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8/25/2012 2:31:41 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
inkedbeauty1
Charlotte, NC
39, joined Jun. 2012


If you are not working and or living on someone 's couch,should you really be trying to date or start a relationship?




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8/25/2012 2:33:59 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

cajunmister
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,035)
Kinder, LA
66, joined May. 2007


But look at all these posts that say it ain't about the money JS

8/25/2012 2:35:17 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
tica5656
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,133)
Tigre
Argentina
36, joined Sep. 2011


I don't spend time telling others what to do with their life.....so I could care less.

I'm just glad I have my job and that I love it.

8/25/2012 2:35:44 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

rubberbanman
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,157)
Sherman, TX
42, joined May. 2011


Well if they're not trying to date YOU,why do you care?

8/25/2012 2:36:41 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
2muchfreetime
Rochester, MN
57, joined Aug. 2012


Free time, and a couch? Sounds perfect!

8/25/2012 2:37:01 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
cabanaariefed
Over 2,000 Posts (2,542)
Norcross, GA
29, joined Apr. 2012


No imo.

8/25/2012 2:42:15 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
rlm68
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (18,110)
Aurora, CO
48, joined Apr. 2010


get a job and live off your own respect before bringing someone elses down with you.

8/25/2012 2:51:14 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ajg1965
Toledo, OH
51, joined Oct. 2010


What if you're unemployed, but have your own place and you're own stuff, are comfortably wealthy, and don't have any bills?

8/25/2012 3:18:11 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

yayah456
Robersonville, NC
37, joined Aug. 2012


No you shouldn't! I really cant see how you could pay for any thing, let's go out to eat,um i have no money! Lame

8/25/2012 3:22:46 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

hbguy311
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,422)
Huntington Beach, CA
36, joined Aug. 2010


This thread is going places.

8/25/2012 3:25:12 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
dan9787
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,296)
Laval, QC
53, joined Apr. 2011


Yes, why not? What does relationship have to do with how much money or job I have? We can have a girlfriend or boyfriend anyway? Why do without a partner just because we don't have money?

8/25/2012 3:27:46 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
mustangwriter
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,547)
Boerne, TX
56, joined Nov. 2009


Quote from tica5656:
I'm just glad I have my job and that I love it.




I'm not feeling well. *koff* *koff* (looking to see if she cares) *koff*

8/25/2012 3:29:59 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
lee3377
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,504)
Madison, VA
43, joined Jan. 2012


What about if the unemployed lives off the land, you know, hunts his own food, makes his own medicine -drugs, makes his own house.
he can take care of woman or family even with no money.

8/25/2012 3:41:26 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

touch1025
Over 1,000 Posts (1,275)
Ann Arbor, MI
36, joined Jul. 2012


Before my career while attending college,and unemployed I was approached many times for a date. Just didn't have the time or focus for dating.
But I do believe that a Man would ask a lady on a date "even consider a relationship" faster then a lady dating a Man that's unemployed.

8/25/2012 3:41:29 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
sharonorahs2
Over 2,000 Posts (2,122)
Wilmington, NC
50, joined Jul. 2012


If you're married and your spouse loses thier job, should you divorce them? It's basically the same type of question. If two people can get through hard times when they are dating, then they will be able to get through hard times when they are married. Dating is about spending quality time together, not spending a lot of money.

8/25/2012 3:57:08 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

hbguy311
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,422)
Huntington Beach, CA
36, joined Aug. 2010


If an unemployed guy here actually approached a woman and asked her out, he will likely be embarrassed when she asks him what do you do and he says I'm unemployed. But hey, if someone with no jobs wants to date, let them make their own decisions. I don't think they should but people do a lot of things they shouldn't.

I think it's wrong to use your unemployment money to date with but that's just me. It's completely different if you are married or in a relationship with someone that loses their job but I have known people that left the other because of it.

8/25/2012 3:57:54 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
snowbird02s
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,626)
Florence
Italy
98, joined Jan. 2009


I would not...

8/25/2012 3:59:45 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
foxie_roxie29
Riverdale, GA
33, joined Aug. 2012


Quote from yayah456:
No you shouldn't! I really cant see how you could pay for any thing, let's go out to eat,um i have no money! Lame


Very well said!

8/25/2012 4:00:56 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
country_lady67
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,873)
Clarion, PA
50, joined Apr. 2011


why not lots of time to devote to unconditional love and unemployment for spending money.. lol

8/25/2012 4:01:38 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
esmeraldar
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,582)
Toms River, NJ
69, joined Jan. 2009


They might date someone who has a business and can find them a job.

8/25/2012 4:08:01 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

brywithayfromca
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,196)
Long Beach, CA
52, joined Jan. 2011


I am an unemployed 47-year-old fat gray male prostitute (well, volunteer, really) working in the arena of only working for 22-year-old super models. Should I date outside that arena? OK, just kidding, but I am unemployed this week.



The economy has always been hard. Just not in the USA so much from 1950 for a few decades, but has and always be HARD!!

Love is love and LIFE is the MIRACLE. LIVE, LOVE, LEARN.

Find JOY in the MOMENT.

Find Unconditional Love from GAWD to YOU, from YOU to YOU, from YOU to someone else . . . and you may just find someone to LOVE YOU for YOU, regardless of your temporary employment status.

But employed, or NAWT employed, there is work to do . . . so do it.

Even if it is something as simple as to say:

BELIEVE



I met this woman when she was in a space of not knowing if she would be employed. She was WONDERFUL. Employment does not equate to VALUE in LIFE nor does money.




So make money, work hard, SAVE money, but be you . . . and never equate love or disireability with money . . . unless you'd like to hire this Male Prostitute to fix your corporate computer systems. NEENER. I program NEKKED.

Bry





[Edited 8/25/2012 4:10:25 PM ]

8/25/2012 4:33:42 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
tica5656
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,133)
Tigre
Argentina
36, joined Sep. 2011


Quote from mustangwriter:
I'm not feeling well. *koff* *koff* (looking to see if she cares) *koff*

I'm not a nurse.

8/25/2012 4:35:04 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
mustangwriter
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,547)
Boerne, TX
56, joined Nov. 2009


Quote from tica5656:
I'm not a nurse.



doesn't matter...i died over an hour ago.

8/25/2012 4:36:44 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
shally
Schenectady, NY
50, joined Nov. 2007


Quote from inkedbeauty1:
If you are not working and or living on someone 's couch,should you really be trying to date or start a relationship?


The unemployed need love too, you know.

8/25/2012 4:39:05 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
tica5656
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,133)
Tigre
Argentina
36, joined Sep. 2011


Quote from mustangwriter:
doesn't matter...i died over an hour ago.

and now you speak from the spirit world.

8/25/2012 4:40:24 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

justjojo
Brattleboro, VT
50, joined Mar. 2008




8/25/2012 4:40:38 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
mustangwriter
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,547)
Boerne, TX
56, joined Nov. 2009


You can't see me or touch me...I must be a spirit.

8/25/2012 4:41:25 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
codebluer
Gainesville, GA
33, joined Dec. 2010


Just cause one doesn't have a job doesn't mean they should stop living life. And if someone going to down another cause they out of work at the time. I guess it's ok to get rid of someone cauae they lose they job in a relationship. Its 2012 and stuff happens.

8/25/2012 4:41:30 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

justjojo
Brattleboro, VT
50, joined Mar. 2008


Quote from mustangwriter:
You can't see me or touch me...I must be a spirit.


With amazing typing ability!

Oops...didn't mean to intrude ...fade out...

8/25/2012 4:54:23 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

hbguy311
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,422)
Huntington Beach, CA
36, joined Aug. 2010


Quote from shally:
The unemployed need love too, you know.


Most of the time, they don't deserve it. Unless they are married or in a relationship like I stated earlier, an unemployed person has no business dating IMO. They need to get their life in order before they attempt to bring someone else into it.

8/25/2012 5:00:02 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
sharonorahs2
Over 2,000 Posts (2,122)
Wilmington, NC
50, joined Jul. 2012


If someone inherits a large amount of money they don't need to work

8/25/2012 5:02:08 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
chasenarainbow
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,344)
Alexandro├║polis
Greece
61, joined Jul. 2012


We all have our down times, and we all need love.

But if your sleeping on someones couch because your a lazey a** bum, then No f**king way!

8/25/2012 5:02:43 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
lanabritt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,663)
Chatsworth, CA
39, joined Jul. 2009


Quote from inkedbeauty1:
If you are not working and or living on someone 's couch,should you really be trying to date or start a relationship?


if the other person is practicing exact same lifestyle,
they will be a perfect match for each other

8/25/2012 5:05:44 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ohdona
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,951)
Lansing, MI
49, joined Dec. 2011


Quote from ajg1965:
What if you're unemployed, but have your own place and you're own stuff, are comfortably wealthy, and don't have any bills?




Hi there!!

8/25/2012 5:08:24 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
twistedfaith
Over 2,000 Posts (3,022)
Pico Rivera, CA
57, joined Dec. 2011


Quote from ohdona:
Hi there!!



gold digger...

8/25/2012 5:10:39 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ohdona
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,951)
Lansing, MI
49, joined Dec. 2011


Quote from twistedfaith:
gold digger...






8/25/2012 5:11:35 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
myblessing2004
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,480)
Mannheim
Germany
41, joined Aug. 2012


Quote from codebluer:
Just cause one doesn't have a job doesn't mean they should stop living life. And if someone going to down another cause they out of work at the time. I guess it's ok to get rid of someone cauae they lose they job in a relationship. Its 2012 and stuff happens.


I was laid off when my son was 3. It was a struggle to just survive. Having to give up my place and temporarily move in with my parents. Mentally I was not in a good place. I was stressed! I did NOT date because I didn't feel like I deserved love but because I wasn't in a place to love anyone or give them the attention they deserved.

If people could get out of their selfish needs and start considering how their live, choices, situations may affect others this dating crap would be smoother.

So if you are unemployed.... IMO... You shouldn't be dating!!! It's not about the money, although some idiots on here would argue otherwise! It's about a responsibility to self and others and to maintain your sanity in an insane situation.

Being unemployed isn't all roses! Thank God I got out of that situation real quick but you get humble real quick when you are sitting in a welfare office begging for food stamps to feed your child!

Just my thoughts...........

8/25/2012 5:14:46 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
swift61
Sacramento, CA
31, joined Aug. 2012


As long as you can afford it, I don't see the problem. You need to be doing something though

8/25/2012 5:15:22 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ladyfifty123
Brooklyn, NY
60, joined Jul. 2011


I am temporally unemployed and livivg at another persons house due to no fault of mines am I supposed to get in a corner and hide? Get depressed and stop living

8/25/2012 5:31:00 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

zerog35
Decatur, GA
39, joined Jun. 2012


I think the popular answer would be no you shouldn't however I am of two minds on the subject as there are double standards concerning the issue, I've dated woman whom I met "between jobs" and men seem to make less of an issue of it than women. Maybe it's the gender role thing. My ability to pay for a meal a movie, or a weekend getaway does not a husband make me. Attractive as it may be. Most women do expect for the majority of courting cost and expense to be footed by the man this is a socioeconomic expectation, do I agree with it? Only partly as in a marriage it is a teamwork effort to maintain said marriage however dating is supposed to be at least in part an audition for marriage... In short I can only agree to disagree for I digress. In short don't hate the player hate the game.

8/25/2012 5:44:05 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

luckiboi
Corona, CA
32, joined Jun. 2012


Quote from sharonorahs2:
If you're married and your spouse loses thier job, should you divorce them? It's basically the same type of question. If two people can get through hard times when they are dating, then they will be able to get through hard times when they are married. Dating is about spending quality time together, not spending a lot of money.



8/25/2012 5:45:44 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

vanir
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,541)
Victoria
Australia
47, joined Mar. 2008


I can only speak for myself, but when I'm not getting much work in there's plenty of other things to do which seem to do better for me than spending finite resources seeking new relationships. When spending more than is coming in and having to keep an abstract budget somewhere in the back of your head, you don't realise or notice elements of stress sneaking into your day to day routines, but it doesn't do you well.

8/25/2012 5:47:06 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
irishindian4you
Mechanicsville, MD
32, joined Jun. 2012


Maybe they got their priorities mixed up.

8/25/2012 5:56:56 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
lanabritt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,663)
Chatsworth, CA
39, joined Jul. 2009


Quote from zerog35:
a marriage it is a teamwork effort to maintain said marriage

however dating is supposed to be at least in part an audition for marriage...


so you would date a woman that has no job, no income,
no transportation and sleeps on someone else's couch?

8/25/2012 6:35:23 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
steadynsure
Clark, NJ
66, joined Jul. 2012


Everyone deserves a chance to try and find their sugar mama

8/25/2012 6:50:01 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

hbguy311
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,422)
Huntington Beach, CA
36, joined Aug. 2010


Another thread that will come down to money. Why do people work? MONEY. Why is this thread created? Because if you are unemployed, you either don't have any money or not much money. No matter how you spin it, this thread, like most here, is about MONEY.

8/25/2012 7:34:56 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

peachy1954
Over 2,000 Posts (2,491)
Sacramento, CA
63, joined Oct. 2010


I have never been unemployed more than three days that I wanted to be employed. I can't really say what I would do if I could find no work. Since I have found legit jobs even in very dire situations and with minimal job skills and abilities I guess I have a hard time relateing to the question. Were they always glamourous or well paying jobs no. Did I have to sacrifice much of my possessions a couple of times and live on little more than pocket change to better myself? Yes. But during that time I was single and extreamly poor I dated people of varying resources. I actually did reciprocate the courtesy of the invitations on a scale that I could afford so NO not every date was always about money.

But the dates I did go in those hard times were very memorable and did a great deal to keep me motivated and thinking creatively. I am sure that contributed to making a turn around and even moving me forward. And some of the people who dated me them forward. What was surpriseing was the people who least needed it actually got th most out of it. I was told there is something powerful about allowing someone their human dignity.

So would I date someone who wasn't in their super star stage of life? Yea if they were trying to pull themselves up by their bootstraps; you bet.

Someone that was is a bum spongeing off of others that lays up on someones couch not making effort one; no way.

8/25/2012 8:36:40 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ronleeseberg
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,968)
Mauston, WI
50, joined Jan. 2012


For some women and men, that is their next source of income.

8/25/2012 8:38:44 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
th6231
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (34,817)
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
69, joined Jul. 2007


NOPE----it clearly shows a lack of being able to establish one's priorities. If there is time to date---then there is clearly time to find some kind of work--doing anything to earn some money.

8/25/2012 8:41:34 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
wisesmith
Gainesville, FL
36, joined Mar. 2012


No, unemployed people like myself need to concentrate on working to stablize themselves financially, before they decide to add anyone into their broke life.

However, unemployed people are human beings just like any other person that is financially secure that needs affection. Sometimes it is difficult to face lonely nights when there is no one to comfort you with unconditional love.

8/25/2012 8:52:51 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
ohdona
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,951)
Lansing, MI
49, joined Dec. 2011


There is no such thing of unconditional love. Unless, you are talking about your kids.

8/25/2012 8:58:01 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 

bbw47reader
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (18,074)
Frederick, MD
54, joined Jun. 2009


You have to consider the people who need to rescue others. You don't want to deprive them.

8/25/2012 9:03:35 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
sharonorahs2
Over 2,000 Posts (2,122)
Wilmington, NC
50, joined Jul. 2012


Sometimes having someone else in thier life just might give them that extra encouragement they need to do better.

8/25/2012 9:09:51 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
iclove4u2
Grand Blanc, MI
55, joined Aug. 2012


Sure why not you may get lucky & find someone with money

8/25/2012 9:12:19 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
rcook5678
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,448)
Fort Myers, FL
48, joined Oct. 2011


Quote from inkedbeauty1:
If you are not working and or living on someone 's couch,should you really be trying to date or start a relationship?


No. First things first. Get your shit together, get a life, THEN look for someone to share your life with. I might be wrong, but that is how I feel about it. I need to feel that I have something to offer before I offer myself!

8/25/2012 9:20:20 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
homeless4u2love
Long Beach, CA
53, joined Aug. 2012


Ignorants is bliss,i date with no job,car,or home,but a real lady knows there's more to life than what you have or can do for them,and its people like you that keep bad mouthing someone less fortunate is truly sad,homeless but i smell of dior and my stacy addams shine better than your smile,but i will pray for you at the 5 dollar church lol.

8/25/2012 9:24:17 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
th6231
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (34,817)
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
69, joined Jul. 2007


^^^ well--this a**hole is my new hero!!

8/25/2012 9:25:43 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
nurselove89
Mobile, AL
27, joined Aug. 2012


Instead of being on a computer trying to hook up with someone, you need to be out looking for a JOB. You need to be out looking from 8-5 and when you come home, since you have a computer, you can be applying online.

That's why our country has a problem. Before people started relying on the government, they knew they had to find work. Nothing else mattered, because finding work was the only way you could survive. Now since they know they can go on food stamps or what not, they put finding a job on the back burner.

And this is why I will never talk to, reply or message any man who is unemployed. Especially one who is on a dating site instead of looking for a job. I know things happen, and I do understamd, I really do. But any respectable guy would not put anything else before finding work.

Get your priorities straight, people. Liberals, don't get all "offended." I'm not bashing welfare as a whole, yes it needs some stricter requirements, but I know it was created for a good reason. But people abuse it, and us who work hard and have jobs are the ones paying for it.

8/25/2012 9:45:08 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
nurselove89
Mobile, AL
27, joined Aug. 2012


And it isn't all about money, either. It's about being a respectable, honest, hard working person who takes pride in themselves and their life. If I dated a guy who had been unemployed for a long period of time, I'd be terrified if he was as lazy and unmotivated with me and our relationship as he was with his job/career.

8/25/2012 10:06:05 PMIf you are unemployed ,should you be trying to date? 
myblessing2004
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,480)
Mannheim
Germany
41, joined Aug. 2012


Quote from 4reeel:
Well the way i see it...is all people have personal needs and feelings!!!!


Selfish! Of course everyone has this. I had it when I was unemployed but I wasn't dragging anyone into my issue until I was able to bring myself to a point where I was self sufficient!

Maybe it's me but I'm not about getting up under some man for loving, encouragement, etc. to help motivate me to find a job. Thats what i have friends and family for. A solid, long lasting relationship is to be with a partner who doesn't need this type of encouragement. A partner where you trust them to get it done. There's no way you know this about someone you just met or dated for a month.

And for those comparing marriage vs. Someone you started dating.... Are u serious? There is no comparison..... PERIOD!!!