| 5/8/2008 10:13:26 AM | abuse........ | |
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
| <~~~~wont tolerate it
...physical or verbal...
keep in mind, I hit like a STRONG MAN...so, he betta not even go there with me, I fight back!
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| 5/8/2008 10:15:10 AM | abuse........ | |
datdardood
Murray, KY
age: 46
| you go gurl! lol
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| 5/8/2008 10:33:12 AM | abuse........ | |
myr_jas
Quincy, FL
age: 56
| It isn't an easy situation to walk away from. You develope strong feelings, feel secure, have found someone trustworthy then outta the blue abuse starts. It overwhelms you, takes all self worth, pride, respect away from you. What will people think? OMG! It has been over 20 yrs since I had black eyes and was repeatedly called 'b*tch' but the sting still lingers. If any man raises his voice in a violent manner or calls me a name his a** is history. I'm a survivor and damn proud to one!!!
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| 5/8/2008 10:59:44 AM | abuse........ | |
mmmbaby75
Aurora, CO
age: 33
| Physical, emotional and verbal.
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| 5/8/2008 11:01:08 AM | abuse........ | |
mmmbaby75
Aurora, CO
age: 33
| It isn't an easy situation to walk away from. You develope strong feelings, feel secure, have found someone trustworthy then outta the blue abuse starts. It overwhelms you, takes all self worth, pride, respect away from you. What will people think? OMG! It has been over 20 yrs since I had black eyes and was repeatedly called 'b*tch' but the sting still lingers. If any man raises his voice in a violent manner or calls me a name his a** is history. I'm a survivor and damn proud to one!!!
Amen!
I am a fellow survivor! I didn't hear that word put to domestic violence until about a year ago, but once I heard it, I haven't looked back!!
Kudos to us!!
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| 5/8/2008 12:53:28 PM | abuse........ | |
lilreba27
Atlanta, GA
age: 48
| To bethlet
It is quite clear that u have never been there & i'm glad 4 u! 
1 fact u should kno the most dangerous time 4 a woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves ... keep that in mind b4 u judge some thing u have no clue about 
When u have a gun 2 ur head or a knife @ ur little baby girl's throat u really do not have the option 2 dail 911 @ that moment u just go into survival mode 
However as u stated once abusive always abusive, so u get out & stay out @ the 1st chance u get.... if ur lucky the guy won't kill u & God kno's who else 
Reba
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| 5/8/2008 4:21:35 PM | abuse........ | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| I was emotionally/verbally abused throughout my marriage. Those scars are NEVER visible so people have a hard time even believing it occurs BUT IT DOES!!!!!!!!!!! There were many times I wished my ex had hit me but being a cop, he knew better.
Our phone was tapped, he had me followed, I worked 2 jobs but it was never enough, plus took care of our son. I never did enough, paid enough, gave enough, worked enough.
By the time I had the strength to leave him, my self esteem was in the toilet.
It happend EVERYDAY!!!! and it takes a lot of effort to trust or love again after that.
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| 5/8/2008 5:37:49 PM | abuse........ | |
coppermare
Grady, AL
age: 48
| Nope sorry, a man would have one time to abuse me, lay a hand on me, and he'd better make sure I'm dead afterwards! I've raised my daughter the same way. As good ole Madea says, them grits are HOT
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| 5/8/2008 5:44:47 PM | abuse........ | |
freebirdvt
Milton, VT
age: 51
| Abuse never will do it to a women...I will go for a walk first and the first time she was out of the house i would remove the batt. out of her toys and hide them....oh Im so mean.....lol...Dan
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| 5/8/2008 5:47:12 PM | abuse........ | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
| I married what I thought was a wonderful man. I took my time and selected the best. It was after we had been married a year that his alcohol use escalated to 24 beers a day and his verbal and emotional abuse which started slowly ended in 2007 with a war of the roses divorce. Now I am gun shy, to say the least.
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| 5/8/2008 5:52:52 PM | abuse........ | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 47
| I'm not so sure that it's a good idea for people to line up here on the internet & expose themselves as abused. Seems to me they are just asking for the vipers & the wolves to come creeping around. An abuser has most likely done it before...who here is willing to say "Hey! It's happened to me! It might happen again! Is there a target on my back still?" JMO
[Edited 5/8/2008 5:53:56 PM]
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| 5/8/2008 6:10:55 PM | abuse........ | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| If we keep abuse in the closet then those who are victims of it feel isolated and alone. that is not the case!!!!
There are GOOD PEOPLE everywhere who have been victims and then come out stronger because of the abuse. We are not doormats because we were abused. We are SURVIVORS and need to speak out so others know they too can SURVIVE IT!
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| 5/8/2008 6:28:25 PM | abuse........ | |
myr_jas
Quincy, FL
age: 56
| Metu wrote:
Seems to me they are just asking for the vipers & the wolves to come creeping around
Sweetheart, just being online will do that. Honestly responding may keep some poor kid from enduring more than she has to. By seeing that even seemingly 'great catches' can have HUGE warts may help her go slower. My only shame comes from not being wiser, better informed & having support to get away from the abuse before it escalated. Now, I share to anyone who will listen.
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| 5/8/2008 6:35:00 PM | abuse........ | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| Survivors of abuse need to scream at the top of their lungs, "I GOT OUT AND SO CAN YOU. YOU ARE NOT ALONE"!!!
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| 5/8/2008 6:35:58 PM | abuse........ | |
awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
| I'm not so sure that it's a good idea for people to line up here on the internet & expose themselves as abused. Seems to me they are just asking for the vipers & the wolves to come creeping around. An abuser has most likely done it before...who here is willing to say "Hey! It's happened to me! It might happen again! Is there a target on my back still?" JMO
I just have to tell you...this is SAME way a real abuser would rationalize away the abused learning to stand up for themselves. You have no idea how harmful your words are to someone who might be trying to plan their escape. For I agree those who survive are stronger and far less likely to allow themselves to be abused again. Some people do learn from their mistakes.
Here's a careless thought for you...consider yourself a dismissive avoidant! Research that one and smoke on it!
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