| 5/5/2008 11:28:28 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
perfectwoman
Fresno, CA
age: 39
| I have a dear friend. She told me she has met a man of her dreams several years ago. She fell in love with him madly. He is a very decent man with great looks, manners, very smart and has a great job. I am not surprised she fell in love with him. Her brain is infatuated by him to a point that she will do everything he tells her to...because she loves him and wants to make him happy. He wants her to have fun and enjoy life and he tells her what to do so that she can enjoy herself. What bothers me as her friend, that she has not seen this man for 3 years even though he lives 3-4 hours away from her city. He finds all kinds of reasons WHY he can't see her and same time he tells her that he loves her and cares about her and that is why he keeps in touch with her. Actually, he tried to make arrangements to see her but then something happened and he "forgot" about his intentions to arrange the meeting. I felt sorry for my friend to watch her heartbroken and crying. I thought she will break with him after that. However, after a week of silence she contacted him saying she still loves him. She even rationalized that it is even nice to dream about the meeting with him and told me that she is afraid of the end. I am impressed with my friend's love to the man she has met 3 times so far. But I am concerned about her and dont want to see her in pain. What should I tell her to do?
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| 5/5/2008 11:47:41 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
startingover123
Parishville, NY
age: 57
| Serioulsy.......your friend needs to get some good professional help. Good luck
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| 5/5/2008 11:48:21 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
scottt39
Ocean View, HI
age: 45
| Tell you what give her my name and after I disrespect her, you will probable say to your self I should mind my own business and let her figure out what she wants for herself. Sure your a good friend but you must realize she has to learn things at her own pace if you try to interfere and something goes wrong who's to blame. I mad some bad mistakes and some of my friends tried to warn me but I needed to find out on my own. And those mistakes made me who I am today. Weather thats good or bad who knows.
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| 5/5/2008 11:58:02 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
crazyfunn
Westland, MI
age: 39
| as a good friend u should tell ur friend to move on !
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| 5/6/2008 12:02:22 AM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
cosmoisin
Santa Rita, GU
age: 66
|  A Gentlmen NEVER USES The Lady, every Man worth Having can and will PAY HIS OWN WAY...
 Talkng the panties off women is one thing,BUT A MAN LEADS, He May be a Partner to a woman, BUT HE DOSE NOT LIVE OFF OF HER or TAKE HER...
If it's LOVE then it's 50/50 any other way, and someone is being Used...
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| 5/6/2008 12:11:32 AM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
perfectwoman
Fresno, CA
age: 39
| In what way does he use her? He doesnt sleep with her, doesnt restrict her...And also uses for what kind of things? I think everything would be acceptable if he was seeing her regularly.
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| 5/6/2008 12:54:04 AM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
cosmoisin
Santa Rita, GU
age: 66
| Women ALWAYS were right, that is why I NEVER FOUND ONE, and there are plenty of single mom's and kid's with NO PARENTS, wel like I said ( Women are always right...  
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| 5/6/2008 2:00:54 AM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
happynessadream
San Diego, CA
age: 28
| I think he's hiding something if both haven't seen each other in three years. She should move on otherwise she is going to get hurt. There is no way why he can't see her, there is always time for everthing and if you love someone you will find time to be with that person. He's just jerking her.
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| 5/6/2008 3:58:44 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
gr8stwoman
Napa, CA
age: 41
| I couldn't agree more with happyness. He is DEFINITELY playing her; I was there a while back (but I woke up after a few months). Since she has been involved in this fantasy for a few years, it is unlikely she is going to "wake up" on her own. Good luck (and I mean that sincerely); her road ahead is a painful one.
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| 5/6/2008 4:03:05 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
freebirdvt
Milton, VT
age: 51 online now!
| Well you can lead a horse to water but you cant make them drink.....live and learn....well thats the way it happens to me....hard headed....well thats me.....Dan
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| 5/6/2008 4:10:32 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
cdw51
Old Hickory, TN
age: 51
| Maybe he forgot to arrange the meeting because he had to go somewhere with his wife!!!
Better yet, as a friend why don't you arrange a little roadtrip & surprise him one day.
JMO
[Edited 5/6/2008 4:12:26 PM]
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| 5/6/2008 4:18:35 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
llh5
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 50
| In what way does he use her? He doesnt sleep with her, doesnt restrict her...And also uses for what kind of things? I think everything would be acceptable if he was seeing her regularly.
He uses her emotions, he uses her to make him feel like he's a man, he uses her for his own selfish needs, he uses her period.
A relationship takes more then words.
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| 5/6/2008 4:56:11 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
unknownbe4you
Hillsboro, IA
age: 45
| I like the '''''Road Trip'''' idea. Maybe a bar hopping or something of a sort. Or even yard sales? Anything to get her to go with you. And say, "Hey let us stop by the male friend's house!" And not let her call him.
I welcome that to any lady that might be suspicious of me. I may flirt in a bar,,,, but I know who is at home! The one who I will love, and be with only. Hey that kinda sounds like this guy, who is trying to rule her with a woman at home with him. 
(Not with me, because they will know I am involved! The ones I may flirt with!)
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| 5/6/2008 6:35:21 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
rambo2234
Columbia, MD
age: 41
| It sounds like this man is either married or has a significant other. Take it from a man, he's got something going on. Have you thought about doing a back ground check on this person?
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| 5/6/2008 7:52:01 PM | Help my friend to sort things out | |
cosmoisin
Santa Rita, GU
age: 66
| How about you help youuuurself SORT THINGS OUT!!! 
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