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12/29/2012 9:31:29 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
endoftheline05
Watertown, NY
32, joined Dec. 2012


What do men think or have concerns about when it comes to dating or forming a serious relationship with a single mother?




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12/29/2012 9:33:25 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
gooberama
Knoxville, TN
98, joined Sep. 2012


It depends on how they came to be in that situation.

12/29/2012 9:42:17 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from gooberama:
It depends on how they came to be in that situation.

now that is true, mite add here also that maybe they look to see if at this point in time they are seeking true love or if they are out seeking self in a relationship. I also understand it may be a reasonable reaction to being hurt as well. It however does the one thing they don't want. Attracts others seeking self [ what they want from you in other words]. A doward spiral away from love that is hard to break

12/29/2012 9:43:52 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

ronleeseberg
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,967)
Mauston, WI
50, joined Jan. 2012


Anyone can have bad luck and or have made mistakes in their lives. I have dated some really good women that were single mothers. Just because you are a single parent does not mean that you less of a person. I was a single father for years and it is a very noble thing to take on. Goodluck in your search.

12/29/2012 9:46:34 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
soflwill
Over 1,000 Posts (1,744)
Durham, NC
56, joined Jan. 2012


I have a lot of different thoughts about moms:
1) From my experience moms have learned how to love.
2) It's hard for a mom to act like a spoiled princess.
3) I'd rather date a woman that has had the experience of putting someone elses needs before their own. (a mom)

now the down side:
1) Depending on the childs age it is harder for them to be spontaneous because they often need to make plans ahead of time for their children.
2) As a relationship develops with a a woman that has a child it is important that some outings include the child, because they are a part of the equation.
3) If there is a child there maybe a father hanging around and he might be interested in rebuilding the relationship with the mom.
4) It will require more work and time to build a true relationship because of the children.

12/29/2012 9:58:03 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


uhh children are not bad luck or mistakes. They are a blessing no matter if they were brought into this world through marriage or not. I had my children while married and became a single mom shortly after my son was born.

I think the best way to approach a dating situation is to be completely honest about it. Hold nothing back. I mean your kids are evidence you aren't a virgin and you've had failed relationships hahaha.. so just be upfront about it.

If a man knows to begin with that you have a child/ren, than obviously if he's interested in you he knows that you come as a packaged deal. If he gets serious about you.. no need explaining.. he knows what he's in for.

If you scare a man off with the fact that you have a child, then trust me.. you should be thankful, because he was smart enough to realize he couldn't handle the responsibility that comes with dating a single mom.

I admit its a lot more commitment to date a single mom, because if a guy is serious about her, he's going to eventually meet the kids and play a role in their lives. Whatever that role is, it's up to you, him, and the children to decide. but once he's been put in that role, he better be ready to stay in that role, because he doesn't only have your heart, but the child's as well. It's tricky .. but you can find love. Just never feel bad about being a single mom!!!

12/29/2012 11:08:58 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

slcarolina
Dallas, TX
97, joined Dec. 2012


I dont have kids. But like your viewpoint and ideas!

12/29/2012 11:38:30 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
tylertexas425
Bedford, TX
28, joined Dec. 2012


(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)

12/29/2012 11:39:52 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

driver406
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (51,582)
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009


Depends entirely on the situation. Divorced? Shacking up? He got hit by a bus? (Happened to my cousin! He was never the same!) Depends on the kids. There's a zillion factors so you really can't make a broad generalization.

12/30/2012 12:05:53 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

lannyellis
Newark, OH
39, joined Aug. 2012


who isnt now days,slim to none,but it does give a guy more to consider cause now they're not just judging compattibility on you alone,they have to take the kids into consideration too.

12/30/2012 2:02:57 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

ronleeseberg
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,967)
Mauston, WI
50, joined Jan. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
uhh children are not bad luck or mistakes. They are a blessing no matter if they were brought into this world through marriage or not. I had my children while married and became a single mom shortly after my son was born.

I think the best way to approach a dating situation is to be completely honest about it. Hold nothing back. I mean your kids are evidence you aren't a virgin and you've had failed relationships hahaha.. so just be upfront about it.

If a man knows to begin with that you have a child/ren, than obviously if he's interested in you he knows that you come as a packaged deal. If he gets serious about you.. no need explaining.. he knows what he's in for.

If you scare a man off with the fact that you have a child, then trust me.. you should be thankful, because he was smart enough to realize he couldn't handle the responsibility that comes with dating a single mom.

I admit its a lot more commitment to date a single mom, because if a guy is serious about her, he's going to eventually meet the kids and play a role in their lives. Whatever that role is, it's up to you, him, and the children to decide. but once he's been put in that role, he better be ready to stay in that role, because he doesn't only have your heart, but the child's as well. It's tricky .. but you can find love. Just never feel bad about being a single mom!!!


I never said that the children were the mistakes, it is your shortmindedness that took it that way. I was referring to the events that led to a person ending up being single with children in the home. But if it makes you feel better about yourself by all means keep bashing guys all you want.

12/30/2012 2:05:16 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

vanir
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,541)
Victoria
Australia
47, joined Mar. 2008


Quote from endoftheline05:
What do men think or have concerns about when it comes to dating or forming a serious relationship with a single mother?


oh just things like "how did an 8lb poomonster come out from that little hole?"

12/30/2012 2:05:48 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
bigdaddyishere
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (20,940)
Las Vegas, NV
36, joined Mar. 2011


chicks with kids are easy and desperate

12/30/2012 3:25:27 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
ironmuscle
Over 2,000 Posts (3,015)
Santa Cruz, CA
41, joined Jun. 2008


Quote from endoftheline05:
What do men think or have concerns about when it comes to dating or forming a serious relationship with a single mother?


I love single moms who have a laser-like focus in raising their child.

She works two or three jobs to make sure her kid(s) can have a Christmas and Thanksgiving. She's divinely loyal to her child and vise-versa. I love seeing that....and I would definitely date a single mom like that.

There's nothing worse when a single parent allows a new S.O. come between the relationship of his/her child. Selling out your kid(s) for the new boyfriend or girlfirend shows a lack of character and dignity....IMO.



[Edited 12/30/2012 3:27:13 AM ]

12/30/2012 3:38:53 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
pljj83
Hurst, TX
33, joined Dec. 2012


+1 on that above!
Personally I can't believe how guys take it for granted that women are easy because they have children if anything they are seriously looking at who you are and what you have to bring into the relationship and their children's life also its what their focus is on.

12/30/2012 4:09:47 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


sorry I took what you said wrong. I am not closeminded though. It just looked really bad.

And single moms being easy? Maybe single moms that got that way through sleeping around and dont know who their baby daddy is??? and spend there days pawning their kids off on others to party ( i know single moms like that)

I'd say single moms who are devoted to their children, are more difficult to date, cuz they gotta protect their babies and their focus is on the kids... u always come after the kids .

12/30/2012 4:17:12 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
pepperhottamale
Akron, OH
30, joined Dec. 2012


Single mothers of young child is okay with me, but if the kid is grown and treats people like crap no

12/30/2012 7:53:02 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
flhreagle
Over 1,000 Posts (1,740)
Fort Mohave, AZ
51, joined Jul. 2012


the single mothers in my age range
have children that are already adults!

12/30/2012 8:00:23 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
tattsntrees
Clovis, NM
34, joined Dec. 2012


Children are a blessing. Im a proud father of a soon to be 19month old princess. She isnt biologically mine but I have been in her life since day one. Im the only father she knows and she has saved my life. I owe her everything even though me and her mom fight all the time and I think I have fallen out of love with her mom but since my lil girl isnt my blood, if I break it of with her mom. Im in fear that she will take her away from me. So I put up with a lot on a day to day.

12/30/2012 10:20:25 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
sorry I took what you said wrong. I am not closeminded though. It just looked really bad.

And single moms being easy? Maybe single moms that got that way through sleeping around and dont know who their baby daddy is??? and spend there days pawning their kids off on others to party ( i know single moms like that)

I'd say single moms who are devoted to their children, are more difficult to date, cuz they gotta protect their babies and their focus is on the kids... u always come after the kids .

you said the man always comes after the kids when it comes to focus. Yet women generally want to be first in a guys focus kids or not. Which means they carry a double standard here. Why can't they and the kids come at the same time for focus? I am asking not having kids mysyself

12/30/2012 10:44:27 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
dangetsnone
Over 2,000 Posts (2,574)
York, PA
58, joined Jul. 2012


At this time of year and your location, it would be all about how you handle the snow.

12/30/2012 10:57:33 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

pinkprincess5
Kingman, AZ
31, joined Dec. 2012


Me being a single mother find out very hard. I find men think that i an looking for some one to take care of them. But that isn't the case. I am a very proud mother of 5 boys. They all have the same dad. I work, have our own place and car paid off.... But seems none of that matters. So i think men find it really tough. I have find alot more single dads too having the same prob. We (men or women) don't want another parent for our kids we want a life partner. To fall in love just like any one without kids. It's all about finding that right person. Might take us with children a little longer. But we will.

12/30/2012 11:30:14 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


Quote from singlochoy:
you said the man always comes after the kids when it comes to focus. Yet women generally want to be first in a guys focus kids or not. Which means they carry a double standard here. Why can't they and the kids come at the same time for focus? I am asking not having kids mysyself


Well, If a husband and wife have children, those children are both their focus. They definitely give time for each other and put in effort into each other, but their love and focus are more so on making sure their children are taken care of, are learning, growing, becoming good responsible citizens. Have hobbies and are given opportunities to pursue their dreams and meet their goals.

I am a single mom, so I take that on myself, without a husband or father to contribute to that. When I'm dating a guy, the focus needs to be on me first, before he ever gets the chance to contribute to my children's lives. He has to understand that I do have my children and can't go out on a whim, or go away for a weekend, etc... I will give my attention to him, but he wont have it fully. He can't put equal focus on to me and the children, because during the "dating period" he wont know the children. It's not until the relationship becomes strong that he'll be introduced. During the dating process .. I can't focus just on him, I have my children and they do come first, but yea I expect his focus to be on me.

I guess if a guy can't grasp that.. than he's better off not dating a single mom. NO OFFENSE there are guys that are single, have no children, that are just not interested in dating someone with children, and I thank them for realizing that.

Nothing is worse than a man not understanding what it means to be with a single mom, and after dating her for some time, meeting the children and realizing what he's not cut out for it and then bails.

all single moms are different tho and their situations are different. So it's not a science.

12/30/2012 11:35:20 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
Well, If a husband and wife have children, those children are both their focus. They definitely give time for each other and put in effort into each other, but their love and focus are more so on making sure their children are taken care of, are learning, growing, becoming good responsible citizens. Have hobbies and are given opportunities to pursue their dreams and meet their goals.

I am a single mom, so I take that on myself, without a husband or father to contribute to that. When I'm dating a guy, the focus needs to be on me first, before he ever gets the chance to contribute to my children's lives. He has to understand that I do have my children and can't go out on a whim, or go away for a weekend, etc... I will give my attention to him, but he wont have it fully. He can't put equal focus on to me and the children, because during the "dating period" he wont know the children. It's not until the relationship becomes strong that he'll be introduced. During the dating process .. I can't focus just on him, I have my children and they do come first, but yea I expect his focus to be on me.

I guess if a guy can't grasp that.. than he's better off not dating a single mom. NO OFFENSE there are guys that are single, have no children, that are just not interested in dating someone with children, and I thank them for realizing that.

Nothing is worse than a man not understanding what it means to be with a single mom, and after dating her for some time, meeting the children and realizing what he's not cut out for it and then bails.

all single moms are different tho and their situations are different. So it's not a science.
when does the relationship become strong in your opinion. also don't think relationships with or without kids involved should be set to any persons standards or limits. It's surely yo fail



[Edited 12/30/2012 11:38:17 AM ]

12/30/2012 11:50:18 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
mrxmr2
Spokane, WA
42, joined Dec. 2012


Well single moms are fine, (and many of them are) but their kids are often too much of an excuse for they and their childs rude thoughtless behavior.

Which could explain the lack of effective use of contraception, prevailence of STDs, and ultra immature highshool mindset. Found in some single moms.

Note ladies, I said some.

Now other single moms have a "don't need-a man" attitude. Funny how they want a LTR. And sexual is the purpose of their men. Reverse sexism is oft their attitude.

Note again I used the word "other" to describe that particular type of single female with child/ children.

I hope y'all have enjoyed the exegesis from my viewpoint.

Take care. : : )

12/30/2012 12:13:20 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
digitalninja
Ozark, MO
35, joined Dec. 2012


As a Dad, I tend to prefer a woman who has kids, or at least lots of responsibilities. I work a lot and spend time with my kids several times a week. A girl who wants to go out and party every night of the week isn't going to work out. I also look for clues on how she treats her kids and if she would be good around my kids... While I might prefer a woman who is wild for myself... Anyone in my kids lives needs to be somewhat stable. A woman who can be both is my dream woman. Unfortunately, I have other criteria on my wish list as well... This narrows the list down pretty well.

12/30/2012 12:55:39 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


Quote from mrxmr2:
Well single moms are fine, (and many of them are) but their kids are often too much of an excuse for they and their childs rude thoughtless behavior.



hahhaha wow.. well kids are kids and they all misbehave from time to time. It's all apart of them learning and growing. Their little personalities have a lot to do with it as well.

Kids will be kids! If my daughter is being a little brat, its not a reflection of me that I'm a brat! I'm tellin ya kids have mood swings as often as a conceded woman looks in the mirror.

If a guy falls in love with me.. and falls inlove with my kids. That is what is important. To understand that kids get into things, they cry, they laugh, they get mad, they love you , they hate you. It's all totally normal haha Loving them through all of it, is what I do.. and if a guy loves me and my kids.. he'll love them through it all too.

12/30/2012 1:05:40 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
pink2432
Rhinelander, WI
31, joined Nov. 2012


On here? The absolute worst it seems. I get hate email all of the time. But, screw em. Single mothers and fathers are some of the strongest and best people I know.

12/30/2012 1:06:24 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
hahhaha wow.. well kids are kids and they all misbehave from time to time. It's all apart of them learning and growing. Their little personalities have a lot to do with it as well.

Kids will be kids! If my daughter is being a little brat, its not a reflection of me that I'm a brat! I'm tellin ya kids have mood swings as often as a conceded woman looks in the mirror.

If a guy falls in love with me.. and falls inlove with my kids. That is what is important. To understand that kids get into things, they cry, they laugh, they get mad, they love you , they hate you. It's all totally normal haha Loving them through all of it, is what I do.. and if a guy loves me and my kids.. he'll love them through it all too.

Now if a guy loves you I think he would naturally accept your kids. However the relationship he has with your kids from there is one that they will build and make together and really shouldn't be part o0f who you and him are together. I would think some kids mite for example want your guy to be like a dad to them, some may want him to be just a friend they can count on so forth and so on. Make sense!

12/30/2012 1:13:18 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from pink2432:
On here? The absolute worst it seems. I get hate email all of the time. But, screw em. Single mothers and fathers are some of the strongest and best people I know.


i am sure they would be and some are also the most self serving to. Point being good and bad i9n all categories

12/30/2012 2:39:08 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


Quote from singlochoy:
Now if a guy loves you I think he would naturally accept your kids. However the relationship he has with your kids from there is one that they will build and make together and really shouldn't be part o0f who you and him are together. I would think some kids mite for example want your guy to be like a dad to them, some may want him to be just a friend they can count on so forth and so on. Make sense!


I'm not sure what you thought i meant by loving me and my kids. I couldn't be with someone that loved me but freaking hated my kids. haha it kind of goes hand in hand. But just because a guy gets along amazing with the kids, doesn't necessarily mean him and I are right for each other.

That's why i've made it clear that during the dating process, a guy wont be meeting the kids.

what is considered serious? @ whoever asked that question, I guess in my opinion, its when its the point that the guy is falling pretty hard for me and I for him, that meeting the kids is the next step?? there is no real time frame, but a mama has to be cautious who she introduces to her kiddos.

12/30/2012 3:29:58 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
mam23
Gaylord, MI
27, joined Nov. 2012


I dont date men that dont have children... i have one child and my botfriend has one child... it works for us, lots of time with the kids and family... i can see why some guys would not want to date a single mom, however if the guy has child/ren they normaly go for women with child/ren.

12/30/2012 3:52:44 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


noteasyworthit
not assuming anything hun was just stating your relationship with him and the relationship he has with your kids are different to a degree. They do go hand in hand if he loves you he should love your kids is a given or should be. The type of relationship he has with them is one hew and them build seperate from yours and his

12/30/2012 4:00:59 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
mrfishman196811
Brooklyn, NY
48, joined Dec. 2012


I dated a woman with a son...


not gonna do that any more...

12/30/2012 4:06:55 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

mr_imperfect
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,748)
Philadelphia, PA
54, joined Sep. 2011


Quote from endoftheline05:
What do men think or have concerns about when it comes to dating or forming a serious relationship with a single mother?


I have no issues with dating single moms. The only 2 times it would be a problem for me is if 1) the father(s) of the child(ren) involved is an asshat who hasnt accepted that his relationship with her is over and he tries to threaten or intimidate me because they can't deal with the fact i'm the new man in her life or 2) when she wants more kids. I am too f**king old to be bringing anymore kids of my own into this world and nothing or no one will get me to change my mind.

12/30/2012 4:16:02 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
singlochoy
Appleton, WI
63, joined Nov. 2012


depends on her past relationships

12/30/2012 11:19:26 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
gallianotime
Camp Pendleton, CA
31, joined Dec. 2012


i love my mother to death, so that said i have respect for a single mother regardless of reason, its not easy getting involved with a single mother, that is just a fact, most men are not ready for commitment let alone possibly being a father, it takes a lot of maturity and selflessness, because regardless of what agreements are made sooner or later you will be part of her kids life, so its best to be prepared to be not just a partner but a father figure as well.

12/31/2012 12:51:32 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
noteasyworthit
Wickenburg, AZ
28, joined Dec. 2012


Quote from spanky250:
noteasy, you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. I'm sure you're a good mother, and you'll make some guy very lucky someday.


you are very sweet. Thank you

12/31/2012 1:05:36 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
michoacan85
Santa Ana, CA
31, joined Oct. 2012


that motherf**ker who left you alone lol good luck

1/1/2013 12:39:44 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
johnnie4648
Mission Viejo, CA
25, joined Dec. 2012


Single.moms help yeah there independent respo
nsible and sexy!

1/1/2013 12:42:39 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
hotep7
Saint Louis, MO
46, joined May. 2011


Single mothers deserve love but to blindly pursue them without inquring as to the reason why they are single is "unhealthy policy."

1/1/2013 12:50:21 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
hotep7
Saint Louis, MO
46, joined May. 2011


Often, the men are no good. Consequently, the mother removes herself from the relationship and thus become single. But a single mother, like all single women, must be vetted.

1/1/2013 12:52:04 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
hotep7
Saint Louis, MO
46, joined May. 2011


Quote from hotep7:
Single mothers deserve love but to blindly pursue them without inquring as to the reason why they are single is "unhealthy policy."
indeed

1/1/2013 3:36:12 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
mamig13
Minneapolis, MN
29, joined Apr. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
uhh children are not bad luck or mistakes. They are a blessing no matter if they were brought into this world through marriage or not. I had my children while married and became a single mom shortly after my son was born.

I think the best way to approach a dating situation is to be completely honest about it. Hold nothing back. I mean your kids are evidence you aren't a virgin and you've had failed relationships hahaha.. so just be upfront about it.

If a man knows to begin with that you have a child/ren, than obviously if he's interested in you he knows that you come as a packaged deal. If he gets serious about you.. no need explaining.. he knows what he's in for.

If you scare a man off with the fact that you have a child, then trust me.. you should be thankful, because he was smart enough to realize he couldn't handle the responsibility that comes with dating a single mom.

I admit its a lot more commitment to date a single mom, because if a guy is serious about her, he's going to eventually meet the kids and play a role in their lives. Whatever that role is, it's up to you, him, and the children to decide. but once he's been put in that role, he better be ready to stay in that role, because he doesn't only have your heart, but the child's as well. It's tricky .. but you can find love. Just never feel bad about being a single mom!!! [/quote



1/1/2013 3:37:23 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
mamig13
Minneapolis, MN
29, joined Apr. 2012


Quote from johnnie4648:
Single.moms help yeah there independent respo
nsible and sexy!


I like how you think !

1/1/2013 3:42:17 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
thatonegirl83
Old Monroe, MO
34, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
uhh children are not bad luck or mistakes. They are a blessing no matter if they were brought into this world through marriage or not. I had my children while married and became a single mom shortly after my son was born.

I think the best way to approach a dating situation is to be completely honest about it. Hold nothing back. I mean your kids are evidence you aren't a virgin and you've had failed relationships hahaha.. so just be upfront about it.

If a man knows to begin with that you have a child/ren, than obviously if he's interested in you he knows that you come as a packaged deal. If he gets serious about you.. no need explaining.. he knows what he's in for.

If you scare a man off with the fact that you have a child, then trust me.. you should be thankful, because he was smart enough to realize he couldn't handle the responsibility that comes with dating a single mom.

I admit its a lot more commitment to date a single mom, because if a guy is serious about her, he's going to eventually meet the kids and play a role in their lives. Whatever that role is, it's up to you, him, and the children to decide. but once he's been put in that role, he better be ready to stay in that role, because he doesn't only have your heart, but the child's as well. It's tricky .. but you can find love. Just never feel bad about being a single mom!!!
couldn't have said it any better!!

1/1/2013 3:47:29 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
thatonegirl83
Old Monroe, MO
34, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from noteasyworthit:
I'm not sure what you thought i meant by loving me and my kids. I couldn't be with someone that loved me but freaking hated my kids. haha it kind of goes hand in hand. But just because a guy gets along amazing with the kids, doesn't necessarily mean him and I are right for each other.

That's why i've made it clear that during the dating process, a guy wont be meeting the kids.

what is considered serious? @ whoever asked that question, I guess in my opinion, its when its the point that the guy is falling pretty hard for me and I for him, that meeting the kids is the next step?? there is no real time frame, but a mama has to be cautious who she introduces to her kiddos.

i love how you think ma'am!!! good mama right there .. probably an awesome catch also, too bad i don't swing that way, id snatch ya up

1/1/2013 4:22:51 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
j2x4
Hartland, WI
49, joined Jul. 2012


I didnt read any others in this post first,this is for the poster only.
I though this one deserved a fresh thought without me getting distracted by others views first..
prrsonally,I think they are heroes in a way but the "no male role model"thing scares me 4 your children.
those reasons are obvious but take that with your "end of the line "theme scares me 4 you even more.
in your 20's and there allready?I think you honestly need to slow down.single mom syndrome is a scary place to be and we all know the reasons why,.. but whats the rush?
we all get lonely but, if your kids are your main concern, then look into other options 4 a role model,..uncle..your dad,brother or a close friend..love will find you,,just be patient...and leary of places like this...seriously.
I think that anyone who takes advantage of single moms is a criminal in my book and I do fear 4 your safety my dear as this is no place 4 a vunerable soul..
sorry this was so long,its just one of the topics that I am truely serious about..
I wish you only the best of luck here......and sorry, youre too young 4 me lol...
I do mentor various children around me and they are mostly family,but I take that role seriously, and do all I can to instill confidence and curiousity in them, due to the fact that this is a very unforgiving world we brought them into.

1/1/2013 4:23:04 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

dudefreed
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1/1/2013 4:41:13 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
rustyair
Hagaman, NY
56, joined Nov. 2012


I have been on threads like this many times and have seen both sides discussed. On POF (Plenty of Fish) single moms are like vipers and tell you that you are "Not a Real Man" if you dont want to date them.

Some of the guys on these forums are trying to rack up p*ssy points and will say anything to score.

But anyway being old enough my experience with single moms was not that good. She can be a knock out but if the mom cant make the time for you to go out screw it! There is somebody else that can. Just cant see playing up to somebody elses kids tantrums. Plus there is the visitation rights real baby daddy drama. A real life reminder that you are getting sloppy secons. Oh yes dont forget the financial aspect of the whole thing. Plus do you really want to go to Disney World on your vacation? LOL

I still remember one poster refering to kids as a "c*ck blocker" in the dating game. Its true when you think about it.

1/1/2013 5:16:21 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
th6231
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (34,817)
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
69, joined Jul. 2007


So why is the daddy not around?? Was she stupid enough to f**k a loser---and then turn up pregnant?? How about if she did it two or three times?? What the f**k is so special about a sperm sponge that f**ked--maybe-- 25 guys?? The kids are always first--you will have a 15 minute date--once a month. Is that what you really want?? Can't you do any better than trash??

1/1/2013 8:50:28 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
j2x4
Hartland, WI
49, joined Jul. 2012


Quote from rustyair:
I have been on threads like this many times and have seen both sides discussed. On POF (Plenty of Fish) single moms are like vipers and tell you that you are "Not a Real Man" if you dont want to date them.

Some of the guys on these forums are trying to rack up p*ssy points and will say anything to score.

But anyway being old enough my experience with single moms was not that good. She can be a knock out but if the mom cant make the time for you to go out screw it! There is somebody else that can. Just cant see playing up to somebody elses kids tantrums. Plus there is the visitation rights real baby daddy drama. A real life reminder that you are getting sloppy secons. Oh yes dont forget the financial aspect of the whole thing. Plus do you really want to go to Disney World on your vacation? LOL

I still remember one poster refering to kids as a "c*ck blocker" in the dating game. Its true when you think about it.

this is the other side of the coin..agreed but said kinda ruff,think thats the HARLEY image thing...the other reason y I dont care 4 those bikes

1/1/2013 10:13:18 AMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
rustyair
Hagaman, NY
56, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from j2x4:
this is the other side of the coin..agreed but said kinda ruff,think thats the HARLEY image thing...the other reason y I dont care 4 those bikes


Well than the whole world is your oyster. Marry a single mom with five ready made kids if thats your cup of tea. Just remember it costs money to live and provide a good future for the kids. You might have to downgrade to a trailer if you have a house...

1/1/2013 12:30:10 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
vi_gyal
Chesapeake, VA
30, joined Apr. 2012


Not all single mothers have three baby daddy drama. I'm a single mother of two lil girls and their dad isn't there for them. And he has no say in anything that I decided for my children. So if I choose to be with someone else and he is the one that my kids look up to or spend time with he can't bring no drama my way cause he decided to step out on us. Now as far as making time for another man dating, my kids will come first, but I also know it will be a give and take. Hire a babysitter for a couple ofof hours and as far as vacation, yes my kids will be there unless it is one that warrants for us to be alone. Financial wise I'm never asking a man to take care of my kids. That is something he has to choose on his own. If we get married then that is a different story. But dating a single mother isn't all that bad.

1/1/2013 1:32:47 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 

dgordon
Portsmouth, VA
28, joined Dec. 2012


I think she is a strong to b able to take care of a child, as far forming a relationship i wud definitely do it as long as she not one them crazy ppl an she dont have no drama as far her baby daddy is concerned, i prefer a single mom bcas they know to treat a man

1/1/2013 1:39:22 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
alano126
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Aiea, HI
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Quote from duece2you:
I'm not saying all single mothers are bad because that is not true. I choose not to date a single mom because I don't have any children of my own. I do want my own family someday and not a ready-made family. The biggest reason other than that is the baby daddy drama meaning he don't want the single mother ,but tries to use that as an excuse to sleep with them. I'm not saying its like that with all single mothers, but I am fully aware of it.
This

1/1/2013 1:51:27 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
romantikindnes1
San Antonio, TX
44, joined Jan. 2013


Not a issue with me a single mom the issue, I would have is what kind of mother is she does she party all the time ,does she have her mom or grandmother raise her child.
Not saying all single moms are bad some are great moms.

1/1/2013 1:53:46 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
johnycash53
Knoxville, TN
32, joined Dec. 2012


I would much rather be with a woman that has no kids. I would like to start my own family rather than join some ready made family.

1/1/2013 2:38:52 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
goldmole
Newport News, VA
33, joined Dec. 2012


i dont have any kids right now but i believe no female should call her self a single mom if the childs father is doing there part it can be misleading to a certain degree if you are looking foward to moving foward be real with the situation some women down play there babys daddy by calling themselves a single mom

1/1/2013 10:43:01 PMWhat Do Men Think About Single Mothers? 
j2x4
Hartland, WI
49, joined Jul. 2012


Quote from rustyair:
Well than the whole world is your oyster. Marry a single mom with five ready made kids if thats your cup of tea. Just remember it costs money to live and provide a good future for the kids. You might have to downgrade to a trailer if you have a house...


sorry 4 the snipe..really...lets just agree to help the young lady ok???like your opinion , just not your bike, no big deal really..