| 5/5/2008 10:27:45 PM | What was I thinking? | |
livinfreely
Sacramento, CA
age: 44
| Here is my story, my ex looked for me for 2 years and found me 2 months ago we talked on the phone and continued to talk every week. He now lives in a different state with his girl, he told me that he was still in love with me, I am still in love with him. We made plans for me to visit him later this month, yesterday he calls and says that it's not a good idea that I go there and that he will come here in june. I was hurt, and I've been so sad ever since. Did he blow me off, is there a future, he does have a girlfriend that lives with him now. I still love him and I'm hoping that our relationship will rekindle. What am I thinking? Please give me a few words of wisdom, encouragement, advise. Please be gentle.
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| 5/5/2008 10:40:28 PM | What was I thinking? | |
gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51 online now!
| Yup... exactly what are you thinking? or better yet, are you thinking at all?
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| 5/5/2008 10:44:06 PM | What was I thinking? | |
mariafromromani
Portland, OR
age: 40
| So, he has been looking for you all this time, while investing in other relationships?!
And he is still in love with you....I don't think so.
And you are still in love with him?!
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| 5/5/2008 10:48:35 PM | What was I thinking? | |
cosmoisin
Santa Rita, GU
age: 66 online now!
|  In Regards to weather you are thinking or NOT...
 Let's try to see this from another point of View, If a Guy wanted to entertain 2 or more women at the same time, Would it not be prudent to keep them in different States, FARR APART ???    
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| 5/5/2008 10:49:48 PM | What was I thinking? | |
suprasman01
Dayton, OH
age: 36
| Well....
My guess is that he realizes that he has your attention and if you were going to make a special trip to "see" him he has your heart too. I would say that he has a good excuse for the current woman for the time frame he is telling you that he will be your way, but has no excuse for time that he would have to "get away" from her if you were to "visit".
To put it blunt, he has moved on, but is still dog enough to try and "play" the situation to his advantage (if he sees it as an advantage, which he probably does), where he can have his cake and eat you too.
Forget about this guy, I know the feelings may be hard to contend with, but it is in your best interests, and I bet you know that.
Find a real man and move on.
No, wait a minute.....
Move on and find a real man.
Just my .02ยข
Joel
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| 5/5/2008 10:52:36 PM | What was I thinking? | |
maleni321
Decatur, GA
age: 23
| yeah you might want to be carefull cause those kind of relationship hurt the worst,,,my mom is going through something like that she met back up with this guy she was madly in love with , just so we could all hang out the sad thing is the guy is so in love with her he says he wish he never left, and that the only reason he is still with his wife is because shes sick ,,,,and has been for a while,,,cant find it in his heart to leave her.. the thing is if he left you once for someone he thought that was more important then you he might not have a problem doing it again ,,, just really be careful
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| 5/5/2008 10:58:25 PM | What was I thinking? | |
suprasman01
Dayton, OH
age: 36
| I guess the question is......
Why is he an "EX" in the first place?
Joel
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| 5/5/2008 11:08:46 PM | What was I thinking? | |
suprasman01
Dayton, OH
age: 36
| Just to add pertinence to my above post......
I have an ex, that found out she was with child after we got together, and thought it was a "sign" that she should be with the father. Then I moved on after about a year, she contacted me and said it was the worse decision she ever made, and wanted to be with me. I, being in a relationship at the time, told her I could not "see" her because I knew how I still felt. Then the relationship I was in at the time went awry and I am left wishing I knew how to get a hold of her. Although she had been using the loss of our relationship and her leaving as an excuse for her decadent lifestyle that showed itself after our breakup. I still believe she was always honest with me, but, still I sit alone. If she were willing to do the things she said she was I would not be, thus I hold her in my heart, still, and search for the partner that is willing to accept me for me, and vice-versa.
If I were to search for her I too would do "stupid" crap, and probably get hurt in the venture. Think about what AND why you make any decisions and all the possible results of the decisions you are entertaining before officially making them. That is the only way to insure YOU are in control of your destiny.
Joel
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| 5/6/2008 4:54:30 PM | What was I thinking? | |
waterstar
San Francisco, CA
age: 33
| It looks as if he only wants you for booty.
Plus, why do you want to be sloppy seconds? Altho you came before his girlfriend, that was long ago.
Move on girl, there are other men out there. And not only does he want to cheat on his girlfriend with you, whats to say that he doesnt do the same thing to you?
Don't do it. Obviously he wants his cake and eat it too. And you are not the cake.
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| 5/6/2008 6:18:24 PM | What was I thinking? | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 49
| He is living with his girlfriend?????????????? He is obviously NOT emotionally available. Are you sure you want to be the other woman???? He may come and visit but will still go back to her. Think long and hard about this.
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| 5/6/2008 6:28:51 PM | What was I thinking? | |
tfortexas
Big Sandy, TX
age: 56
| So far his plan is working.Have you ever heard about the man that was married to 5 different woman at the same time ?Just something to think about.
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| 5/6/2008 6:37:55 PM | What was I thinking? | |
misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
| i will be gentle..you don't need that or him...there is no future with him..remember he was an ex...so sorry
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| 5/6/2008 6:52:46 PM | What was I thinking? | |
snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 46
| Simple, do some back ground checking of your own. Find out just what it is he is doing. I don't think I could trust him at his word that easy, but that is me. be careful.
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| 5/6/2008 7:32:00 PM | What was I thinking? | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| I don't understand
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| 5/6/2008 7:52:03 PM | What was I thinking? | |
oncebitten83
Bankston, AL
age: 33
| I don't know about you, but I know for me, losing the one I loved was more painful than anything that I had ever been through before. I would NOT go back. I could not live through that kind of pain again and you shouldn't put yourself through it again either. Couple of points to remember:
1) If he were as in love with you as your are with him...he wouldn't be where he is.
2) He should not expect you to "wait in the wings" on him while he gets his s _ _ t together.
3) You will end up going through the same hurt, pain and loss that you experienced before.
4) After two years, you deserve to move on with your life and as long as you continue to allow him to toy with your emotions...you won't be able to.
Let it go honey, move on and find the one who you are meant to be with cause this guy isn't it.
[Edited 5/6/2008 7:52:31 PM]
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