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1/19/2015 11:56:49 PMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
28, joined Feb. 2014


There's a scene in American sniper where a guy at a bar approaches a woman and the woman is completely disgusted by it. He offers to buy her a drink and she goes "will a drink make you 4 inches taller? will a drink make you not married?". That scene stuck out to me because it's like the portrayal of how I imagine me trying to make something happen with a woman will go down every time. I imagine them being disgusted like that and then turning me down hard and having it be humiliating in public. Now I'm normal height (5'10) and I'm not married but I'm sure most women can find a 1,000 flaws with me just like every other male they talk to.


So how do you guys do it? How do you not let ugly and embarrassing rejections like that stop you from approaching other women? Just the fear of getting humiliated like that in public is too intense for me


On the other side, I don't meet women at all in my job/friends/day to day activities (no matter how much I go out to socialize in all sorts of different venues) and the few decent ladies I meet are never attracted to me. I honestly think I'm going to die alone

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1/20/2015 12:11:12 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
im2thexy
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Belleville, ON
49, joined Dec. 2014


Stop attaching yourself to the idea that they have to be your g/f...first of all and just apprpach it from the stand point of talking to women so that you can be yourself and comfortable...just look at it as having a conversation and not making a play everytime...then if the convo goes well ask what she would think about going out sometime...provided she is single...if not dont take it personally...dont take it as rejection...take it as for some reason you're not compatible and move on...

1/20/2015 12:20:03 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

zane097
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,667)
Arvada, CO
49, joined May. 2014


Yes, the above is good. In my younger days, I had trouble talking to girls because of the fear of rejection and I would be thinking about sex the whole time i'm talking to them. Honestly, I started going to the gym and feeling better. I started approaching women and talking to them. Scary the first time but I got more than a few numbers and when I got rejected, it wasn't nearly the big deal my mind made it into. Fear (for me) has had tremendous power. I listened to it and let it dictate my life. As in, it told me what was "safe" and what wasn't and I listened. It grows more powerful this way (again-my experience). My mind will also tell me that certain conditions will last forever. This, for me, is the end result of fear. I am led to a place of hopelessness. This probably sounds quite bizarre to someone who hasn't experienced this but it is what my reality was for quite some time.

1/20/2015 12:23:36 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
miscbyproduct
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Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
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"women can find a 1,000 flaws"

thats going to happen no matter what
and no matter which side that fence ya on

kinda what i been getting at in everyone of these poor pitiful me thread you been making
you be serious or bs
still comes down to the same as i said above

1/20/2015 12:24:02 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
rdeffley
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,155)
San Jose, CA
36, joined Sep. 2009


You have a self defeatist attitude and your body language will show that when you're dealing with women. They'll automatically dismiss you because you have no confidence. I mean if you don't like yourself, why should they like you?

1/20/2015 12:24:08 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
im2thexy
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Belleville, ON
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Yep..fear will keep you locked in the same place if you let it...i agree with zane....you have to face and confront it or it will control you and your life...and no its never as bad as your mind makes it out to be...and with each step you take it gets easier....

1/20/2015 12:25:59 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
amusicluvr
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Salem, OR
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I don't get ugly, or embarrassing, rejections. I let the women approach me. I, then, accept, or reject, them.

To begin with, I am confident. Add to that, the fact that I do not whine. I also know that I am a great guy to be with, so if I did approach a woman, and she did reject me, she would be hurting herself far worse than hurting me. What would I care if she wanted to shortchange herself by not having the best there is? I have what some may consider flaws...being old, of average height, overweight, etc. On the other hand, I have: class, knowledge, skill, a sense of humor, and a tongue women will die for. I tend to intrigue women by displaying my knowledge, sense of humor, various skills, or such. It makes them notice me, and lures them in.

I had my profile, and some posts, on here for just under two weeks when a several women contacted me. I replied. I hit it off especially well with one of them, and we became an item. I then made my profile invisible as I am no longer looking for dates. I have someone, and we get along great. She was attracted by some of the things I said in my profile, some of what I said in various forum postings, and the way I spoke when we started emailing, and phone calling, each other.

I made it clear that sex was definitely ONE of the things I was interested in...BUT NOT THE ONLY THING I was interested in. I demonstrated an interest in, and knowledge of, music (classical, jazz, r&b, r&r, country, folk, gospel, show tunes, and more). I demonstrated an interest in / knowledge of: literature, poetry, photography, the occult, religion, science, art, self defense, cooking, and more. I am a well rounded, multi-facetted, person...not a unidirectional monomind. Some women will dig me,and others won't. I ignore those who won't, and concentrate on those who do.

I totally avoid bars. I use mostly the internet dating sites, and sometimes chat up a woman I see in a shopping mall, or grocery store. It works for me. I smile a lot. It helps. Smile at an older, or heavier, woman who is feeling like she is going to be alone forever, and it will often make her week. She may respond by chatting with you, and giving you contact info. Forget about trying to get the cheerleaders, Playboy bunnies, super models, movie stars, etc...UNLESS you are very rich, or very famous, or a super model yourself. Be willing to accept an average woman, with a few flaws of her own, and maybe she will overlook your flaws, and accept you. When she seems willing to do so, come across as a confident man with something to offer besides perpetual horniness....NOT as a cowardly jr high student whose balls have yet to drop.

1/20/2015 12:30:16 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
miscbyproduct
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Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
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you need to learn
"she" is just one woman

160million more of them out there


and obama fixin ta add another 3-5 m THAT PROBBALY COOK TOO!



[Edited 1/20/2015 12:31:52 AM ]

1/20/2015 12:31:11 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
im2thexy
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (19,847)
Belleville, ON
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Yes...and you wont die if you're not compatible with her....

1/20/2015 12:37:18 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
miscbyproduct
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Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
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i still go to bars some
mostly jes to shoot poll

but might decide to dance


most my dating comes of net
some from restraunts

1/20/2015 12:42:06 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
aaa1980
Floral Park, NY
36, joined Aug. 2013


Tons of women these days are pretty shallow entitled and mean spirited..I rarely approach..

1/20/2015 3:00:27 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
cavie59
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Enid, OK
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Have you ever had one of the following happen, slapped, laughed at, drink in the face or pepper sprayed? If not the the worse thing they have do is say NO.

1/20/2015 4:18:05 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

debyduh
Over 1,000 Posts (1,595)
Hamburg, PA
54, joined May. 2014


Stop being a cry baby.

Picking up women is hit or miss and you will have way more misses then hits.

You won't ever get a woman if you don't try. It is not the end of the world just because a woman you are attracted to doesn't feel the same way about you. You brush it off and try again.

DUDE give up with the posts and get yourself some much needed THERAPY. I am sure the whininess you portray here comes across in your real personality. Women don't like whiny men. EVER.

Cue Godsmack, "Crying Like a B*tch"

1/20/2015 4:24:04 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
chambella
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,411)
New South Wales
Australia
97, joined Jun. 2014


Quote from rdeffley:
You have a self defeatist attitude and your body language will show that when you're dealing with women. They'll automatically dismiss you because you have no confidence. I mean if you don't like yourself, why should they like you?


This!!

1/20/2015 4:25:46 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

zane097
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,667)
Arvada, CO
49, joined May. 2014


Obviously, your level of sass has not yet been stammered by a firm backhand. John Wayne would have straightened you right up.

1/20/2015 4:47:09 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

txrose64
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Pearland, TX
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Quote from rdeffley:
You have a self defeatist attitude and your body language will show that when you're dealing with women. They'll automatically dismiss you because you have no confidence. I mean if you don't like yourself, why should they like you?


this..and there's nothing sexy about the scent of fear or desperation.

ok so she does humiliate you? it's one moment then it's over? but if she doesn't then what?



[Edited 1/20/2015 4:47:24 AM ]

1/20/2015 7:02:26 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

hippo65
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,231)
Albuquerque, NM
51, joined Apr. 2013


Quote from ridelightning7:
There's a scene in American sniper where a guy at a bar approaches a woman and the woman is completely disgusted by it. He offers to buy her a drink and she goes "will a drink make you 4 inches taller? will a drink make you not married?". That scene stuck out to me because it's like the portrayal of how I imagine me trying to make something happen with a woman will go down every time. I imagine them being disgusted like that and then turning me down hard and having it be humiliating in public. Now I'm normal height (5'10) and I'm not married but I'm sure most women can find a 1,000 flaws with me just like every other male they talk to.


So how do you guys do it? How do you not let ugly and embarrassing rejections like that stop you from approaching other women? [bJust the fear of getting humiliated like that in public is too intense for me


On the other side, I don't meet women at all in my job/friends/day to day activities (no matter how much I go out to socialize in all sorts of different venues) and the few decent ladies I meet are never attracted to me. I honestly think I'm going to die alone

Sorry, I really don't know what to say after that.
It's not normal to think/feel like that.

1/20/2015 7:15:50 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
28, joined Feb. 2014


Quote from rdeffley:
You have a self defeatist attitude and your body language will show that when you're dealing with women. They'll automatically dismiss you because you have no confidence. I mean if you don't like yourself, why should they like you?



Who said I don't like myself? I'm very proud of myself



[Edited 1/20/2015 7:17:44 AM ]

1/20/2015 7:20:15 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

playingindirt
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Eugene, OR
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you're so self obsorbed with what you think she might think and that you might get rejected that you wouldn't notice if she liked you anyway.
why do i know this?
because if you can't just be yourself and understand that some people are going to like you and some people aren't then you're to caught up in your own head to feel anything for anyone else.
It's not all about your feelings. other people get nervous around people they don't know and the opposite sex.
If all you can focus on are your feelings stay home until your sort it out.



[Edited 1/20/2015 7:23:37 AM ]

1/20/2015 7:20:39 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

rightguyforu72
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Naperville, IL
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Shut up troll

1/20/2015 7:28:07 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

viper1e
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Jeannette, PA
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Quote from ridelightning7:
There's a scene in American sniper where a guy at a bar approaches a woman and the woman is completely disgusted by it. He offers to buy her a drink and she goes "will a drink make you 4 inches taller? will a drink make you not married?". That scene stuck out to me because it's like the portrayal of how I imagine me trying to make something happen with a woman will go down every time. I imagine them being disgusted like that and then turning me down hard and having it be humiliating in public. Now I'm normal height (5'10) and I'm not married but I'm sure most women can find a 1,000 flaws with me just like every other male they talk to.


So how do you guys do it? How do you not let ugly and embarrassing rejections like that stop you from approaching other women? Just the fear of getting humiliated like that in public is too intense for me


On the other side, I don't meet women at all in my job/friends/day to day activities (no matter how much I go out to socialize in all sorts of different venues) and the few decent ladies I meet are never attracted to me. I honestly think I'm going to die alone


Just send the drink over, and let her approach used to thank you for it. If she doesn't, but can't at least be courteous, do you really want to talk to her anyway?

Since you're already sitting at a table, (or bar) the height thing won't matter anyway.

1/20/2015 7:30:04 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
vagmasterflash
Over 2,000 Posts (3,458)
Durand, WI
51, joined Nov. 2014


I used to get shot down, and humiliated in public by women all the time in my formative years. Time is the best revenge. Ha ha ha ha!!! I see them now as bullets I dodged as they are fat, ugly, pancake make upped, twice, and trice divorced, and a multitude of bad children, and a myriad, and multitude of problems beyond contempt. And I missed it all. I'm not married, no kids, no alimony, no child support, and no bills. I put my nose to the grindstone, and retired at 49.

1/20/2015 7:30:30 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
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Quote from amusicluvr:
I don't get ugly, or embarrassing, rejections. I let the women approach me. I, then, accept, or reject, them.



Really? The only people who approach me are gay men

1/20/2015 7:40:32 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
28, joined Feb. 2014


Quote from playingindirt:
you're so self obsorbed with what you think she might think and that you might get rejected that you wouldn't notice if she liked you anyway.
why do i know this?
because if you can't just be yourself and understand that some people are going to like you and some people aren't then you're to caught up in your own head to feel anything for anyone else.
It's not all about your feelings. other people get nervous around people they don't know and the opposite sex.
If all you can focus on are your feelings stay home until your sort it out.



that's not true, I'm very good at reading people's body language. If there was a lady attracted to me, I would notice it right away. I'm very good at reading body language and I'm very observant of my surroundings

1/20/2015 7:41:34 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
vagmasterflash
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Durand, WI
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I have traveled the world twice on a motorcycle, and climb mountains, and go on adventures in my free time. I went liquid in 2011, and really do not have much to worry about. And the best part...I really am happy. All those mean a** insecure, neurotics that shut me down, and made a point to flame me in our formative years have never been happy, satisfied, or secure in their lives. And they never will be. Their lives were dictated by emotions, whims, and the seven deadly sins, and it ruined them. Time, and karma went for a walk hand in hand, and everything just happened to work itself out. Leave the scorn for them in the drawer. Reach in the fridge, and pull out some pity for them. Offer them some with a smile.

1/20/2015 7:46:31 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

ibane
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Zanesville, OH
46, joined Feb. 2014


I don't approach women at a bar.
And sayin " can I buy u a drink" is just dumb.

Make them come to u.
In a few minutes she'll be buying u drinks if u know what ur doin.

1/20/2015 7:50:51 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
kawkasian
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Beverly Hills, CA
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Quote from ridelightning7:
T"will a drink make you 4 inches taller? will a drink make you not married?".


"If you drink enough it will b*tch"

1/20/2015 7:51:28 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
vagmasterflash
Over 2,000 Posts (3,458)
Durand, WI
51, joined Nov. 2014


You're not even in a relationship with "it". Why let it destroy you before the fact?

1/20/2015 7:53:50 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

playingindirt
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Eugene, OR
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Quote from ridelightning7:
that's not true, I'm very good at reading people's body language. If there was a lady attracted to me, I would notice it right away. I'm very good at reading body language and I'm very observant of my surroundings

okay then you shouldn't have any trouble walking up to someone that you're attracted to and start a conversation.
Im an introvert and i tend to be shy especially around a man that i find attractive. but i don't get so caught up in my own feelings that i can't talk to him and enjoy the conversation.
just be yourself. that's all we've got. If that's not good enough for them why would you want anything to do with someone like that anyway?
seriously dude Im not trying to be mean. I actually know what it feels like.

1/20/2015 7:54:45 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

browneyz
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San Diego, CA
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Quote from ridelightning7:
Really? The only people who approach me are gay men


Gay men are great matchmakers. They have lots of lady friends. Gay eye for the straight Guy.(TV show)

1/20/2015 7:59:31 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
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Make them come to u.
In a few minutes she'll be buying u drinks if u know what ur doin.



The people saying this, what the hell are you smoking?



Decent looking women don't approach men unless you're a movie star/athlete or you look like a male model. Like i've said before, I've gotten probably in the ballpark of a 1000 compliments on my face/physique/fashion sense in real life, including many from random strangers and I've never been approached by a cute girl

1/20/2015 8:00:46 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
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Quote from browneyz:
Gay men are great matchmakers. They have lots of lady friends. Gay eye for the straight Guy.(TV show)



I know but they don't talk to me like they want to be friends/set me up with their lady friends. They talk to me like they want my c*ck

1/20/2015 8:01:01 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

rumrumrum
Over 2,000 Posts (3,361)
Mesa, AZ
55, joined Jul. 2014


Rejection

1/20/2015 8:02:27 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

ibane
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Zanesville, OH
46, joined Feb. 2014


Quote from ridelightning7:
The people saying this, what the hell are you smoking?



Decent looking women don't approach men unless you're a movie star/athlete or you look like a male model. Like i've said before, I've gotten probably in the ballpark of a 1000 compliments on my face/physique/fashion sense in real life, including many from random strangers and I've never been approached by a cute girl


Don't be so hard on urself. It'll happen one day...maybe.

I was in a play in church once...maybe thats it

1/20/2015 8:04:33 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
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Quote from playingindirt:
okay then you shouldn't have any trouble walking up to someone that you're attracted to and start a conversation.
Im an introvert and i tend to be shy especially around a man that i find attractive. but i don't get so caught up in my own feelings that i can't talk to him and enjoy the conversation. .



Very hard for me to approach a woman unless I get some sort of positive signs. When I get a few positive signs/signs of interest from the lady, I tend to get very comfortable and I can be my normal likable self


Approaching a woman completely cold (don't know her, don't know if she likes me) is very, very hard. All I can think off is how it will crash and burn spectacularly

1/20/2015 8:06:25 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

ibane
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Zanesville, OH
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..fk

Send her a note....the ol " I like u...do u like me back."
Check the box

1/20/2015 8:07:07 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

playingindirt
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Eugene, OR
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Quote from ridelightning7:
The people saying this, what the hell are you smoking?



Decent looking women don't approach men unless you're a movie star/athlete or you look like a male model.

thats just not true. I know a lot of beautiful women. I have a lot of younger friends that are male and female. we share heavy metal music or we just hang out together or something.

1/20/2015 8:07:23 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
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Quote from ibane:
..fk

Send her a note....the ol " I like u...do u like me back."
Check the box







reminds me of this song by George Strait - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTa4QDTaVlI

1/20/2015 8:08:20 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
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Quote from playingindirt:
thats just not true. I know a lot of beautiful women. I have a lot of younger friends that are male and female. we share heavy metal music or we just hang out together or something.


your pretty friends approach men? I don't buy it for one second


BTW heavy metal kicks ass, you can tell how much I like it by my name



[Edited 1/20/2015 8:08:49 AM ]

1/20/2015 8:08:46 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

browneyz
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San Diego, CA
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Quote from ridelightning7:
I know but they don't talk to me like they want to be friends/set me up with their lady friends. They talk to me like they want my c*ck




ummm, some Gays are cuties. Bisexuals have twice as many dates. Double your pleasure.

1/20/2015 8:10:18 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
tasty_taters
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,859)
Springfield, IL
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I have the "solution" YOU NEED OP

so for just 3 easy payments of 499.95 you will be able to get the woman of your dreams





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[Edited 1/20/2015 8:11:42 AM ]

1/20/2015 8:10:18 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
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Quote from browneyz:
ummm, some Gays are cuties. Bisexuals have twice as many dates. Double your pleasure.





I don't like the c*ck. If I did, all my dating problems would disappear instantly but that will never happen. I will be forced to make it happen with the female gender or die alone



[Edited 1/20/2015 8:11:18 AM ]

1/20/2015 8:11:48 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

eyesofmedusa
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San Antonio, TX
53, joined Jun. 2012


Op...none of this is new...

I see the comments of.women being shallow etc...women hv been turning down men for centuries.

You hv two choices...either engage.....or be alone.

I also see the....women wil come to you....they may. However waiting for that is going to narrow your choices down to those women.

I am an old fat ugly woman...I dnt approach....never hv.

Still get spoken to...but again...I hv to pick.frm what approaches me.

Get it ?

1/20/2015 8:13:02 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
tasty_taters
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,859)
Springfield, IL
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it's a two side-coin.......... EYES

it's not a form of sexism

1/20/2015 8:14:14 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
1sirens
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Champaign, IL
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Tater

1/20/2015 8:17:48 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

ibane
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Zanesville, OH
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Ya can't win if ya don't play.

And that's the bottom line

1/20/2015 8:18:35 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

playingindirt
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Eugene, OR
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Quote from ridelightning7:
your pretty friends approach men? I don't buy it for one second


BTW heavy metal kicks ass, you can tell how much I like it by my name

you're darn straight they do. they aren't as shy as i am. they don't go up to guys and come on to them.
they just have a regular conversation. they're pretty cool.

im a TOOL and sepultura fan. I like other stuff too like meshuggah.



[Edited 1/20/2015 8:20:25 AM ]

1/20/2015 8:19:59 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
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Quote from ibane:
Ya can't win if ya don't play.

And that's the bottom line



The Rock >>> Stone Cold brah

1/20/2015 8:20:04 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

eyesofmedusa
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San Antonio, TX
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No pain ?
No gain....

1/20/2015 8:21:55 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

eyesofmedusa
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San Antonio, TX
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Quote from tasty_taters:
it's a two side-coin.......... EYES

it's not a form of sexism


Ypu lost me hun...sorry..not enough coffee yet

1/20/2015 8:22:11 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
kawkasian
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,841)
Beverly Hills, CA
37, joined Sep. 2014


Umm you should have got past the 'pain' of being rejected by someone you 'cold' approach by the age of 17 or so

...just move along to the next rejection and rinse/repeat till one says "hi, sure"

Do you think Jehovah's witnesses give a f**k when 100 doors are slammed in their face...they are used to it.



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1/20/2015 8:24:09 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

chris_90352
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (16,743)
Sykesville, MD
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Quote from ridelightning7:
[a scene in a movie is] like the portrayal of how I imagine...


Movies are NOT reality.

Television is NOT reality.

Fictional books? A surprising number of NON-fiction books? NOT reality.


You might get further in life by just making the mistakes yourself and learning from them, than by trying to imagine and learn from could-be's based on what other people imagine to be real.

1/20/2015 8:24:19 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

browneyz
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San Diego, CA
98, joined Jan. 2008


Quote from ridelightning7:


I don't like the c*ck. If I did, all my dating problems would disappear instantly but that will never happen. I will be forced to make it happen with the female gender or die alone



Nothing wrong with dying alone, most of us do anyway. Save up for a Hot nurse. Start eating at hospital cafeterias. Food is cheap and nurses need love too.

1/20/2015 8:27:53 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
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Springfield, IL
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Quote from playingindirt:
you're darn straight they do. they aren't as shy as i am. they don't go up to guys and come on to them.
they just have a regular conversation. they're pretty cool.



Let me guess, they're approaching professional athletes/movie stars/male models?


I don't know guys, I just don't know. I've worked SO hard at obsessively improving myself over the years and I don't get any dating opportunities in any shape or form.


Every year, I get better looking, make more money, have more friends, have more experience talking to people and learning about myself...still dating continues to be an impenetrable obstacle to me

1/20/2015 8:29:42 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
kawkasian
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,841)
Beverly Hills, CA
37, joined Sep. 2014


Let me guess, they're approaching professional athletes/movie stars/male models?


I don't know guys, I just don't know. I've worked SO hard at obsessively improving myself over the years and I don't get any dating opportunities in any shape or form.


Every year, I get better looking, make more money, have more friends, have more experience talking to people and learning about myself...still dating continues to be an impenetrable obstacle to me


how often do you actually go out (alone) and trawl for ass?...when I was single I went out 3-4 times a week targeting singles bars etc...there were so many dating options it was like shooting fish in a barrel.

1/20/2015 8:30:54 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
walt_hallow
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Lexington, KY
63, joined Nov. 2014


Believe me OP, the older you get, the less of a f**k you'll give about being rejected, so pull up your panties and get after them beeches!

1/20/2015 8:34:48 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
28, joined Feb. 2014


Quote from kawkasian:
Let me guess, they're approaching professional athletes/movie stars/male models?


I don't know guys, I just don't know. I've worked SO hard at obsessively improving myself over the years and I don't get any dating opportunities in any shape or form.


Every year, I get better looking, make more money, have more friends, have more experience talking to people and learning about myself...still dating continues to be an impenetrable obstacle to me


how often do you actually go out (alone) and trawl for ass?...when I was single I went out 3-4 times a week targeting singles bars etc...there were so many dating options it was like shooting fish in a barrel.



going out alone? Are you f**king kidding me? I go out with at least 3-4 people. Women think you're a loser if you're not out with a huge group of people and show that you have lots of friends


Dating options? I don't see any dating options at all


I don't know what I have to do to make myself a decent catch. The areas that I can control - education, income/job, friends, lifestyle, character, body/physique etc... I'm VERY strong. I guess the problem is that the areas I can't control - face and height, I'm slightly above average in one - height (5'10) and I'm maybe a 7-8/10 in the face. Maybe I should be mad at my parents for not making me a 6'4 10/10 male model? That's what it takes to get a decent girl nowadays - you gotta be perfect in every way

1/20/2015 8:35:17 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 

chris_90352
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (16,743)
Sykesville, MD
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Quote from chris_90352:
Movies are NOT reality.

Television is NOT reality.

Fictional books? A surprising number of NON-fiction books? NOT reality.


You might get further in life by just making the mistakes yourself and learning from them, than by trying to imagine and learn from could-be's based on what other people imagine to be real.


Furthermore, forum posts on this site? Private messages? Profiles? NOT reality.

You can take the majority of what people tell you on the internet with a brick of salt.



For example, I could tell you that I do stuff every day in the forums that I calculate to offend someone, somewhere, enough to reject it, and that A) when things get rejected, its more fun than it is a catastrophe, and B) surprisingly, people don't reject you as much as you'd think. It's TRUE, but you can't take my word for it.

You can only get out there and find out for yourself, while reminding yourself that, no matter how awful you imagine rejection to be, living in constant terror of the unknown in a world of avoiding rejection is even worse, while lots of people over the ages have survived rejection with no problems, and gone on to succeed and flourish in life in spite of it.

1/20/2015 8:35:44 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
ridelightning7
Over 2,000 Posts (3,098)
Springfield, IL
28, joined Feb. 2014


Quote from walt_hallow:
Believe me OP, the older you get, the less of a f**k you'll give about being rejected, so pull up your panties and get after them beeches!



lol nice


I love the male posters on here. You guys give great advice, I love your positivity

1/20/2015 8:38:46 AMApproaching Women - Scene From American Sniper 
kawkasian
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,841)
Beverly Hills, CA
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Quote from ridelightning7:
going out alone? Are you f**king kidding me? I go out with at least 3-4 people. Women think you're a loser if you're not out with a huge group of people and show that you have lots of friends


What a p*ssy

Grow a set of balls and go out alone...if you actually take the time to look around you in a SINGLES bar you'll see there are plenty of solo's there, including women!

It's perfectly normal to be out alone...it's not perfectly normal to require a herd of other humans to be with you when you are looking for a date...



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