| 5/4/2008 12:59:45 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| a little while ago i was dating this girl who lives in chicago, she was one of the better girls i dated, but distance killed the relationship, she had told me she had breast cancer, but it wasn't too bad. she seemed to hide alot of things from me, like she would go over to her friend's boyfriend's house and spend the night, something not too many of us would do down here as far as i've seen. so i broke up with her. she contacted me the other day, and she said she has two years left to live. so now i'm confused at what i should do. anyone have any ideas?
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| 5/4/2008 1:14:10 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| it's quite a dilemma.
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| 5/4/2008 1:15:41 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 32
| It is a difficult position to be in. From what you wrote it seems like you've lost trust in her. However, that doesn't mean that you can't be there for her as a friend. You don't have to be in a relationship.
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| 5/4/2008 1:19:06 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| ok, thanks.
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| 5/4/2008 1:19:43 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
| I guess when I break off with someone it's for good and I don't have any contact with them unless I absolutely have too. For an X to call me up to tell me they have cancer is like waving a carrot in front of a rabbit waiting for a bite. Why would she just call to tell you that??? Again, the carrot. That's how I see it but I don't know your whole relationship if you remained friends after the breakup. Just sounds to me that she wants you to feel sorry for her and get back with her.
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| 5/4/2008 2:28:33 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
spitfire70
Leesburg, IN
age: 37
| yeah I agree with chopperbabe..something dont seem right about that .
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| 5/4/2008 2:34:04 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
lilreba27
Atlanta, GA
age: 48
| It wouldn't hurt 2 b a friend right now I'm sure she could use 1 now. & who knows mayb she is seeing things & people & what she has done in her life in a new light & wants 2 mend some fences b4 she goes. Talk is cheap it doesn't cost u anything 2 b a friend & talk 2 her. Good luck with however u decide 2 approach this 
Reba
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| 5/4/2008 6:51:07 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| i knew i would get some help on this, thanks everybody.
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| 5/4/2008 7:06:21 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 55
| Yeah, my two thoughts already stated above. One, like Chopper, I'm thinking why call and tell you if not to check out your availability and/or remaining interest. On the other hand, if she has cancer, she may just be telling everyone, looking for support, and being a friend might be where its at. You mentioned her past behavior as perhaps a bit unusual, like staying at a friend's bf's house - in itself perhaps harmless - but I wonder if she enjoys drama.
Proceed with caution. Learn a bit about breast cancer, and treatments, and meds etc, so that you can ask her questions, and you should soon be able to find out if it is for real or not. i.e. if she has to walk the walk, she should be able to talk the talk.
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| 5/4/2008 7:10:07 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
| I'm thinkin' I have to agree with Chopper. Cancer is no joking matter. That's how I lost my late wife. But, it looks in this case like she is maybe looking for the sympathy vote. Don't get sucked back in. JMO
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| 5/4/2008 7:19:18 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
natanthecar
Atlanta, GA
age: 18
| yeah, she's only 17.doctor's say she's got two years, i told her to tell her sister to tell me when she passes.
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| 5/4/2008 8:04:24 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
dancinglynx
Reedsburg, WI
age: 44
| I tend to agree with the majority, it sounds like she's trying to see if you still have an intrest in her. My sister has had breast cancer twice. One was not the aggressive type but the other was. If it was caught early, there is a high probability that she will survive it. My sister has had the worst case senerio thrown in her lap to deal with, she's been cancer free for 3 years now. She went threw the chemo & radiation, all of it, & she's still here. Your ex is young & if she follows what her doctor says, she should survive. Good luck!
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| 5/4/2008 8:25:59 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
juniebegood
Huntington, NY
age: 53
| I would question the part where she "claims" she has only two years to live. Personally, I think her story is suspect, but on the outside chance she is telling the truth, you can just send her a card, wish her well, and tell her you're praying for her. Other than that, I'd let the situation be.
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| 5/5/2008 3:37:48 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
grobs
New Braunfels, TX
age: 37
| Its unfortunate that she came down with cancer. If you were to talk to her I would just wish her well, give her some positive thoughts and leave it at that.
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| 5/5/2008 5:52:45 PM | my ex has breast cancer, need advce! | |
mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 43
| So be decent human being and spend two years of your life being the best person you can be for her and help her to feel comfortable....its the right thing to do and you very well ,may learn much value from the experience certainly develops a person of good character
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