| 5/9/2008 11:04:33 AM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
loanarranger
Springfield, MO
age: 60
| Before all of you start sending me messages that start with "I am online to make new friends..." let me say that I understand that "no one goes online to find a mate, ok?" (wink, wink) In my case, sadly, I did go online to find a mate, only to be disappointed over and over again. Ok, maybe it could be my fault, but I would rather blame the women! My ego can't stand too much honesty! Haha! Seriously, guys, I have a tip for you: when you hear this phrase, or some variant of it, RUN, RUN, RUN!!! "I'm too busy!" Remember, I warned you!
| | 5/9/2008 11:56:31 AM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
bones01
Bluewater, NM
age: 59
| Well Loany, I must be the lucky one then. No Dates. Talked to a couple of nice ladies via E-mail and even talked to one on the phone but we really shared no common interests and when I pointed that out to her she just got mad, and I was very polite about it. I don't see why anyone should suffer a broken heart over a person they just met. If it works,fine. If not, Oh well!
| | 5/9/2008 11:59:40 AM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
sugasouth
Oak Ridge, TN
age: 59
| I've dated a lot of guys on here. Profiles lie
Just a couple who I would consider keepers.
If I say I'm too busy, I'm just that. It's not a brush off
But.......I am a busy person.
| | 5/9/2008 1:10:58 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | |
loanarranger
Springfield, MO
age: 60
| With all due respect, I'll stick to my original statement. "Too busy" means "I've got no place in my life for you." And yes, some work, some don't. It's a "Love Crap Shoot"
| | 5/9/2008 1:16:49 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
xtraspecialtn
Knoxville, TN
age: 58
| But as a friend of mine used to say on a chat room: I like my online boyfriend... I don't have to cook or clean and he HAS to talk to me!!!
I've also had to remind people when they start 'falling' for someone they haven't met yet... REMEMBER - IT AIN'T REAL 'TIL YOU MEET!!! 
(Don't get me wrong... I AM looking for the real thing!)
| | 5/9/2008 1:19:50 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
hma02
Chico, CA
age: 68
| Oh I agree with you Loan and I am as guilty as anyone else
of being too busy. However, it isn't an excuse, with going to school
getting ready to have surgery and everything that goes on I am busy
I don't think I am Too Busy but I have been told that there is no room in
my life for any one
[Edited 5/9/2008 1:39:03 PM]
| | 5/9/2008 1:31:10 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | lotsafuninpa
Tioga, PA
age: 67
| It's not an excuse I ever use--but I do have all of my own work to do inside and out,but will definitely take the time out for someone ----if it's the right one-----
have a great evening--hugs--lotsafun
| | 5/9/2008 1:34:46 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | slainte08
Mohawk, NY
age: 65
| I think there as equally as many lines as there are people who use them....for any given set of reasons....this being just one.
[Edited 5/9/2008 1:35:24 PM]
| | 5/9/2008 1:51:41 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | ldy_4evertru
Indianapolis, IN
age: 68
| If I say I'm too busy, that's exactly what I mean! Don't see any point in lying. I'm not here looking for a mate, just interested in dating and meeting new men for friendship and possibly, romance if that special one comes along.
I've been single and on dating sites off and on, for years, and have never yet had my heart broken online. Explain how one can get heartbreak from non-dating. Not sure I understand that!
But I do have a very full life and am not always available to meet new men. My life does not revolve around dating.   
| | 5/9/2008 2:21:33 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | _simplicity_
Knoxville, TN
age: 61
| I have found if you are to busy you can always invite them over to help you get some of the chores done...nothing makes for more laughter than sharing
| | 5/9/2008 3:27:53 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | |
hma02
Chico, CA
age: 68
| Well I do realoze that I am busy but it has never kept me from doing whatever I wanted and I can't see where it would keep me from having a relationship.
I am no busier than I was when I was married and raising 4 children and I found time to keep a relationship new and fresh then. So why Is it any different now?
| | 5/9/2008 3:53:34 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | ldy_4evertru
Indianapolis, IN
age: 68
| I would never be too busy to have a relationship. But as in being too busy at any one certain time to meet a new man with the intent of dating, that happens sometimes.
That is unless that is the only important thing in your life that takes up your time. I have a family, activities that I'm involved in, a schedule that I try to keep full enough to keep me as busy as I want to be. So I'm definitely not willing to put all of that aside just to meet any man who would want to meet me.
When I'm in a relationship, he is very much involved in my life, so I would make time for us to be together. Maybe I misunderstood the thread! I thought it was about having time for someone new in your life.
Example: There were three men I was scheduled to meet in November. However, when I found out that family members would be coming here for Thanksgiving, I put it off until after the holidays simply because I knew I would be very busy until then. There were many things I had planned before I agreed to meet the men, and with the family coming, I knew I just would not have time to meet them. That's what I mean. They didn't take it as a negative. There were no hurt feelings, and when the time was right, I did eventually meet them. No problem.
On the other hand, if it's someone I just don't want to meet, I let them know that. No need to lie and say I don't have time.
(Edited to add on to my comment)
[Edited 5/9/2008 4:07:29 PM]
| | 5/9/2008 3:56:09 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | _simplicity_
Knoxville, TN
age: 61
| hma you said it perfectly.
as did ldy_4
| | 5/9/2008 4:33:10 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
vitaminray
Cayuga, NY
age: 66 online now!
| Howdy. Thanks for this thread because it made me think and now you have the burden of reading some of the thoughts generated. Perhaps another name might be True Confessions. So, here goes: I believe that every wise person, regardless of our age, makes preparatory steps throughout life to ascertain that all suggestions given, facts that exist, and many possibilities (good or bad) are considered before making decisions that are binding. I also realize that there are stages in life which show up at various times due to situations or conditions that have changed both our selves and our lives as we once knew it. Now for the record the stages of life I am thinking (at least for me) would be Lust, Rust, and Dust. The important thing here is not to be driven into action because of the stage we find ourselves in. My opinion is that lust can be a loaded distractor and rust certainly is no fun, and lastly, dust is only for the dead. I also recognize that I only have 24 hours each day like all of us, but too, I have found out that I always have the time to do things that I DESIRE to participate in. I also have House work, Yep; Outside work Yep; Sewing, yep, Maintenance of house and vehicles plus mower etc., Yep; Shopping, yep; Cooking, Yep; Washing me and my clothing plus a host of other things that come with being single, Yep, yep, yep, and Yep! I have found out that I willingly take time or make time to meet and greet those who catch my interest and me their interest. What happens, happens in the “scratch & sniff” process giving evidence of a match or no match outcome. Prior to this time of meet and greet I try not to form preconceived opinions or fantasies. Why? Because I believe that each one of us could be or are in essence comparison shoppers when it comes to finding someone SPECIAL. I think being locked into making comparisons can be detrimental to forming healthy relationships (my opinion). Oh, to be young and innocent again; just to believe that all things will work out if WE together focus on how to live out a brand new chapter of our life with a brand new page of life with each of us being a committed partner and is one trustworthy partnership who loves to be loved in a total and all inclusive love. Well, thanks for the mental workout ... good day
| | 5/9/2008 4:35:30 PM | The Heartbreak of Online "Non-dating" | | 
jwp99
Sterling, CO
age: 63
| Too busy: please wait: my yard needs watered, cut, raked, my sink is plugged, my utility company needs a check, my cupboards are empty and it is shopping time, my car broke down, the town hall meeting is a little later, my computer needs a new memory card, my floors need vacuumed, the dishes need done, I have nothing clean to wear, the bed is unmade, the cat wants food, the oven needs cleaned, dust is everywhere, there is a spill on the kitchen floor, can't find what I want in the basement, the neighbor broke her leg and needs some help, it is garbage day, there is a sale at Pennys, someone is knocking on the door, Mother's day is around the corner, the kids need a babysitter, I ran out of stamps, there is alfalfa's in my hair, social security needs my life history, my vegetables need planting, my garden needs annuals, OMG I am out of coffee, the boob tube is streaking, a storm killed my strawberries, my inbox is a spammer's paradise.
Now do I have time for a leisurely bath? ........but I will find time to talk to someone who can understand that my days, like theirs, is full of life. 
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