| 5/10/2008 1:28:14 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
areallady1
Monroeville, PA
age: 43
| I met someone online and we have chatted a few times and met in person. There isnt any romantic chemistry brewing. However, he has asked me if I would accept a massage from him. Am I being too harsh by thinking that this is an intimate thing and should be experienced by people who are on that level? What do you think? What would you do or say? Are there are any takers: I will be glad to refer you. 
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| 5/10/2008 1:35:46 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
ann38
Ellijay, GA
age: 38 online now!
| Maybe this is his way of saying he is trying toi get things to the next level and you have not been able to notice it because being friends has got a bit comfertable for you.
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| 5/10/2008 1:38:58 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 47 online now!
| unless its your mother, sister, or a brother from working out and he doesn't have a girlfriend and its the neck and shoulders, well to everyone else it is intimate.
people who do this for a living, like my sister says, you can give two kind of massages, one that does stimulate a sexual response, and one that doesn't.
she said her problem was trying to figure which one was which when doing it to someone else.
a man you never met before... hmm.... you already know the answer...
i would say unless it was flirting... to test the waters to see what kind of person you are, i would say adios...
if it was flirting, no harm. put him in the hey thanks for the offer, but i would only allow that if you were someone special to me.
and as i do not know you, we are not on that level... ect....
if he gets mad. block him. and move on.
if he draws back, it was a flirt. and you still can proceed to get to know each other...
[Edited 5/10/2008 7:35:57 PM]
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| 5/10/2008 1:51:45 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
darbie59
Whitby, ON
age: 48
| If there was not the chemistry id say thanks but no thanks. Let him know where your standing at this point. Can't blame a man for trying.
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| 5/10/2008 2:47:17 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
age: 42
| I swear it wasnt me that offered the massage to her! 
i wouldnt let him massage you on a first meeting. if you meet and end up getting along great, even just as friends, then maybe a short massage would be ok. fully clothed of course!
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| 5/10/2008 6:39:56 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
| I met someone online and we have chatted a few times and met in person. There isnt any romantic chemistry brewing. However, he has asked me if I would accept a massage from him. Am I being too harsh by thinking that this is an intimate thing and should be experienced by people who are on that level? What do you think? What would you do or say? Are there are any takers: I will be glad to refer you.
If he's not a professional masseuse then I would say that it would be a sensual overture. If there is no chemistry he is at least trying to concoct some chemical stimulation.
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| 5/11/2008 9:10:53 AM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
klyn317
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 43
| Hmmmmm, sounds like you and I are talking with the same person. I haven't met him yet. I am not sure that I would accept it because I think he wants it to be more than just a massage. If you don't feel comfortable about it, (which it sounds as thou you are not comfortable) don't allow it.
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| 5/11/2008 10:01:07 AM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
areallady1
Monroeville, PA
age: 43
| I dont know if we are talking with the same person or not but that is how the dating games goes. I find a way to avoid being hurt or disappointed is to date with the intention of becoming close friends only. Therefore,when romance enters into the relationship you know each other well enough to not worry about who else he is talking to. I do want to say to you that I am not currently interested in anyone on the DH.So go for your man. Good Luck.
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| 5/11/2008 10:36:20 AM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
njman
Jersey City, NJ
age: 49
| may i ask whats the big deal about replying and say, no thanks, do you loose your reputation ?? honor, dignity, morality, money ??????????????????? this is madness and in plain english arrogant jmho 
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| 5/11/2008 10:38:47 AM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
age: 46
| If there was no chemistry, why bother? Not sure I understand.
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| 5/11/2008 10:42:00 AM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25 online now!
| I might/would ONLY consider it if we had gotten to know each other, felt comfortable around each other, had reached "that level"..again: only if we were involved.
Other than that...  .
Politely turn down the request/offer..if you feel something in your gut/you're uncomfortable, go with it.
unc
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| 5/11/2008 7:30:36 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
areallady1
Monroeville, PA
age: 43
| Thanks for your responses. My point in posting here was to not only get some other point of views but to also share these opinions with the subject so that he sees how others would feel. Its better to walk away with a friendship with someone who respects you for accepting "NO" rather than push the massage issue and end up with nothing at all.
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| 5/11/2008 7:41:19 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
theclamdiggler
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 31
| not all people are bad just meet in public and then make your own mind up.
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| 5/11/2008 8:10:04 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
bellinghamster
Bellingham, WA
age: 26
| A massage is to get you in bed- friends dont ask to massage you- they might ask you to massage them if they have an injury.
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| 5/11/2008 8:17:28 PM | Would you accept a massage from someone you met on line | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| massage is too intimate for me. I'd have to really like and trust someone to have them jump on my back and rub me down. So i don't see anything wrong with you expressing your appreciation for the offer but declining. Also now.. you get to observe his reaction to the word no.. and see how much he respects you and that word.
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