| 5/16/2008 1:28:20 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
wimsie
Manchester, NH
age: 58
| Don't Know why guys I have met are so impatient to meet.Sounds like there looking for more than I will give.I kidda like to know alittle about the guy first.Whats up with them?
[Edited 5/16/2008 3:02:20 PM]
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| 5/16/2008 5:36:04 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
kel66
Warrenton, VA
age: 45
| Thank you, den, I liked your post and agree with it 100%.
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| 5/16/2008 5:37:57 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
barbara1
Reston, VA
age: 51
| It's always good to know that there is chemistry early on in a relationship.Chemistry is very important and it is one of the important factors in a relationship.
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| 5/16/2008 6:17:53 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 47 online now!
| Never really thought about meeting someone within a couple days. I would want to know something more about them before i decided to do that.
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| 5/16/2008 6:31:59 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| never met anyone less then a couple of weeks or months
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| 5/16/2008 6:33:47 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
wimsie
Manchester, NH
age: 58
| Thanks, I met a guy after a week and he was nice but he got to attached.I hate hurting anyones feeling but it was to fast and I had to back off. Now I'm trying to go slow and that is not working.I must be talking to the wrong guys. Whats up with this?
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| 5/16/2008 6:49:05 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
magtag
East York, ON
age: 41
| Personally I prefer to meet as soon as possible. Not a full blown date, but a coffee or drink for an hour, just to see how it goes. I don't want to play around chatting on line endlessly only to find out that 3/4 of what I've been told is bull, or find out that he's married (living with wife or girlfriend...even having a girlfriend in all actuality would mean the same to me) or find out that he's playing around and NEVER intends to meet, etc.
If you meet someone on the street, at work, in a bar, at a club or a place where you enjoy a hobby...and find them interesting, attractive, having potential, what do you do? Typically you exchange phone numbers in order to say hello and arrange a date. The dating is where you get to know the person right?
So why online do we insist on stretching the "first introduction stage" on for days, weeks and months? With exception of the LDR, which may require a little longer online time in order to coordinate a meeting in the first place, of course. This just seems to open a large number of doors for "players" to get in, it's just not "real" to me. I'd rather do "real life" sooner than later. I want a real relationship, not an online one.
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| 5/16/2008 6:54:26 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46
| I waited 2 months the first time.....it was a blow out! Now I am shooting for 6mos. My thinking is either it will die out before the big leap or once the leap is made, it will be difficult comming out of it any less than very good friends. JMO
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| 5/16/2008 7:07:05 PM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48 online now!
| IMO if they want to meet right away it is for a booty call and they can just move on. I know what I want and am willing to wait. I won't meet someone until I am comfortable with them and the time it takes depends on each individual. First meeting I like to be in an area I'm familiar with, not trailing off to God knows where to meet essentially a stranger. Not putting myself in a compromising situation. If a man can't understand that then I don't need him in my life. Gonna be alone forever aren't I? LOL Ah well, such is life.
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| 5/18/2008 8:17:54 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
kel66
Warrenton, VA
age: 45
| I hear ya, Garnet, I feel like you do in that what I'm looking for is not going to happen, either. Such is life, what can we do that we haven't already?
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| 5/18/2008 8:36:48 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
bestdadintexas
Marshall, TX
age: 42
| I think it goes in line with just how constructive the conversations have gone. You may be putting enough out there while talking that the guys become very anxious to meet this wonderful lady in person.The more likable you portray yourself then a guy is certainly going to want to meet sooner than you feel comfortable. If he lacks patience then you can count that a red flag. But.... remember as one other already said,it is better to discover early. We guys are anxious most of the time if we are likeing what we SEE and learn. If the conversations have not been that constuctive or full of learning I imagine you can red flag a guy wanting to rush a meeting.But give it consideration if the man has been fairly open and you feel you can trust what you are hearing from him.You might be surprised at the fun dates you may pass by being overly hesitant. But on the other had you may find yourself saying thank God I met him now,lol.It is a judgement call I guess. Make the most of the communication and try making a read on what he is revealing about who he is. What out for the pressure. If he is pressing rather than being a gentleman rebait and start over.
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| 5/18/2008 8:40:20 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
justdancin
Tomball, TX
age: 51
| 2 days??  No ... weeks maybe, I can afford weeks. I want to know something about them first. Furthermore, my schedule doesn't include making plans for 'days', I need time to arrange and rearrange things and usually that means weekends ... the one after the next. 
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| 5/18/2008 9:12:06 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48
| I would rather wait before meeting, in fact, I prefer to speak on the phone at least once also before we meet. Sometimes when you say no to a quick meeting with the guy, they are gone in a flash, easy to see what they wanted then.
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| 5/18/2008 9:14:36 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| 2 days?
Oh hell no!
I've got a 12 year rule myself!
Well maybe we can meet in 11
but I've got to really like you!
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| 5/18/2008 10:58:13 AM | Why not get to know someone more than 2 days before meeting? | |
goodforfun51
Virginia Beach, VA
age: 53
| In all reality, this thread really blew me away!
Amazingly, should you happen across someone you feel attracted to at the market or on an evening out, and there appears to be a chemistry there, you wouldn't hesitate to give up the digits (phone number) and when called the desired next day, make plans for the following weekend. What happens when this happens on a Thursday nite out with the gals?
You are on a date (extended meeting period) by Friday or Saturday!!!!
So, if there appears to be an attraction between you both, be in internet or personal meeting why is a few days any different due to the meeting medium (the internet)???
Is it truly any safer via a personal "haooening across" NO! Did you have time to "check out that person" NO!!!! so, lets just realize do things either way as safely as possible and you never know, you might just run across that special someone. JMHO
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