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9/5/2012 11:14:56 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

lovingtodo
Dayton, OH
49, joined May. 2012


Maybe i just meet the gold diggers, but it seems like before a woman gets to know me at all they want to know what I do for a living. If i am wrong, let me know but it seems like after exchanging names, it should not be the next question. Let me know what you think.



[Edited 9/5/2012 11:15:36 PM ]

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9/5/2012 11:16:58 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
lespoir
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Palm Springs, CA
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SOME women. I really don't care what a man does for living at 1st, I want to know if we have enough points in common to take it a step further. Once I've decided his brain was in place, then I can show some interest in how he makes his living.

In other words, stop generalizing op!

9/5/2012 11:17:23 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
ldroftrollops
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Goshen, IN
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It's an ice breaker...


You guys get sensitive when the first questions ask for particular physical measurements and credit ratings

9/5/2012 11:17:30 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
tica5656
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Tigre
Argentina
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Because you spend possibly up to 40 hrs a week or more doing something with your life and they thought to ask you?



Nah too logical, right?

9/5/2012 11:17:48 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

niceguyinvegas
Las Vegas, NV
53, joined Jan. 2012


Because women gauge how much you make and decide if you might be worth it or not, the burger flipper versus the lawyer, who do you think is going to win that one?

9/5/2012 11:18:43 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

justokingin2010
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I think it's a way to start a conversation. I often use the same question.

9/5/2012 11:19:02 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

torisdad
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Louisville, KY
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I tell them I work at Dillard's as a professional bra fitter.

9/5/2012 11:19:24 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
myblessing2004
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,480)
Mannheim
Germany
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Well you do have self employed on your profile......

That needs further clarification. Are you legally self employed?

9/5/2012 11:19:34 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

bbw47reader
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Frederick, MD
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Politically correct response: It's a third of your life, so how is asking that not getting to know you?

Nail on the head response: Yes, every woman is a not very smart gold-digger after your money who can't even come up with one question without revealing her avaricious designs on you., you paranoid misogynist git.

9/5/2012 11:21:32 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
fun2bchattin
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Maybe they are concerned with what it is, not how much you make. I would want to know upfront if he was a porn star.

9/5/2012 11:21:43 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
lightning47
Over 1,000 Posts (1,284)
North Battleford, SK
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It's just a question to start the conversation.

9/5/2012 11:22:10 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
rlm68
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Aurora, CO
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because tapping her a** isnt cheap.

9/5/2012 11:23:19 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
banger1994
Cleveland, TX
22, joined Feb. 2012


Quote from fun2bchattin:
Maybe they are concerned with what it is, not how much you make. I would want to know upfront if he was a porn star.



I am just for you

9/5/2012 11:24:52 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
swift61
Sacramento, CA
31, joined Aug. 2012


I ask that question too, it's good to know what people are doing with their lives.

9/5/2012 11:25:52 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

claudius5
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It is just the women with whom you have interacted and not all women. I have never been asked that question at all.

9/5/2012 11:27:27 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
inventtis
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Kendallville, IN
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People think what you do is who you are......duh

9/5/2012 11:34:56 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
ldroftrollops
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Goshen, IN
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Well op, since i already stayed up past my bedtime, i decided to ive your profile a quick 'run through'.

You should know you have at least 17 red flags waving at the bypassers from miles away. So, you're kind of getting what you deserve, with what your putting out there.

On another note, when a profile says "self employed", its kind of considered and open invitation to ask that person's profession, for what should be obvious reasons

9/5/2012 11:39:21 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
kentisme
Brooksville, FL
56, joined Sep. 2012


Because society has decided and most women agree...that asking if you have a small weenie destroys men's confidence?

9/5/2012 11:42:51 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

kclady41
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It does not mean she is a digger its something everyone asks

9/5/2012 11:43:33 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

max811
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What question should it be then?3rd,5th,730th?

9/5/2012 11:46:54 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

bbw47reader
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There have been massive threads on the topic. The upshot is that there are only two schools of thought:

1. It's an innocuous, normal question.
2. Any woman who ever asks that question at any time is a money-grubbing wh*re out to ruin the guy.


True story.

9/5/2012 11:54:44 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

bowlerxxx
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Ok from my point of view most of the time it's all in how she ask the question. I have had women ask first thing out their mouth what I did for a living and thought nothing of it. However also have had other women ask same question and it set off red flags and loud alarms all over the place. It truly isn't the best first question to ask someone. I really do think that most of the time she is just trying to get a conversation started, nothing more nothing less.

9/5/2012 11:54:56 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

evr2
Mountain Home, AR
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Quote from kentisme:
Because society has decided and most women agree...that asking if you have a small weenie destroys men's confidence?


Haha...and she would be as dumb as you are if she just let that go by and end up in some relationship with you. She may find out that you have 4 children and never pay child support and never intend to should you ever get your a** off the couch and try to find a job?
But then why would you ever try, you just intend to live off her income until she gets tired of dusting around you....so thats why!

9/5/2012 11:57:41 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

max811
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Quote from evr2:
Haha...and she would be as dumb as you are if she just let that go by and end up in some relationship with you. She may find out that you have 4 children and never pay child support and never intend to should you ever get your a** off the couch and try to find a job?
But then why would you ever try, you just intend to live off her income until she gets tired of dusting around you....so thats why!
That happens to you a lot huh...

9/5/2012 11:58:29 PMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
vgamble1
Englewood, OH
39, joined Aug. 2012


To be honest to see if you have money!!! Some people are like that.



[Edited 9/6/2012 12:00:36 AM ]

9/6/2012 12:00:17 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

bbw47reader
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Quote from evr2:
Haha...and she would be as dumb as you are if she just let that go by and end up in some relationship with you. She may find out that you have 4 children and never pay child support and never intend to should you ever get your a** off the couch and try to find a job?
But then why would you ever try, you just intend to live off her income until she gets tired of dusting around you....so thats why!


Uh, might I suggest Women's World?

9/6/2012 12:01:02 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
carolineonmind
Salt Lake City, UT
33, joined Oct. 2011


Quote from evr2:
Haha...and she would be as dumb as you are if she just let that go by and end up in some relationship with you. She may find out that you have 4 children and never pay child support and never intend to should you ever get your a** off the couch and try to find a job?
But then why would you ever try, you just intend to live off her income until she gets tired of dusting around you....so thats why!


Point made.
But why shouldn't a woman ask? Why wouldn't you ask the same? Does it make her a gold digger to not want a leach? It's hard enough to support ourselves let alone some guy who can't hold down a job and keep his d*ck in his pants. Just sayin... Shit goes both ways.

9/6/2012 12:01:24 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

bbw47reader
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OP sure doesn't have much to say.

9/6/2012 12:02:12 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

max811
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Palmetto, FL
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Quote from vgamble1:
To be honest to see if you money!!!
A another good reason to lie until you get the p*ssy.She is only after one thing fair is fair.

9/6/2012 12:03:17 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

evr2
Mountain Home, AR
56, joined Jun. 2012


Quote from max811:
That happens to you a lot huh...


lol, no it sure dont! But saying in a "you could understand if you think about it", kind of way, why a woman would ask that question!
Come on dude!

9/6/2012 12:04:32 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
dan9787
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It's not just women. A lot of men do that too. Not that I date men but I've noticed a lot of people want to know what you do in life, to have an idea of what you're like I guess.

9/6/2012 12:05:44 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

max811
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Palmetto, FL
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Quote from evr2:
lol, no it sure dont! But saying in a "you could understand if you think about it", kind of way, why a woman would ask that question!
Come on dude!
With all that bitterness it sounds like....J/S

9/6/2012 12:06:07 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
rlm68
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Quote from vgamble1:
To be honest to see if you have money!!! Some people are like that.



im thinking she is keeper and honesty is definitely 1 of my top 3 requirements.
of course, it falls after easy and wealthy

9/6/2012 12:08:53 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

evr2
Mountain Home, AR
56, joined Jun. 2012


Quote from carolineonmind:
Point made.
But why shouldn't a woman ask? Why wouldn't you ask the same? Does it make her a gold digger to not want a leach? It's hard enough to support ourselves let alone some guy who can't hold down a job and keep his d*ck in his pants. Just sayin... Shit goes both ways.


It is a normal and intellect question...a conversation on how caring and open minded she can be towards a man she knows nothing about! And, she may even have something else in common with him.

9/6/2012 12:10:13 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
soulchyne
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Conversation starter??

Seriously if this were the caveman era, we'd want to admire your spear.

So why shouldn't we ask what you do to survive.

You guys wanna ask the size of pur berries!



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9/6/2012 12:13:49 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

evr2
Mountain Home, AR
56, joined Jun. 2012


Quote from rlm68:
im thinking she is keeper and honesty is definitely 1 of my top 3 requirements.
of course, it falls after easy and wealthy


No, wealthy would be the first....then a pause and a side smile, " so what do you do for a living?" and then another pause, " are you easy?"

you guys are so silly

9/6/2012 12:20:22 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
rlm68
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Quote from evr2:
No, wealthy would be the first....then a pause and a side smile, " so what do you do for a living?" and then another pause, " are you easy?"

you guys are so silly



bestow my heart, a lady on a mission

9/6/2012 12:36:16 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
kingofsorrow2
Lincoln, IL
35, joined Aug. 2012


Natural instincts. Think about it n the wild females don't mate with a male who can't provide protection or food. That's why the males often have it out to show dominance and I would applaud a chick who thinks that far ahead...all I'm getting out my area are the recovered alcoholics and young meth heads. God I need to move

9/6/2012 12:39:40 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
giss
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Saint Bernard, LA
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Of course they ask. They want to know how much money you have to see uf you are good enough.

9/6/2012 1:28:46 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
aznbarbi3d0ll
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The same reason why guys always ask for a pic right away even if it's not for a nudey one. Hey we're just asking... It's just a question.. Sheesh!

First 3 questions guys always ask.
Can you send me a pic?
What do you do?
Do you date ______ (white, black, etc.) guys?

All of us get this crap from ignorant people at one point or another. Answer in the most sarcastic way possible and move on

9/6/2012 1:31:55 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

eyesofmedusa
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Cairo
Egypt
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Quote from aznbarbi3d0ll:
The same reason why guys always ask for a pic right away even if it's not for a nudey one. Hey we're just asking... It's just a question.. Sheesh!

First 3 questions guys always ask.
Can you send me a pic?
What do you do?
Do you date ______ (white, black, etc.) guys?

All of us get this crap from ignorant people at one point or another. Answer in the most sarcastic way possible and move on



OMG GIRL...you are hearing from the same men I am
They always ask me before I ask them about work...never asked first.
And my third question is Do you date younger men ?

9/6/2012 1:44:53 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
aznbarbi3d0ll
Over 1,000 Posts (1,334)
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Quote from eyesofmedusa:
OMG GIRL...you are hearing from the same men I am
They always ask me before I ask them about work...never asked first.
And my third question is Do you date younger men ?


I've already maxed my block list like the first few days on here

The next time a guy asks a dumb question or any question to a girl he should just ask himself that question first and then he knows how we feel, duh !

9/6/2012 1:46:33 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

eyesofmedusa
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Cairo
Egypt
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Oh I wish I cld block mine..they are in real world

Amazing what ppl find okay to say to another tho isn't it ?????????????

9/6/2012 1:48:23 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
whoshotjohn12
Over 2,000 Posts (3,723)
Cameron, OK
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Just starting a conversation OP...

9/6/2012 2:06:41 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
scottm71
Fultondale, AL
45, joined Sep. 2012


I've had no less than 5 women on this site want me to be their sugar daddy. Before my bank account gets depleted I had to walk away. They all asked that same question within 5 or 10 mins. I had some fun f*ckin with 'em though. Lol

9/6/2012 2:10:01 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
candrajohnson
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Cedar Rapids, IA
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I just wnt to know if you can take care of yourself. Cause I sure and the hell aint paying for everything.

9/6/2012 2:12:22 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
swift61
Sacramento, CA
31, joined Aug. 2012


Quote from candrajohnson:
I just wnt to know if you can take care of yourself. Cause I sure and the hell aint paying for everything.

This

Its not difficult to understand at all.

9/6/2012 2:21:00 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

niceguyinvegas
Las Vegas, NV
53, joined Jan. 2012


Quote from vgamble1:
To be honest to see if you have money!!! Some people are like that.

That is one of the most honest statements here, its so true money equals dates, the more money the hotter the date, fact of life.If you want the super hot babe better have a serious bank account because she is going to cost.

9/6/2012 2:22:07 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
rondag
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,331)
Williamsburg, OH
53, joined Mar. 2009


I don't like anyone asking me that question right off I don't, and won't either.I think its classless on anyones part...timing is everything,those are not the questions I ask out of the gate.



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9/6/2012 2:39:01 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

hbguy311
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I know I'm late but



9/6/2012 2:47:19 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

hbguy311
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I have NEVER asked a girl what do you do? If they bring it up, I will talk about it but there are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many other ways to get to know a person and to start a conversation. The question can be innocent or it can be to ballpark your income. That's why it's such a brilliant question. Girls(and guys) get the info they want and can then decide whether or not to date you. Let Jerry Seinfeld explain it:

seinfeldwomenneedtolikethejob

9/6/2012 2:50:22 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
l0st419
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*AHEM* This video may explain your question OP.





9/6/2012 3:18:04 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

niceguyinvegas
Las Vegas, NV
53, joined Jan. 2012


Women should just com out and say it, if you don't make $________________ fill in the blank don't bother contacting me, it become a business proposition.

9/6/2012 3:38:26 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
balli4
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Quote from lovingtodo:
Maybe i just meet the gold diggers, but it seems like before a woman gets to know me at all they want to know what I do for a living. If i am wrong, let me know but it seems like after exchanging names, it should not be the next question. Let me know what you think.



Well conversation about the weather gets old real fast. Of course someones gonna ask you what you do. What else you wanna talk about? The price of eggs?

9/6/2012 3:39:37 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
dan9787
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Laval, QC
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Quote from balli4:
Well conversation about the weather gets old real fast. Of course someones gonna ask you what you do. What else you wanna talk about? The price of eggs?


Well since you live in a different country what about the price of eggs?

9/6/2012 3:41:10 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
balli4
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Quote from dan9787:
Well since you live in a different country what about the price of eggs?


£1.39 sterling for ten eggs

Hows your eggs?

9/6/2012 3:43:16 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
dan9787
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Laval, QC
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Quote from balli4:
£1.39 sterling for ten eggs

Hows your eggs?


Can you tell me how that translates in Euros or US or CDN preferably, or o I have to google. Doesn't sound like too much, I guess...

1 lb = about 2.00 US, etc etc.. (I'll check online )

9/6/2012 3:43:17 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 

max811
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Palmetto, FL
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Quote from balli4:
£1.39 sterling for ten eggs

Hows your eggs?
We get them by the dozen here.

9/6/2012 3:47:21 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
balli4
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County Antrim, N. Ireland
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Quote from dan9787:
Can you tell me how that translates in Euros or US or CDN preferably, or o I have to google. Doesn't sound like too much, I guess...

1 lb = about 2.00 US, etc etc.. (I'll check online )



1 British pound sterling = 1.5906 US dollars

so ten eggs @£1.39 sterling= $2.21 US dollars

9/6/2012 3:47:25 AMWhy is the first question women ask is what you do for a living? 
dan9787
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,296)
Laval, QC
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2.18 CDN and we get them by the dozen too.

Sounds about similar :O

It's the New World Order controlling everything! Arrrrrrrrgh!



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