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1/17/2014 10:55:47 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

monycanas
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Memphis, TN
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Okay so a guy made a status about how women he met here don't look like their pictures...


This is actually possible and happens often...

You could have lost/gained weight since your dh pictures or just look way different in reality...

So my question is...

Is it still considered catfishing if the picture is really you but look totally different than you currently look in person and on regular?

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1/17/2014 10:58:18 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
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Yes...

1/17/2014 10:58:27 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
agapeamore
Lombard, IL
29, joined Dec. 2013


No...

1/17/2014 11:01:09 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

mrld_ii
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Stockton, CA
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Everybody looks different than their pictures...pics are one-dimensional; meeting in person is 3-D.



When someone says, "they didn't look anything like their pictures" (in a *bad* way), unless the person deliberately used photos from decades ago, pounds ago, or hair-color-changes ago,


chances are they're simply saying, "There was no chemistry when we met."


If you're using online TO meet people to date, best advice is to keep your photos at least relatively current; update them when and if there's a drastic change in something about your appearance.


I'd like to know if that guy in a business suit went out and put a spike through his nose,



yanno?




1/17/2014 11:01:46 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

monycanas
Over 2,000 Posts (2,200)
Memphis, TN
23, joined Jun. 2013


Okay BUT

what if it's a very recent picture but the camera just makes you look 30 times better?

1/17/2014 11:02:07 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
lilod
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Aurora, IL
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I don't think it matters what you call it. It's clearly dishonest.

1/17/2014 11:03:25 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
agapeamore
Lombard, IL
29, joined Dec. 2013


Quote from monycanas:
Okay BUT

what if it's a very recent picture but the camera just makes you look 30 times better?



Can't help how the camera makes you look. It's a recent pic!

1/17/2014 11:03:43 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
dan9787
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Laval, QC
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It depends. If I think the person deliberately tried to mislead me...out of disrespect for my "wishes".. I might not like that.

But if she has changed and didn't update the pics, afraid I'd reject her... I'm not a stickler for a thing like that.

I'd prefer she went back to what she was, but we'll take everything else into consideration.

Being harsh isn't my business.


On the other thread, we learned that aud was really 462 lbs, but she still has a pretty face?

*duck*



1/17/2014 11:03:44 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
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Glam shots!!!

My favorite...

1/17/2014 11:18:03 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

mrld_ii
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OP, for MOST people online, ANY picture they post is one they like how they look the best.



But, I gotta say...the fact that you're fretting so much about it, and wondering how far's too far, how much wiggle-room, "but what if..."



would make one think you should remove whatever picture(s) you're so concerned about.




============================




This is a really oddly, ironically and serendipitously-timed thread, OP. Pretty sure there's quite a few who would welcome some majorly doctored-up photos 'round here, right about now.






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1/17/2014 11:20:07 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
tasty_taters
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I do too.........

I just happen to have this BLANK look on my face at the moment....

Woman......don't ever question my picture again

now go fix me a sammich

1/17/2014 11:23:00 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
tasty_taters
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correction



Quote from creekstomper:
It's taters bed time .





1/17/2014 11:24:48 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
lilod
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Quote from monycanas:
Okay BUT

what if it's a very recent picture but the camera just makes you look 30 times better?


I guess in a weird way I got lucky in this regard. I've never taken a good picture in my life. It's always been a big joke in my family, that something very unpleasant happens to me when you point a camera at me. I could roll out of bed in the morning after not having showered for two days and look better than I do in my best pictures, so I will definitely never be accused of misleading anyone.

1/17/2014 11:25:11 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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Quote from agapeamore:
Can't help how the camera makes you look. It's a recent pic!


She probably can't help posting that ol' catfish either...right???

1/17/2014 11:25:30 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
tjl503
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Portland, OR
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People should update their profile. If I was single dating on here I would have a current pic up. People lead with their best foot forward online. They take a bunch of selfies, find the one that looks the best hiding the extra chins. Fix it up a little and post it. Not all people do this. I think this site should have built in video chat. A quick video session can save people so much time. Instead people will text for months and build up all these false expectations.

You have posted "full figured" and I'm just not seeing that from your pics. You have a reversal of what you're talking about. Dudes are going to expect a whale and you're going to roll up and give them an insta boner. Maybe you're the master of illusion. It wouldn't be the first time I was bamboozled.

1/17/2014 11:30:19 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

monycanas
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Memphis, TN
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This thread isn't about me lol i asked because of a status someone on here made... it made me get curious...


Honestly i look better in person than on my pictures

1/17/2014 11:40:28 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
lilod
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Quote from angelofdeath88:
you look fine lilod


You just copped to being high in another thread. You don't get to vote.

1/17/2014 11:41:57 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
grneyesrme
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My pics are all current. I've never heard I don't look like my pic. If I look like mine, they better look like theirs.

1/17/2014 11:43:06 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

angle4444
Grand Rapids, MI
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It doesn't sound very honest

1/17/2014 11:55:00 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

monycanas
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Quote from plpact:
this thread sucks



Why are you here?

1/17/2014 11:59:47 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
auburngirlsrock
Chattanooga, TN
42, joined May. 2013


Quote from lilod:
I don't think it matters what you call it. It's clearly dishonest.
. Why mislead someone ? You want to meet an honest person? Be honest! Unfortunately on a site like this looks are first impression, profile second, but meeting over rides it all... Post current pics along with others maybe.. If you've gained a few, lost a few it's ok just be real. Lilod said it best



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1/18/2014 12:00:31 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

mindil
Sevierville, TN
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Quote from monycanas:
Okay so a guy made a status about how women he met here don't look like their pictures...


This is actually possible and happens often...

You could have lost/gained weight since your dh pictures or just look way different in reality...

So my question is...

Is it still considered catfishing if the picture is really you but look totally different than you currently look in person and on regular?


I think it is.. It's kinda leading someone to think you look like something you aren't.

1/18/2014 12:02:55 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
fun2bchattin
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Hmmm...look the same, unless at the gym, then going to be all sweaty and stuff.

1/18/2014 12:08:37 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
auburngirlsrock
Chattanooga, TN
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Damn I couldn't sleep so thought why not check out the forums . Saw this and responded, but the more I think about it .... Seriously did you really ask this question? Wtf?? Would you wanna meet a man thinking he was sexy and fit just to walk up on the complete opposite ?!!!! No! There is someone for everyone , we are all different that's what is great about life.. We have opinions and choices. Mislead and you're only cheating yourself!



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1/18/2014 12:19:08 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

monycanas
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Quote from auburngirlsrock:
Damn I couldn't sleep so thought why not check out the forums . Saw this and responded, but the more I think about it .... Seriously did you really ask this question? Wtf?? Would you wanna meet a man thinking he was sexy and fit just to walk up on the complete opposite ?!!!! No! There is someone for everyone , we are all different that's what is great about life.. We have opinions and choices. Mislead and you're only cheating yourself!




I hate repeating myself...


But again this thread isn't personally about me i asked based off a status and thought it was interesting...


Technically by some definitions if it's you then it's not catfishing.

1/18/2014 12:22:54 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
rdeffley
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San Jose, CA
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I hate having my pic taken and feel very uncomfortable in front of a camera. I begrudgingly took the pics I have up now two years ago to give an update on here and on Match where I do my online dating.

It's funny because now that I am considerably leaner and have my goattee styled better, I look way younger. People always think I am in the 26-28 range (I'm 33). In a way it works out in my favor because every woman I meet says that I am so much better looking than my pics.

1/18/2014 12:23:19 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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Glam shots are pretty realistic...bathed in that warm soft glow, eyes glistening...





1/18/2014 12:29:31 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

mindil
Sevierville, TN
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@Alls...oh yeah those glam shots are awesome. I need to get some of those..make me look beautiful!

1/18/2014 12:33:34 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
auburngirlsrock
Chattanooga, TN
42, joined May. 2013


It is what it is

1/18/2014 12:46:09 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
rdeffley
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Quote from mindil:
@Alls...oh yeah those glam shots are awesome. I need to get some of those..make me look beautiful!


I liked the one of you on the couch. You have a natural girl next door look to you.

1/18/2014 12:49:36 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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Its a glam shot from her early twenties...



1/18/2014 12:49:43 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

bumblebee7
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They shouldn't look totally different, even if they lost weight.

Most of the time, we are talking about in the face, or age. If its weight, then that usually means they are bigger in real life.

This is called deception...a little difference is one thing...way too different is deception.


Its not catfishing.

Catfishing refers to a fake profile....a made up one.



Thats the real terminology....some have it wrong...whatever.



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1/18/2014 1:05:43 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
coldness
Kent, WA
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No
because it is still you.

1/18/2014 1:07:28 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
alls_fair
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<------------does not use the urban dictionary...

1/18/2014 1:29:16 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
6969foryou
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Yes that's why people should have a warning sign in fine print under their pics saying. Not to scale, results may very, or a date of when it was taken.
I know for sure there a few people for at least a year that haven't changed or updated their pic....

1/18/2014 1:40:11 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

baileybug32
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If we hit it off on the site I move to texting, and then ask for a now pic.. Meaning take a pic now and send it.

1/18/2014 1:40:24 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
islandia8_2
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Quote from 6969foryou:
Yes that's why people should have a warning sign in fine print under their pics saying. Not to scale, results may very, or a date of when it was taken.
I know for sure there a few people for at least a year that haven't changed or updated their pic....






1/18/2014 1:40:38 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

jamjam777
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I took mine in the bathroom ......about 2 months after I joined .....cause at 1st I didn't want to put a pic up.....but people kept asking 4 one so.....I said what the hell Y not.....now they can be put off without having to know me.........

1/18/2014 1:41:21 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

baileybug32
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Quote from 6969foryou:
Yes that's why people should have a warning sign in fine print under their pics saying. Not to scale, results may very, or a date of when it was taken.
I know for sure there a few people for at least a year that haven't changed or updated their pic....
You can't comment, you have no pic!! JS

1/18/2014 5:02:50 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
lavina8
Ypsilanti, MI
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I think it is and it has happened a lot to me but there are also ppl who just look better in person or edit their photos to look better. I love editing the colors but that's because I love photography. I have been told I look better in person so idk I just update my photos now and then so not to "catfish" anyone lol

1/18/2014 5:18:28 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

gallo_rama
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The 4 people I've met from here all looked like their pics.

1/18/2014 7:01:50 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
rainydaze26
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If you are serious about meeting someone then you're going to get busted eventually & all the talk goes does down the drain. Why not be honest with your words & pics from the begining.

1/18/2014 7:08:17 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

gamerepairpros
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Cleveland, OH
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Yes its catfishing because you are lying about your appearance. Having your prom pic up knowing you've stacked on 50lbs ten years later is a gawd damn lie

1/18/2014 7:50:47 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
bluballs
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Southfield, MI
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I bet u that, i look just like my pics or better

1/18/2014 10:21:27 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
jrupp0604
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Guys always say i look better than my pics, and i do not look my age

1/18/2014 10:26:14 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
tenacious_one
Maple Valley, WA
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Great question! It sounds like a total "gray area." (No pun intended ladies lol) My concern would be the "age" you are in the picture. If you say your 30 for example and you post a picture that's 5+ years old then I'd say yes for sure. Doesn't matter if you look the same, if you do post a new one and prove it... Lol.



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1/18/2014 10:35:28 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
kaleeb09
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I always ask my truthful little sister or friends before I add a picture. I wouldn't want any one to be surprised or to feel deceived. I never had any one tell me I didn't look like my pictures. Thank God I never met anyone who didn't look like their pictures.

1/18/2014 10:54:43 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
cali8zice
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Quote from carenot:
Actually I do look like my pic



me too

1/18/2014 11:03:29 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

max811
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I bought one of those new nacho crunch deals from taco bell the other day.I was pretty disappointed when I got it and it didn't even have an 1/8 of the filling as the one on the commercial.

1/18/2014 11:20:15 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
6969foryou
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Quote from jamjam777:
I took mine in the bathroom ......about 2 months after I joined .....cause at 1st I didn't want to put a pic up.....but people kept asking 4 one so.....I said what the hell Y not.....now they can be put off without having to know me.........


LOL
Classic... When the chicks take pics in the bathroom and its a mess in there... Dirty mirrors, toiletries all over the place, and a few rolls of sexy toilet paper!

1/18/2014 11:30:59 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

okdazie
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I look like my pictures. They are all only months old. Why would someone want to humiliate them self by putting up old pictures if you want to meet someone.

1/18/2014 11:40:08 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

lisaorchid
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I have yet to have that happen to me.

1/18/2014 11:48:16 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
6969foryou
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Sacramento, CA
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Quote from okdazie:
I look like my pictures. They are all only months old. Why would someone want to humiliate them self by putting up old pictures if you want to meet someone.


You are right and it makes sense...
The bad and sad part is that people often do that...

1/18/2014 11:50:36 AMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

barrydalmi
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In a way yes- but probably not totally . I think for "catfish" to apply the fish has to be on purpose-totally trying to trick the idiot on the other end.



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1/18/2014 12:01:58 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

1darksavior
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i drop and gain weight like every 6 months right now i am in the middle of a cut faze and dropping 30 lbs but will not change pics until i am done but i am sexy big or smaller , born with the sexy dna.

1/18/2014 12:04:34 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

fishnthec
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I've got news for you- You don't look like what you see in your mirror- to others!

No one else does either!

1/18/2014 12:06:42 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 
6969foryou
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Sacramento, CA
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Quote from baileybug32:
You can't comment, you have no pic!! JS


That's like telling the ones that are here for "forums only" to take a hike since they are not interested in dating.

Your pic looks nice... How recent is it?

1/18/2014 12:08:04 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

1darksavior
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Quote from fishnthec:
I've got news for you- You don't look like what you see in your mirror- to others!

No one else does either!
so true lol

1/18/2014 12:09:19 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

1darksavior
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Quote from 6969foryou:
That's like telling the ones that are here for "forums only" to take a hike since they are not interested in dating.

Your pic looks nice... How recent is it?
sorry no pic you lose the right to talk about looks

1/18/2014 12:18:36 PMYou look nothing like your picture!!! 

1darksavior
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i only met one girl who did that said she was 200 , but she was more like 300 lol