| 5/5/2008 5:20:17 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
1stfriendship
Atlanta, GA
age: 35
| ...well ok...you've been a shoulder for them to lean on, you listen to their hurts (also how bad they have been treated), all of their complaints. You've given them good consel/encouragement/insight and even sound wisdom on their situation(s). You didn't take nothing off of them(which helped as well) and that let them see themself(cause that's what THEY really needed).This person even admit that it helped them, because you were real like that to um.
You let them know just how beatiful they are (you even give them suggestions to help ehance their beauty inside & out and it really worked(seriously). Now the person really see their beauty coming back (after thinking they were not because of all the abuse they suffered).
The Persons gets rid of their dead weight, you helped them get's back on their feet, they even come back to life again, and yep even becomes "Drop Dead Gorgeous"... and then turns around and gives you their A** to kiss.
It makes you want to give up on uplifting, sometimes. Especially when you are just getting used.
Don't get it twisted...it aint that you need them/ or that you can't even move on...it's not wise to give someone yo A** to kiss...when they have been a huge help in your life...
I mean, feel me? I do not enjoy that...
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| 5/5/2008 7:28:56 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
| sorry
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| 5/5/2008 7:55:53 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 39
| Sounds like you created a monster 
Seriously though...you did a good thing. You helped someone gain some self-confidence and provided the safety net they needed to be able to move on with their life. I'm not condoning how you were treated, but I am suggesting an alternative perspective. Sometimes we're just stepping stones in another person's life. You fulfilled a need and a purpose in this person's life. It's not wrong to hope for a bit of gratitude, appreciation, and respect in return. At the same time, the past does not have to dictate the future...maybe she was there to be your 'practice run' so you'll be an even better support to the person you'll eventually end up with.
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| 5/5/2008 8:34:10 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 47 online now!
| generative actions are to help others help you.
what i mean is this... when you do good for others in a completely giving unselfish way, you are creating good in you.
now if you were expecting something in return. well that knocks out all the above. you had a hidden agenda....
maybe when it was near the end and she saw you not just as the person helping her. but she felt and knew you wanted something else from her. and she said no way...
could be... you have to be honest with your secret desires..... could be...
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| 5/5/2008 8:36:23 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
| A few people feel the world revolves around them and that society owes them. I help because I want to help not because I feel I have too. Once they've crossed that line of feeling I owe it to them then the relationship has been strained. I will be more reluctant to help them out in future situations. I'm not asking for a pat on the back just some respect ... not much to ask for but for a few it seems it is. 
Sorry you had to endure that ... one of life's little lessons. We can learn a lot about a person when the tables are turned.
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| 5/5/2008 8:48:26 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
tfortexas
Big Sandy, TX
age: 56 online now!
| Thats what happens you buy thier books send them to school and they wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.Win some Loose some.
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| 5/6/2008 9:48:20 AM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
1stfriendship
Atlanta, GA
age: 35
| OK let's make something clear for the young lady (w/o pics): Sweety, I'm not talking bout that twisted stuff...I understand if that were tha case...Believe me.
This person asked me for help and advice...I declined because I didn't want to be in it and I could perceive that she would get on Her feet and give me Her a** to kiss (straight usery). Do you know how many ladies offer me _______(feel in tha blank), no disrespect. I have a daughter to raise, so I'm kind of careful in that area(I don't want my child getting any wrong ideas). Hell, my exwife did me tha same way...so, go figure. Now she "Looks For Me" like 2pac...
You never heard of the quote: "...help them get on their feet, and they'll give you their a** to kiss."
never mind, but I do understand your concern...
[Edited 5/6/2008 9:51:01 AM]
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| 5/6/2008 9:53:21 AM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
juneahbug
El Reno, OK
age: 40
| Remember not all rewards are to be given on earth. Chin up and keep doing what your heart tell you to do. 
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| 5/6/2008 9:59:28 AM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
lust4love
Atco, NJ
age: 37
| Im glad you see past women like this.Most black guys do not.they are kind of old fashion when it comes to relationships.I dont mean to stereotype anyone, but white guys already know the deal.women dont even bother trying to use white guys anymore because they know they wont get very far.
i hear it in every R&B song out there.I think country boys are guilty of this too.
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| 5/6/2008 12:04:28 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
| sometimes you just happen to be there for a person at a time and place in their life.it happens but you can take the good away from it.
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| 5/6/2008 4:14:20 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
1stfriendship
Atlanta, GA
age: 35
| Oh hell no...people aren't suppose to do that to you intentionally. I promise you, this same person that i'm talking about is going to knock on my door again, when they get into another mess...asking for help. I'm going to smile and tell them "nobodies home". Probably change my number, too.
Don't forget the first part also...What would YOU do? Give it some REAL thought before you answer, now. You may have to demonstrate and prove yourself(in other words...it's BEST that YOU be REAL). 
[Edited 5/7/2008 6:47:20 AM]
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| 5/6/2008 5:14:48 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
| someone once told me "ur never more for doing less and ur never less for doing more" and i really believe that. if i was helping cause i thought the guy was gonna want to date me i would probably be a lil upset cause my investment fell thru lol, but if i was helping just cause it was the right thing to do then its ok. i dont know what she did to give u her butt to kiss so i can't really comment.
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| 5/6/2008 5:53:57 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 35
| I beleive in this motto:
Be careful who you step on while on the way up, they are the same people you have to fall on while on the way down.
If you'd like to really make a point with this person try telling him/her this:
I may have taught you what you know about the confidant you, but I didn't teach you ALL that I know. (wink) 
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| 5/6/2008 6:15:50 PM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
| lol good one, awakening! i'll remember that 
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| 5/7/2008 6:46:15 AM | What would you do when you have helped someone and... | |
1stfriendship
Atlanta, GA
age: 35
| Awake...I know, that's right Baby...
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