| 5/12/2008 12:45:05 PM | What should I do? | |
bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24
| I've been dating this girl for like 3 months or so. We've been friends for 5 years, best friends for 3 and we've dated before, so I know she's telling me the truth when she says she can't get pregnant due to some ovarian problem. But she's been showing ALL the signs of pregnancy the last 2 weeks. Should I ask her to get tested and get her hopes up for such a long shot? (she desperately wants kids)..Or just ignore it?
I mean I guess I could just ask her to pee on me one night and pull out the dipstick and test her myself without her knowing..but I'm not a big fan of the whole "pee on me" thing, ha.
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| 5/12/2008 1:08:35 PM | What should I do? | |
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
| What are the signs that she is having?
Just go buy her a pregnancy test and have her do it....
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| 5/12/2008 1:15:58 PM | What should I do? | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| Yeah, buy the kit and then talk to her. I'd be taking my partners health more serious than my own.. but, i'd respect that it's her body.. not mine. But she'd know all my worries. that's for sure!
You worried she'll take offense cus you think she has a bulge lol? .. well .. i guess maybe the covert stick and getting peed on is not such a bad idea after all lol
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| 5/12/2008 1:17:00 PM | What should I do? | |
bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24
| Craving weird foods, smelling smells that nobody else around us can smell..and being right about it. Occasional morning sickness (atleast I think..she never feels good in the morning but doesn't always puke.) Hormonal as hell and I can't remember the last time she got her period.
I can't just buy the test and make her take it. Anytime I even mention the word 'pregnant' she either cries or gets pissed off at me.
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| 5/12/2008 1:19:13 PM | What should I do? | |
fryyyy
North Kingstown, RI
age: 49
| there is health issue here.. you have to do something.
have her go see a doctor. or bite the bullet and get that test... either way she should probably go see a dr.. there's abnormal things here.. and you need to know why before it has time to complicate .. get worse.. etc.
edit added this before any other posts'
it is her body.. her decision.. but if your married to her.. you probably should have some influence on that decision.
i'd talk to her.. share your concerns and decide what to do after she decides what to do.
[Edited 5/12/2008 1:21:36 PM]
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| 5/12/2008 1:23:48 PM | What should I do? | |
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
| Craving weird foods, smelling smells that nobody else around us can smell..and being right about it. Occasional morning sickness (atleast I think..she never feels good in the morning but doesn't always puke.) Hormonal as hell and I can't remember the last time she got her period.
I can't just buy the test and make her take it. Anytime I even mention the word 'pregnant' she either cries or gets pissed off at me.
Well then, wait it out....you'll know sooner or later
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| 5/12/2008 1:41:39 PM | What should I do? | |
olderblueeyes
Morganton, NC
age: 52
| If you 2 have been friends for a should along time now, WHY r U asking us and not her?????
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| 5/12/2008 2:18:03 PM | What should I do? | |
bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24
| If you 2 have been friends for a should along time now, WHY r U asking us and not her?????
Please, I'm not bilingual. Can you speak English? There are translation sites that can help you out if you're not sure on a word.
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| 5/12/2008 2:45:41 PM | What should I do? | |
sitkarains
Sitka, AK
age: 48
| Well OP you state you have been friends for many years and now are BF and GF. Some of the things you are mentioning could be pregnancy or may not be either.
One thing that comes to mind. With her emotions could there be a slight chance if she is that you are not the Father. That could be an added stress level for. I am not saying it is. But just throwing out something to think about.
In a nutshell IMO you have two options. You can force the issue of her either being pregnant or not. Which if she isn't you could alienate her. IF she is and you are not the daddy you could cause a problem in the relationship.
You can just wait it out. Since if she is trust me you will know soon enough.
Also I am a bit confused if you have been friends this long, you have also dated before, is there a communication problem? I think before any relationship can grow it needs to have communication.
good luck
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| 5/12/2008 2:51:46 PM | What should I do? | |
daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
| I ain't like she's got the flu and it will just go away, sooner or later "BIG DADDY" may be more than just a screen name. But seriously if she thinks she can't get the big "P" it could be sings of something else really going wrong, wiating to find out is not a good idea
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| 5/12/2008 3:05:55 PM | What should I do? | |
pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38
| By all the signs you have described she is likely pregnant....
She needs to take a pregnancy test- they are inexepensive and very accurate - and if it is positive she needs to start care. I had all of the above except for severe morning sickness - tho I did at times experience moments of Nausia. You and her need to find out and start dealing with "reality."
Don't put it off. Be Sensitive, understanding with her, Listen, be reassuring with hugs and a shoulder if she needs it. Don't get angry with her. You both need to start working through this, together (I hope).
Prayers & Peace!
P.Win
[Edited 5/12/2008 3:07:09 PM]
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| 5/12/2008 3:11:54 PM | What should I do? | |
bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24
| One thing that comes to mind. With her emotions could there be a slight chance if she is that you are not the Father.
Always a possibility..but I doubt it. We've both been busy with college, and spend all our free time together. Now she just goes to work and comes home.
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| 5/12/2008 3:14:28 PM | What should I do? | |
bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 24
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Also I am a bit confused if you have been friends this long, you have also dated before, is there a communication problem? I think before any relationship can grow it needs to have communication.
good luck
No, we dated for a few months like 4 years ago. My father passed and I went through an awkward stage, we broke up, I joined the Army and met my now ex-wife. I moved back home, and here we are.
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| 5/12/2008 3:20:04 PM | What should I do? | |
ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
| bigdaddy...with all of my pregnancies, the early signs were tender (sore) breasts, excessive urination. then came the nausea and the hormonal emotional roller coaster that lasted the entire pregnancies. When the doctor examins a pregnant woman and performs a pelivc on her, he sees a "bluing" color of the labia and inner fold areas. Some women experience increased appetites or lack of appetite. Sensitivity to certain odors even fragrances that didnt bother her before, suddenly become bothersome. Good luck with this one..
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| 5/12/2008 3:22:16 PM | What should I do? | |
virgomomof1
Brunswick, ME
age: 35
| Personally, I would talk to her. We wouldn't know whether she's pregnant or not. Do you 2 have a hard time communicating? If you 2 are close/best friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, I don't undersand why you can't discuss this with her. Just my opinion..
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