| 5/8/2008 9:28:34 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| ROFLMBO,,,,, what is it you people don't get, they don't have to hide in the shadows, they could put a fake picture up you know, what, and YOU would know the difference if it was a fake person, the trolls could could put up a picture of their uncle bob, who the hell would know, but YOU people would think he's more credible now? LOL, unbeleivable how much crap i hear about us in the shadow suits, there are many reasons, but not the one's you accusers keep mentioning, if it were just so you couldn't see who we really are, we'd put up pics of a relative, friend, whatever photo we might have laying around, and no one would no the diff, give it a friggin break already, oh, and i LOVE to hear how we shadow people talk smack because we are shadow people, and what about the assholes with pictures that talk smack, because they have a picture their smack is okay? roflmbo.... yeah, we are hiding behind a shadow so we talk bad ass? oh brother? do you think you're picture means you aren't hiding behind a computer like the one you so accuse of doing in a shadow suit, maybe some people talk crap because they are behind a computer, it has nothing to do with a picture, i'll talk shit with a computer, without a computer, with a picture or without a picture, lots of people on the outside here would confirm that, lol.
Having a picture makes you more dateable,, roflmbo, not with some of the pictures i've seen, sorry ugly peeps are on the pics too, and they'd get more response if they were a shadow. lol....So a picture don't necessarily get you more responses, i've responded to shadows because of the profile and i have deleted some with pics well, you know, lol... Really grow up and get a reality check you people who talk shit about shadows. If they are trolls they can easily put up pics, my favorite one you all pick on glimmerman, he used to put up all kinds of pictures with different profiles? Where's the anti shadow peoples level of reasoning, it's not that hard to see the rationale and your stance on shadows to be quite unreasonable, and non-sensical (sp)
| | 5/8/2008 9:36:18 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| I can't speak for other people, but for me it's about seeing who I'm talking to. I don't care what colour your skin, hair or eyes are or how big or small you are. Cheers.
| | 5/8/2008 9:40:29 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 43 online now!
| HEy.......I agree with you. Most of the dates that I have had and the best friends that I have made are people without pictures. There are various reasons why people don't have pictures posted. My opinion...........
| | 5/8/2008 9:40:33 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 47
|  I dont mind that you don't have a picture posted. yet if you were a man and we were talking in mail I would ask for a current picture.
Before ..long ago when I chatted on line in a chat room No one had pictures!
It wasn't a problem then and its not now for me. People are people wit or without a picture.
It's just nice to have one on this site so you can see what the other looks like before hand.
Yes sometimes a picture isnt require! Doesn't mean you can't be heard or voice your opinon's. Doesn't mean you don't have a heart and it surely doesnt mean that you're not a good person.
I think all this crap ppl get over not having a picture posted is RUDE & CRUEL.
I would like to see the end of this BS! Because thats what it is BS when ppl get upset with What you post they use you're a no one cause you are a shadow. Thats just childish to say.
Seems to me people that are in the shadows as it is called here..ARE some Peoples Whipping Post!
| | 5/8/2008 9:40:33 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Flowergirl, you still aren't getting it, those eyes don't mean they are they eyes of who you are really speaking too.
Foxywoman, EXACTLY,,, i've noticed that with most of them, as you said, when they don't like what you have to say, they will start spouting off that you are "JUST" a shadow, a nobody, your voice don't mean squat, and you are only talking that way because you feel tough behind a shadow, it kills me, these are adults acting like and thinking like a little kid on the playground, that's what is the most idiotic thing of it all, it's such a child like, goofy ass type of defense, it's friggin retarded and it drives me crazy, lol. It's one thing to expect and want a picture if one is considering dating this shadow person, but just bs'n in the threads to make such an issue out of it, extrememly stupid.
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| | 5/8/2008 9:53:34 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
datdardood
Murray, KY
age: 46
| ok so the argument is that people with pics are or may not be using the true person.
whats going to happen when they end up meeting someone? the jig is up no? so whats the point? I am not sure why anyone would want to do that unless maybe the need some mental help. personaly if I encounter anyone doing that I will warn others because they must have some sort of mental prob. the thing is as long as you do not have a pic your gonna get some grief about it now and then. to some its like you are beggin for it. ignor and go on. do not let it bother you. if it bothers you so much put a pic up. if you just do not want a pic up then ignor the bs. I do not think most mean any real harm anyway..
| | 5/8/2008 9:54:25 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
tx38austin
Dallas, TX
age: 38 online now!
| people don't like to post pics for a lot of reasons. I respect if they want or don't want their pics out there. It's great to see a face behind the words, but it's ok if not and in the forums, people shouldn't get heated about it. However, if there is correspondence on a personal level via email, I ask to see a pic of them and they usually send it. Simple as that...
| | 5/8/2008 9:56:49 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| mighty defensive aren't we... lol does it bother you that much that you have to vent 
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| | 5/8/2008 10:05:36 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Bestman I just hate stupid, more than the stupid people who hate shadows, i've seen you mention this in threads about the type of people you like to communicate with, and you don't like stupid either, that comes across loud and clear from you, i can't stand to get stuck working with the stupid girl at work, or the stupid person waiting on me, you know the one's that can't reason. As i constantly put up here, it's not the dating factor, i can see wanting a pic if you are wanting to maybe date this shadow person, but just because you are priinting words on the board, for so many regulars to start slamming you, they don't want to date you, most the times they are the same sex as you, roflmbo, start chimming the schoolyard bully shit, that because you are a shadow you are dismissed, or fake, or hiding something is friggin ignorant, and you know by the reasons i have stated above, and by a few other "reasonable" people, that i'm right on that, i'm not speaking of dating, these forums are far from date attracting , they are usually dirt attracting and mud slinging, and pic or no pic, makes no differnce, just for some reason many think that is some kind of nah, nah, nah, nah, type of crap, it's stupid and juvnielle. And i know you know what i mean, cause you aren't one of the stupid ones. lol Don't be dummying up on me for just feeling cocky, lol
| | 5/8/2008 10:09:51 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 47
| dat I know many males and females that do NOT post what they look like currently.
Then when you meet face to face the one that wasnt true with their picture is very much looked down on and most times they wont have another meeting/date with that person.
If you do post a pic it should be current..Not 10-20 years ago!
Yes dat this happens all the time.
Same thing is applied with weight issue's. Many wont tell the truth and then when you meet its shock city.
So ya Shocked about not current picture and weight issue's from both men and women.
I find using a web cam Hides Nothing as far as how one looks.
| | 5/8/2008 10:15:00 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| CURIOUS You are correct. I've stated my opinion in threads before as I always do. I can careless if my upfront approached is disliked because this effects bestman how? doesn't effect me at all.
CURIOUS - Everyone has is entitled to have an opinion and it's to each's own.
just like a person has a choice to be a shadow or not for whatever reason lol. that's his/her choice, even if a person doesn't like it. life isn't a box of chocolate.
Howver, you getting worked up on the issue will not change a thing. You getting worked up on an opinionated issue is useless. Ask yourself, what will it solve??? There will still be people who have their opinions about shadows regardless of what they think of shadows and shadows think of them. 
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| | 5/8/2008 10:18:01 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| Bestman, you are so correct, i'm being stupid by letting the stupidity drive me insane, and raising my blood pressure, lol,, thanks i did need that kick in the pants. It really does nothing but keep the same ol shit going only making a bigger pile. So true, TY lol
| | 5/8/2008 10:19:09 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
| you are welcome Curious. glad i can be of help. if you need me to kick you in the pants. just let me know 
as a side note:
I always use energy on things that I can control and not divert my energy on things i can't control. 
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| | 5/8/2008 10:21:57 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | | 
22br40
Middleport, OH
age: 50
| Attraction is multifaceted. We use the sense of smell, touch and sight to make a determination about people. When seeking a mate sight is very important in reading a response to your input. Looking for this response is instinctive. Even seeing a poor picture satisfies the sight response mechanism we all have.
| | 5/8/2008 10:42:49 AM | Relative Reasoning in the Shadows | |
curious70000
Wyandotte, MI
age: 46
| 22br40 i've made quite clear the shadow subject at hand isn't about dating them, but about how they are treated simply from posting in the forums, i realize i was babbling on big time, but you can tell by even a speed read the topic of shadows isn't about dating, i can surely see wanting a pic of someone you would want to date, it's about the treatment recieved by so many on just yapping in the forums, and how a pic is actually mute? I wonder how many more of these i will get, that's anothter thing about these forums, very little people actually read the topic or stay on topic of the OP, it's about SPEAKING with shadows, not dating them, i don't see hook ups going on in the forums, i see chat going on in the forums. And the hookups you hear of,,,,check this, man,the dude didn't look like his picture at all, he was 5'2" not 6'2" like his profile and pic looked, or damn, the picture looked like she was 39,, when she came to the door she looked 69 and 100 lbs heavier, time and time again, on the forums you do not hear about good experiences from the date sites, or hear that the pictures are true representations of those who hook up, quite the opposite, but since you wanted to take it off topic on the dating of a shadow, i beleive they should exchange pics, and current ones, not the horror stories i've heard how people when they meet , look nothing like their pic.
Bestman, lol, i will keep you in mind, the next time i need it, lol
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