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6/23/2014 10:25:20 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


it just seems like men now days don't want to date single moms... what's the deal?




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6/23/2014 10:28:45 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
dholt82
Lynchburg, TN
35, joined Jun. 2014


Because when u have your kids u cant bring anyone around them

6/23/2014 10:29:37 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
nycbrian70
New York, NY
45, joined May. 2014


They left the kids they fathered don't like the reminder.

6/23/2014 10:31:04 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
rjluv211
Nashville, TN
35, joined Feb. 2013


because you won't give good guys like me a chance.

6/23/2014 10:31:20 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

smstephanie
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,850)
Moorhead, MN
44, joined May. 2014


Quote from dholt82:
Because when u have your kids u cant bring anyone around them


What??? Don't bring date around till things get serious...but doesn't mean you can't date EVER because you have kids

6/23/2014 10:32:32 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


Too many single moms are clueless when it comes to balance.

Make yourself available. Relationships need time to develop.



[Edited 6/23/2014 10:34:48 PM ]

6/23/2014 10:33:49 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
outhere925
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,904)
Antioch, CA
35, joined Apr. 2013


People like struggling. Point blank. It whats keep you going

6/23/2014 10:34:00 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
soulflight
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,547)
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014


Quote from chadischad:
Too many single moms are clueless when it comes to balance.


This.

Harshly put and there is more to it but basically true.



[Edited 6/23/2014 10:34:48 PM ]

6/23/2014 10:36:18 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from chadischad:
Too many single moms are clueless when it comes to balance.

Make yourself available. Relationships need time to develop.
lol single moms do allot of balancing!

6/23/2014 10:37:24 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
nycbrian70
New York, NY
45, joined May. 2014


Quote from soulflight:
This.

Harshly put and there is more to it but basically true.


Not at all that means "I want all her time, she is unbalanced with kids since that's not what I get."

6/23/2014 10:38:23 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


Ive dated plenty. The same issue arises every single time...no time.

Its frustrating and is not how a relationship will form.

6/23/2014 10:38:35 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

jamjam777
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,176)
Van Buren, AR
47, joined Oct. 2013


It's hard for everyone ....so...do be down.....

6/23/2014 10:39:19 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


Quote from fightlikeagirl3:
lol single moms do allot of balancing!


Yeah...for you and your kids. Not the guy.

6/23/2014 10:41:56 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from chadischad:
Ive dated plenty. The same issue arises every single time...no time.

Its frustrating and is not how a relationship will form.
true time it's very important for everything! I know I stay busy with my kiddos but they are only little once. I try to save time for someone special but I guess me being so independent plays a factor too.

6/23/2014 10:43:32 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
nycbrian70
New York, NY
45, joined May. 2014


Poor SOB. How's that fathering 6 little slimies and paying no attention working?

6/23/2014 10:43:51 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

smstephanie
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,850)
Moorhead, MN
44, joined May. 2014


The problem is people with kids think they can't have a life outside of mother/father hood.....Your kids need your attention, but not 100%....Just like a couple who is married or dating and has kids together..they have date nights and time away from the kids...Single mothers need to take time for themselves, and give as much time to the man they want in their lives as they do their kids...It's hard, but hell what isn't.

6/23/2014 10:44:13 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
noneyadamnbiz
Reading, PA
31, joined May. 2014


Wow I never thought about that. I figure if a guy is truly interested he will be patient and with time I will make more time for him if I feel it's worth it.

6/23/2014 10:44:40 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


No. Independence is not the issue.

Its more than likely your lack of time. And 3 kids can be a daunting undertaking.

Youre young and pretty...find time for you.

6/23/2014 10:45:06 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


Quote from smstephanie:
The problem is people with kids think they can't have a life outside of mother/father hood.....Your kids need your attention, but not 100%....Just like a couple who is married or dating and has kids together..they have date nights and time away from the kids...Single mothers need to take time for themselves, and give as much time to the man they want in their lives as they do their kids...It's hard, but hell what isn't.


100 % this.

6/23/2014 10:45:59 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
40, joined May. 2014


Quote from noneyadamnbiz:
Wow I never thought about that. I figure if a guy is truly interested he will be patient and with time I will make more time for him if I feel it's worth it.


Nice of you to throw him some scraps.

How selfish.

6/23/2014 10:46:07 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from nycbrian70:
Poor SOB. How's that fathering 6 little slimies and paying no attention working?
hum who and what are you talking about?

6/23/2014 10:46:21 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
the_simple_path
Los Lunas, NM
46, joined May. 2014


Quote from fightlikeagirl3:
it just seems like men now days don't want to date single moms... what's the deal?




Drama. I feel, if you meet a single mother after she is done and past her child's fathers departure. They are like any other woman on the prowl.

6/23/2014 10:46:45 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

smstephanie
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,850)
Moorhead, MN
44, joined May. 2014


lol so why can't I get a date...damn I even live in a town called MOORHEAD...I guess it's time to just go ahead and post tit pics lmao

6/23/2014 10:47:43 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

claudius5
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (20,941)
Petaluma, CA
67, joined May. 2009


Applied critical thinking skills would suggest that some men will and some men won't. Also if they choose to not date a woman with a/or kid(s); it's their preference and doesn't make them bad men. Probably the ones who don't care are in your friends zone.

Just an added note. There are some women who don't date men with a/or kid(s).

In other words you have to deal the hand life has dealt you. It's that simple.

6/23/2014 10:49:26 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
nycbrian70
New York, NY
45, joined May. 2014


Herpes Chad has those 6 kids pretends he's not a father.

6/23/2014 10:49:51 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from chadischad:
No. Independence is not the issue.

Its more than likely your lack of time. And 3 kids can be a daunting undertaking.

Youre young and pretty...find time for you.
thank you!! I've started giving myself at least one night out for now. if a special man comes in my life I will find even more time..

6/23/2014 10:51:29 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from the_simple_path:
Drama. I feel, if you meet a single mother after she is done and past her child's fathers departure. They are like any other woman on the prowl.
lol how do you know it wasn't the father that broke the marriage up? Lol on the prowl

6/23/2014 10:52:59 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

kingfish76
Reading, PA
41, joined Jun. 2013


Cause you should be worrying about your kid(s) instead of wanting another problem

6/23/2014 10:55:16 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
dan9787
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,296)
Laval, QC
53, joined Apr. 2011


Quote from noneyadamnbiz:
Wow I never thought about that. I figure if a guy is truly interested he will be patient and with time I will make more time for him if I feel it's worth it.




6/23/2014 10:57:31 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
noneyadamnbiz
Reading, PA
31, joined May. 2014


Quote from chadischad:
Nice of you to throw him some scraps.

How selfish.
Now I know why I am single

6/23/2014 10:57:34 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from kingfish76:
Cause you should be worrying about your kid(s) instead of wanting another problem
oh lol true in a way. I would like to have someone to spend time with when the kids are at their dad's house.

6/23/2014 10:57:39 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
the_simple_path
Los Lunas, NM
46, joined May. 2014


Quote from fightlikeagirl3:
lol how do you know it wasn't the father that broke the marriage up? Lol on the prowl



I would think time for anyone who walks away or is left with the responsibility needs time to recover for them before moving on. It's when they're ready to move on, that if a man meets a single mother, he should see where this path leads him.

6/23/2014 11:00:21 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from the_simple_path:
I would think time for anyone who walks away or is left with the responsibility needs time to recover for them before moving on. It's when they're ready to move on, that if a man meets a single mother, he should see where this path leads him.
well time isn't the factor here. I've been divorced for 6 years now. Yes I've been in one serious relationship since then.

6/23/2014 11:04:44 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
e_girlfriend
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,781)
Ĺ achovskaja
Russia
30, joined Aug. 2013


I don't have any problems dating

6/23/2014 11:05:58 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
outhere925
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,904)
Antioch, CA
35, joined Apr. 2013


I noticed lots of trifling things in my life time. I just try to keep it at a all time high minimum

6/23/2014 11:07:22 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
the_simple_path
Los Lunas, NM
46, joined May. 2014


Quote from fightlikeagirl3:
well time isn't the factor here. I've been divorced for 6 years now. Yes I've been in one serious relationship since then.




By all logic. This would mean aside from all daily life issues, you should be drama free then and the perfect single mother to date

6/23/2014 11:09:30 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
fightlikeagirl3
Woodbury, TN
34, joined Mar. 2014


Quote from the_simple_path:
By all logic. This would mean aside from all daily life issues, you should be drama free then and the perfect single mother to date
aww thanks yep it's drama free!

6/23/2014 11:11:51 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
latinasm
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,106)
Amarillo, TX
49, joined May. 2014


It is hard being a single mom... An dating ... Ur kids , if u have them, have a say so... To see if he's a good guy not just to you but to ur kids ! My kids are all grown except one an he approves of the guy I've been with for a couple of yrs... They just want to see me happy !

6/23/2014 11:16:54 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
soulflight
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,547)
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014


My personal choice was to not date until the youngest was in high school and well on her way to independence. Parenting does take 100% of your time, directly or indirectly and the time I took for myself was still an investment in them. I needed to be healthy and whole before I even considered being in a partnership again. I always knew that I could not reasonably date during that time, it's just how I'm wired.

Some women can. They have a better, broader support system. It's a challenge for any single parent and some difficult choices will have to be made. That's the commitment of parenting.

Another thread is making great sport of the 90 day rule re: sex but too many kids are exposed to mom or dad's new squeeze in less time than that.

6/23/2014 11:21:17 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
polia
Brooklyn, NY
30, joined Dec. 2012


You can't bring someone you just met around them but once u get to know that person, of course u can!

6/23/2014 11:27:54 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
wildcoyote69
Troy, VT
40, joined May. 2014


Its a interesting topic a person has to be around dateabl people to date and unless you meet them working single parents don't have the time to per sue relationships plus a lot of guys don't want to comitt there time it men's nature is to provide and it is a natural stress to feel that dating some one with kids I have four if I date someone there's not gonna be a lot of relaxing one on one time you have kids there priority not dateing

6/23/2014 11:47:44 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
don_johnson99
Over 1,000 Posts (1,814)
Janesville, WI
56, joined Nov. 2013


No man in his right mind wants to support and raise YOUR little bastards.

6/23/2014 11:49:26 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
aptissimusqts
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,056)
Appleton, WI
32, joined Aug. 2013


well op, just try to develop a thing for subordinate, beta males because no dominant man is gonna tolerate another man's offspring in his house, inconveniencing him and getting on his nerves day in and day out. Raising another man's child is life's ultimate failure for a man - that's just instinct and nothing you could ever do will ever change it. And be aware that when that cat is away, the mouse will be a complete jackass to your kids cuz NO man has your kid's best interests in mind other than the one you made the kids with. Maybe you should've made it work with THAT guy. At least thats how any worthwhile man is gonna see your situation. Hes gonna think to himself, that if your kids truly mattered to you, you would have.


He's gonna project your failure to do what's best for those kids onto the potential kids he would plan on having with you and... errrr! next please




Unless a chick is an undeniable 10 all around, the baby daddy is tragically deceased, its 1 or 2 small children, and the kids could pass as my own (which means they'd have to be adorable ) I just can't see any potential whatsoever in a relationship with a single mother

6/23/2014 11:50:33 PMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
lilod
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Aurora, IL
51, joined Aug. 2012


The bigger question in my mind is why there are so many single moms who seem to want to date.

6/24/2014 12:01:11 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
aptissimusqts
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,056)
Appleton, WI
32, joined Aug. 2013


Quote from lilod:
The bigger question in my mind is why there are so many single moms who seem to want to date.





Because this is America and the culture here has pretty much destroyed women from the younger generations. Women aren't mothers anymore. They're either obese, man-hating, working professionals with cats or they're subsidized baby factories encouraged to break up the family they recklessly started for a free ride and a biweekly allowance in child support payments.

6/24/2014 12:04:33 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
agoodfather23
Vineland, NJ
44, joined Apr. 2014


Most guys dont understand that dating a single mother takes patience, you have to be on her time

6/24/2014 12:04:45 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

myrealme
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,257)
Nampa, ID
42, joined Aug. 2013


Quote from lilod:
The bigger question in my mind is why there are so many single moms who seem to want to date.


why wouldn't they?

6/24/2014 12:09:05 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
tasty_taters
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,859)
Springfield, IL
38, joined Jan. 2014


it's because 2014 is the year all men must hate single moms.........look at your calendar, it's right there......

it's "the year of the virgin" and we must only ying, yang, and BANG virgins this year......try again next year op

sorry......just following protocol



[Edited 6/24/2014 12:10:01 AM ]

6/24/2014 12:14:41 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
outhere925
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,904)
Antioch, CA
35, joined Apr. 2013


I done it. Dated, help kids out, spent time in class rooms. Raised my child by myself. Taught me lots about how to treat a lady. How to treat a child. How to be a man.

6/24/2014 12:15:20 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
flirty_n_fun67
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,299)
Belleville, ON
49, joined Sep. 2010


Quote from outhere925:
I done it. Dated, help kids out, spent time in class rooms. Raised my child by myself. Taught me lots about how to treat a lady. How to treat a child. How to be a man.





6/24/2014 12:15:20 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
ronleeseberg
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Mauston, WI
50, joined Jan. 2012


Not much easier for single dads either. Spent many years dateless because I was a full time single parent.

6/24/2014 12:19:06 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
soulflight
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,547)
Baltimore, MD
55, joined Apr. 2014


Being a single parent is a full-time investment. It is the most exhausting and most rewarding thing you will ever accomplish...but it's hell on dating. Takes two very special people to pull it off.



[Edited 6/24/2014 12:19:53 AM ]

6/24/2014 12:19:15 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
trillyenagain
Anderson, IN
37, joined Dec. 2013


Imho....because men want someone without kids....i know I do. Kids take away time that could other wise be spent with there man....and vice versa 2 of course for single dads....although I can't speak for how woman feel about guys with kids.

But I'd much rather have a chick with no kids....i can't answer for a guy that has kids tho.

if that's the case....you just gotta find a compatible mate.....what's ment to be will be.

6/24/2014 12:22:36 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
tasty_taters
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,859)
Springfield, IL
38, joined Jan. 2014


Quote from ronleeseberg:
Not much easier for single dads either. Spent many years dateless because I was a full time single parent.


I'm going on 7 yrs now

at least mine is out of the more crucial years of development now......so I see that she's growing up to be very intelligent, kind, and full of personality and common sense......

so I'm looking to start getting back into the dating game again



[Edited 6/24/2014 12:23:29 AM ]

6/24/2014 12:24:39 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
reader85037
Phoenix, AZ
42, joined Apr. 2014


it just seems like men now days don't want to date single moms
What do you mean now a days?

Can you remember a time when men were clamoring all over the place "Why can't we find more single mothers?! Where are all the single mothers?! I'm tired of dating these no child single losers!"

why is it so hard being a single mom and dating
Because despite all the smoke being blown up your a** about how single mothers are some sort of hero, in the eyes of the dating "world," or dating pool of desirable people, you basically have a c*ckblocking parasitic STD that is never going to go away and is more than likely going to cause problems and stress in the future.

Because people that take relationships seriously understand that dating a single mother means forming 2 long term serious relationships as opposed to just one.

Because people already know, or at least feel, on an instinctual level that you've pair bonded with someone else, you've chosen someone else to mate with and judge their genes as worthy to pass on. So any kids you may have in the future there is greater potential for doubt as to whose it really is. I mean this other one isn't his, so who's to say this new one isn't either? Not to mention the kid that isn't his represents future competition.

And that's 90%+ why men find you attracted and want to date you in the first place...you represent someone they want to pass their genes on with.
Thanks to civilization people don't act like lions and perform infanticide (all that often, albeit some women seem to kill their kids when trying to attract a new mate) when taking on a mate with kids.


Ehhh...lots more reasons, I'm just bored of typing.

Sorry.
Thems the breaks kid.

6/24/2014 3:13:50 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
riflessivo
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AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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Quote from fightlikeagirl3:
it just seems like men now days don't want to date single moms... what's the deal?


No deal. Maybe you meant why do the men you like don't want to date you?

More often than not if a guy likes YOU he is already aware you have a child/children.



[Edited 6/24/2014 3:14:20 AM ]

6/24/2014 3:33:03 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

horace_schitt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,218)
Wausau, WI
50, joined Oct. 2009


I gotta be straight here. I've been divorced for a very long time. My kids are long grown and gone. I have dated ladies who have kids, and the truth is, I just don't have the time or patience for young kids anymore. I've already been through all of that, and I'm done. I simply don't wanna have to go through all that again.

Just being honest.

6/24/2014 3:35:01 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
riflessivo
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AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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Nothing wrong with being honest.



6/24/2014 3:36:02 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 
brandycool1
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Syracuse, NY
46, joined Jun. 2013


Quote from horace_schitt:
I gotta be straight here. I've been divorced for a very long time. My kids are long grown and gone. I have dated ladies who have kids, and the truth is, I just don't have the time or patience for young kids anymore. I've already been through all of that, and I'm done. I simply don't wanna have to go through all that again.

Just being honest.


Nothing wrong with that.

6/24/2014 3:38:32 AMWhy is it so hard being a single mom and dating? 

horace_schitt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,218)
Wausau, WI
50, joined Oct. 2009


I just didn't want to thought of as some kind of a**hole for being upfront.