you're simply ranting - but it seems to me that you're getting screwed. You have to stand up and fight for these rights... utilize that free legal forum I gave you - ask only legal questions and don't get too far into feelings the way that you can do here - they will advise you on the law and tell you which forms to use and how to file them.
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| 5/4/2008 11:04:33 AM | i just don't know | |
brendaj
Savannah, GA
age: 44
| No Yolanda, some truly never do, I find it sad & extremely hurtful to our kids. I'll never understand, how anybody can be so destructive, with the minds of innocent childrens lives, much less there own flesh & blood. Some people just never grow up & truly miss out on some of the most precious gifts given to us, Our kids.
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| 5/4/2008 11:06:32 AM | i just don't know | |
hvacman278
Newberry, SC
age: 29
| Holy shit man thats big time against the law. You should f...... seriousely get someone to help you with this. She has lost her mind and it sound like the magistrae is a moron. It is obvious she doesnt care about the kids. I know all about this my soon to be ex has some of the same qualities. I told her when she almost upped and moved that if she did i would hunt her down....i better not say. Anyway let me call alawyer friend and maybe he can find something about your laws there.
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