| 5/11/2008 4:50:14 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
nevyn
Prattville, AL
age: 64
| I came across this article in my own personal quest for finding a special 'someone'. I think it is very accurate. (articlecity.com/articles/relationships/article_1546.shtml)
Dating sites that spin the personality profile as the definitive solution for matching singles are no substitute for actually spending the time getting to know the other person. There is no conclusive evidence that personality matching really works. Really getting to know one another is the best solution. There are no shortcuts to finding love. There are, however, tools that make it more fun, safe, and convenient for meeting other singles. Pick an online dating service that offers the most and the latest tools for meeting singles. Be prepared to put some time in on developing your online relationships. Log onto your dating service and hang out in the chat room, send casual messages to other singles that you would like to learn more about. Remember online relationships can be very fulfilling and long-lived. Give them the time they deserve.
What do you think?
 This rose is for that special someone 'wherever or whoever' she is.
[Edited 5/11/2008 4:52:45 AM]
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| 5/11/2008 4:59:38 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
freebirdvt
Milton, VT
age: 51
| never met a bad women yet.....and any women who will put up with my bullshit....well she will be one hell of a women to me...but I do love a women thats keeps her heart in the bedroom no posted to the world....I guess we all have our dreams....Dan
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| 5/11/2008 5:22:32 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
lovesflowers2
Fort Smith, AR
age: 47
| Thanks for the info...and how correct it is...in this "instant" world we don't take the time to get to know one another...it's a WOW...Hello...Love you...and what the he** did I do?
We at this age (and I’m talking about mine) come with baggage, memories (good and bad) and fear of the unknown...so yes take time...it's hard...we're lonely (or we wouldn't be on this site or any other) but look at the future...not the present...look at the person...look, listen then feel.
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| 5/11/2008 5:42:03 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
| When u find out what works please tell me cause I am doing this all wrong. All I am meeting are liars/phonies/players.
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| 5/11/2008 5:45:08 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
unc005
Seagrove, NC
age: 25 online now!
| Meeeeeeeee too, pic! ESPECIALLY the liars/players...just downright damn CHEATERS       !
unc
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| 5/11/2008 6:02:10 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
freebirdvt
Milton, VT
age: 51
| never lose faith in the good people.......and dont expose you heart so easy..cause sometimes this could be a big mistake......keep you heart true to your self....and if others dont like oh put your name a the list with others....lol life goes on....Dan
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| 5/11/2008 6:14:56 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
aka_neo
Marathon, FL
age: 51 online now!
| Commendable nevyn .
This thread can be of great assistance to many.
Get to know who it is ,you wish to know .
Even the cheaters ,liars and phonies will make themselves known in time.
If ,one is patient and knows what they wish ,need and desire their match can be found
or ,if nothing else a good friendship can be formed through date sites .
One must pay close attention ,be on the look out for the deceivers here and those who only wish to play head games.
I met my current best friend Christina through a date site.
Now I just need to meet my best friend ,partner and lover .
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| 5/11/2008 6:20:52 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
defiantlyltr
Stroudsburg, PA
age: 46
| UhhUUm!!!!! teeheeheehee
Yes! It's true that on-line dating sites can be a good source for many to meet and
make new friends or potential love interests and/or partners.
The one HUGE problem that is faced with online sites is the proximity factor and
the fact that one meets too many wonderful and interesting people far, far away from home!!
THEN WHAT?!?
The decisions can be very difficult to make!
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| 5/11/2008 6:30:04 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
jp_and_3
Bethlehem, NH
age: 51
| I think the online sites are a nice way to make an initial contact with someome that you perhaps would never have met but...it sure cannot take the place of spending time with someone and learning about each other. The same way you would do it in any other situation. It only opens doors that would not have been accessible before the internet.
It is tough to meet and persue a friendship/relationship with someone miles away when you have commitments at home that can't be broken. I am one of the lucky ones that "if" I should ever meet that someone special, I could travel, relocate ect.. without hardship.The hard part is getting to the point in the relationship that would make you secure enough to gamble your current life with uprooting it to find a new one.
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| 5/11/2008 6:34:06 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
katrina_sq
Mena, AR
age: 39
| I think the quote is very accurate. I live in a small, dry town in rural Arkansas, and I came here with my ex. I don't know many people, and have nowhere to really meet people other than work and church. Internet dating sites are a great venue to connect with people you may want to meet. I have gone out with 2 men I met online and had a good time. I have also met someone from here that I am meeting this week, and he is a great guy, so I have very high hopes. For any relationship to work, you have to be willing to spend time with them, get to know them, accept them for the quality person they are, and be willing to do the work to keep it fulfilling for both people. There are no shortcuts to building a relationship. The internet makes it easier to find people you want to met, but the rest is up to you.
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| 5/11/2008 6:36:23 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
dar3407
Glen Burnie, MD
age: 50
| I'm not sure what really works yet on finding that special someone, because I haven't found HIM!!!! But I do know that a lot of people on here lie(and I'm not saying all people)but there are alot of nice people on here that commuicated with other people once you get to know them in the forums and they help pick out the liars!!! So make some friends on here and that will help finding out about some other people before you waste your time on someone. That happened to me I through out the bait because I heard about a player on here and I found out the truth when I refused to talk about sex on the phone and I blocked him from harrassing me anymore!!! So at least I had some help on here with friends so I'm not wasting all my time with a loser that only wants sex from someone. So keep your chin up and you'll find someone!!
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| 5/11/2008 6:52:11 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
justdancin
Tomball, TX
age: 51
|  Karma? If we could answer that, I suppose we wouldn't be here. Then again, I'm spending more time writing posts, than I am searching profiles ... that rarely say anything anyway or if they do, it's turned out to be false imfo. I have to agree with pichick712 & unc005 ... it seems that a majority are just looking to get laid (& aren't too particular by whom). If that were the case, I would join the bar scene ...albeit, first I would have to find them. I've only been to one here and that was to pick up a friend who'd left her car to be repaired next door. Wouldn't work ... I hate crowds, being alone in one and don't drink (to loose those inhibitions).
Let me know when you figure it out, OK? peace
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| 5/11/2008 7:23:07 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
nevyn
Prattville, AL
age: 64
| There was someone I met (on another site) and took out on a few dates. It did not turn out well but I learned a lot. The major lesson for me was to make sure I have spent A LOT OF TIME in chat and email and phone before meeting for the first time. I know most of us are lonely and probably a little to anxious to go out: don't do it unless you really know the person's likes, dislikes, background, health, family life, goals, attitudes etc. Its a long list an maybe others can add to it.
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| 5/11/2008 7:50:32 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 60
| I am also in a "pickle" because I moved to a small town with my ex and now the guys here are all in the "nearly dead" category with nothing but huge egos. Hey, even though I am 60, I am NOT desperate, ok?
I make my dates for breakfast on the first meet where I meet them at the restaurant. That way, if there is no chemistry in person or if he turns out to be a perv, I can make it short, drive away and still have the rest of the day ahead of me. This may sound cruel, but it is what it is. Breakfast is a lot less expensive than dinner and it weeds out the overnight drunks.
As for dating sites and the net, since I met my ex online, I am really really really gun shy.
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| 5/11/2008 7:54:47 AM | What works in finding that special someone? | |
justmemaree
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
| What works in finding that special person???...........let me see..................if i knew that I wouldnt be on this dating site..............lmao............ sorry......I had to go there,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 
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