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11/6/2008 10:08:24 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Let's say you have been dating a 36-year-old woman for 6 months and during one of your pillow talk sessions, she admitted to having 5 abortions. Would you continue to date her or would your feeling change for the worse?




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11/6/2008 10:12:22 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
metu
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I know that this is for the guys, but I had to put my 2 cents in before the fur starts to fly: Abortion is NEVER an acceptable method of birth control...if you can't control yourself or you're too stupid to not use birth control...a rubber CANNOT break 5 times...then consider getting yourself neutered...

11/6/2008 10:18:17 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
sapphireblue579
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I agree with Metu. There's just no excuse for that many abortions. I guess in Russia, the Average amount of abortions is 7 per woman. What are they thinking?

11/6/2008 10:20:29 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
blkbagger
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Oooh, this should be a firestorm...

Not a problem, not sure I want to know about it though...

I am pro choice... NOT PRO ABORTION

EDIT: Medical or health reasons



[Edited 11/6/2008 10:24:31 AM ]

11/6/2008 10:21:36 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 

silkpanties53
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This is a sick thread and a person who does this
with out a medical reason is a sick person

11/6/2008 10:22:09 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from metu:I know that this is for the guys, but I had to put my 2 cents in before the fur starts to fly: Abortion is NEVER an acceptable method of birth control...if you can't control yourself or you're too stupid to not use birth control...a rubber CANNOT break 5 times...then consider getting yourself neutered...

Yes, but what if she was young and not capable of taking care of these children? Does the fact that she had prior abortions disqualify her from having children in the future?

What if she is ready to have children now?

11/6/2008 10:22:11 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
longrider956
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I am pro life, but I would listen to WHY, and then do a lot of soul searching and thinking. Then decide what to do, but most likely I would be like a ghost in the night and dissappear.

11/6/2008 10:23:19 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from blkbagger:Oooh, this should be a firestorm...

Not a problem, not sure I want to know about it though...

I am pro choice... NOT PRO ABORTION

So your feeling for this women would not change then?

11/6/2008 10:25:47 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
arkansasnman
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Quote from mistymae34:
Quote from blkbagger:Oooh, this should be a firestorm...

Not a problem, not sure I want to know about it though...

I am pro choice... NOT PRO ABORTION

So your feeling for this women would not change then?


Politicizing it doesn't explain anything.

"WHY would it be ok for you or NOT ok for you" seems to be the OP's target...

11/6/2008 10:25:50 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
wazer
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i can say this if it was his baby you where with child with if it was me no that same shit happen to me a few times and i'll never take her back

11/6/2008 10:26:02 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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I am pro choice...the only question that I can think of is "why 5 times?" You didnt learn after 1,2,3,4...

I dont agree with abusing the power to choose however

11/6/2008 10:27:22 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
blkbagger
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Quote from mistymae34:
Quote from blkbagger:Oooh, this should be a firestorm...

Not a problem, not sure I want to know about it though...

I am pro choice... NOT PRO ABORTION

So your feeling for this women would not change then?


Well, I would have to know the reasons I guess, but I would not condemn a woman outright for it or not want to explore a relationship if everything is very good between us... Sometimes I guess there could be reasons... How's this, I am the least political person you'll ever meet, to me adoption is a better alternative if a woman can carry the baby to term... SOMETIMES there may be a medical reason... I hope this clears it up for you...

Ken



[Edited 11/6/2008 10:31:18 AM ]

11/6/2008 10:27:37 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
wolfi
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If she can still have kids - no problem.
If the abortions have left her barren (which frequently happens with that many, sometimes one botched one is enough) - no.

11/6/2008 10:28:10 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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The question is would you contuine to date and have feelings for a women that had abortions?

You are already in a relationship...Would this news be a deal breaker for you?

11/6/2008 10:28:23 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
arkansasnman
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Quote from bigman76:
I dont agree with abusing the power to choose however


Isn't that always the risk when you GIVE a choice?

.....I'm just sayin'.

11/6/2008 10:33:46 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 

hugsnlaughter
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Having one abortion is a lot different then having five, yes I believe in pro choice but there is a limit. I agree with Metu on this one, enough is enough.

11/6/2008 10:33:55 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
wisegirl33
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Just wanted to LOL at the title of this thread from the OP.

LOL LOL

Repost another thread and title it, "How many reasons can you come up with to hate people ?"

YOu have to be kidding right ? NO further comment LOL

wisegirl33 - 7 Nov 08 at 238am

11/6/2008 10:35:10 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Quote from arkansasnman:
Isn't that always the risk when you GIVE a choice?

.....I'm just sayin'.


Your absolutely right...Just because you CAN reach into the cookie jar, should you?

Just because you can do something, doesnt always mean you have to. But, to not give people the power to choose, its almost impairing their right to free will.

Its a fine line, and I understand the conriversy about pro life/choice

On subject...I dont know if it would be a dealbreaker, and I dont think anyone can answer that truthfuly. I think with 5 being the number, some one would have to walk in those shoes to even begin to understand the toxicity of that situation

11/6/2008 10:35:29 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from silkpanties53:This is a sick thread and a person who does this
with out a medical reason is a sick person
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Sorry but there are people in this world that live with a decision of this magnitude everyday. Are you saying they have no right to be happy or find another that makes them happy?

11/6/2008 10:37:50 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from hugsnlaughter:Having one abortion is a lot different then having five, yes I believe in pro choice but there is a limit. I agree with Metu on this one, enough is enough.
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Ok..But you don't walk a mile in their shoes nor do you have to raise these children. How do you get the right to say how many is two many?

Would you end a friendship if you found out a dear close friend is in this boat?

11/6/2008 10:42:16 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
blkbagger
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OK, how's this; if the number were truly five and she confided this in me, I would take pause to think how the hell this can happen and wonder how she got herself in that position... If there was a good enough explanation or medical reason and she was still functioning as a productive person, capable of love, why should I condemn her, as someone else stated I never walked in her shoes, who am I to judge...

JMO, Ken

I remain pro choice...

11/6/2008 10:42:29 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Misty, I think what you are asking us simple folk is an unfathomable situation. Its like asking, "if you found out your signifacant other was an alien, would you love them anyway?"

I know my example is extreme, but this question isnt one that can just be mulled over for a few minutes and answered with a clear cut yes or no

11/6/2008 10:44:14 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from blkbagger:OK, how's this; if the number were truly five and she confided this in me, I would take pause to think how the hell this can happen and wonder how she got herself in that position... If there was a good enough explanation or medical reason and she was still functioning as a productive person, capable of love, why should I condemn her, as someone else stated I never walked in her shoes, who am I to judge...

JMO, Ken

I remain pro choice...


Thank you for answering the question.

11/6/2008 10:45:49 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
tellergoodnight
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Nope. People who even entertain murder turn me off. Adios...goodbye...relationships hinge on character. No character. No relationship...friend or otherwise...

11/6/2008 10:46:07 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
metu
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I don't have to get knocked up 5 times & then have 5 abortions to erase that mistake, to state my opinion. I would not want to walk in an uneducated woman's shoes...

There are Family Planning Centers all over the U.S. that give out free birth control... If a woman cannot CONTROL herself, she can at least CONTROL getting pregnant... FIVE abortions is despicable. JMO

11/6/2008 10:47:36 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
jdsinva
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Quote from bigman76:
I am pro choice...the only question that I can think of is "why 5 times?" You didnt learn after 1,2,3,4...

I dont agree with abusing the power to choose however


well stated.

11/6/2008 10:47:37 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from bigman76:Misty, I think what you are asking us simple folk is an unfathomable situation. Its like asking, "if you found out your signifacant other was an alien, would you love them anyway?"

I know my example is extreme, but this question isnt one that can just be mulled over for a few minutes and answered with a clear cut yes or no
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You are correct. My question is going to require everyone to search deep within and think about this situation. It is not a far-fetched as it seems but rather a very deep and personal situation that could be a possibility.

I hear all the time on the forums about love this and love that and the things I would do for love. Is sacrificing your sense of mortality for a person you love something we are capable or even willing to do?

11/6/2008 10:47:49 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
blkbagger
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In a perfect world...

11/6/2008 10:48:20 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
missmmeoftheday
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and would I date the guy who just confessed to me that he was an escaped convict who was doing 5 life sentences for 5 murders? If those murders weren't even his fault? He just didn't know any better, found himself in a bad place, caught up with bad people.... really, now he knows better.... (yes, I am likening abortion to murder for the sake of my argument)

there really is no cut and dry to any of this stuff.



[Edited 11/6/2008 10:49:18 AM ]

11/6/2008 10:49:08 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
cuteyonduty
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Eowwww! If I were a guy, that would have been established at the very beginning of the relationship before it went even one more hour or one more day further.

One abortion is just as horrible as five...but they say after the first one, each consecutive one gets easier and easier until the conscience of the person is completely seared.

Murder is murder whether you've only murdered one person or five....I guess that would make the person a serial killer.

If guys could conceive and had the capability of giving birth to a child...that would be one of the first things I would know about him. The second would be, do you have AIDS or any other STD?

That would be considered a major weakness on the part of the person I was dating. Insanity is performing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time. If that person didn't figure it out after the first one.....the fifth??!!

Warts, whatever.

11/6/2008 10:50:07 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
pirana01
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Quote from bigman76:
I am pro choice...the only question that I can think of is "why 5 times?" You didnt learn after 1,2,3,4...

I dont agree with abusing the power to choose however


I like your response!

11/6/2008 10:52:02 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
tellergoodnight
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Quote from cuteyonduty:
Eowwww! If I were a guy, that would have been established at the very beginning of the relationship before it went even one more hour or one more day further.

One abortion is just as horrible as five...but they say after the first one, each consecutive one gets easier and easier until the conscience of the person is completely seared.

Murder is murder whether you've only murdered one person or five....I guess that would make the person a serial killer.

If guys could conceive and had the capability of giving birth to a child...that would be one of the first things I would know about him. The second would be, do you have AIDS or any other STD?

That would be considered a major weakness on the part of the person I was dating. Insanity is performing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time. If that person didn't figure it out after the first one.....the fifth??!!

Warts, whatever.


The Nazi's rationalized the murder of 1 jew and that made the murder of millions even easier...after 1 death...what's another 5 or 6 million more...?

11/6/2008 10:53:09 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from cuteyonduty:Eowwww! If I were a guy, that would have been established at the very beginning of the relationship before it went even one more hour or one more day further.

One abortion is just as horrible as five...but they say after the first one, each consecutive one gets easier and easier until the conscience of the person is completely seared.

Murder is murder whether you've only murdered one person or five....I guess that would make the person a serial killer.

If guys could conceive and had the capability of giving birth to a child...that would be one of the first things I would know about him. The second would be, do you have AIDS or any other STD?

That would be considered a major weakness on the part of the person I was dating. Insanity is performing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time. If that person didn't figure it out after the first one.....the fifth??!!

Warts, whatever.

Ok, How many first dates have you been on and the guy asked this question? I have never had a man ask me...So how many abortions have you had? You Pro life/choice?

Simple thing is do we ever ask this question?

Do we say....Hey men how many times have you asked a women to have an abortion?
Or Hey girly how many abortions have you had?

11/6/2008 10:53:36 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Quote from mistymae34:
Quote from bigman76:Misty, I think what you are asking us simple folk is an unfathomable situation. Its like asking, "if you found out your signifacant other was an alien, would you love them anyway?"

I know my example is extreme, but this question isnt one that can just be mulled over for a few minutes and answered with a clear cut yes or no
========================================================================================
You are correct. My question is going to require everyone to search deep within and think about this situation. It is not a far-fetched as it seems but rather a very deep and personal situation that could be a possibility.

I hear all the time on the forums about love this and love that and the things I would do for love. Is sacrificing your sense of mortality for a person you love something we are capable or even willing to do?


It has nothing to do with that. What it has to do, and I am going to be frank, and right to the point, but i think its what we all need...

WHAT KINDA SLUT HAS TO HAVE 5 ABORTIONS??? That is exactly what would go through any mans head. It has nothing to do with "killing 5 babies" or however you pro life'ers wanna put it....thats is the reality!

11/6/2008 10:53:39 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 

silkpanties53
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Quote from mistymae34:
Quote from silkpanties53:This is a sick thread and a person who does this
with out a medical reason is a sick person
========================================================================================
Sorry but there are people in this world that live with a decision of this magnitude everyday. Are you saying they have no right to be happy or find another that makes them happy?



How could anyone live with them selves after one much less 5

google abortion and watch the video's - then answer your own question.
Thats some nasty shit and why, just ask yourself why ? So you can have fun with sex
I say again


11/6/2008 10:53:41 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
arkansasnman
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Quote from bigman76:

I know my example is extreme, but this question isnt one that can just be mulled over for a few minutes and answered with a clear cut yes or no


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That's why it's a great question....

It's harder to reach into the "Bag o' Canned Responses" and throw a cliche' at it.

11/6/2008 10:58:40 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Quote from arkansasnman:
Quote from bigman76:

I know my example is extreme, but this question isnt one that can just be mulled over for a few minutes and answered with a clear cut yes or no


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That's why it's a great question....

It's harder to reach into the "Bag o' Canned Responses" and throw a cliche' at it.


Thanks man, this kid's got skills! I love these debate

Note* at no point am I trying to attack anyone personaly with any post...its all good, no matter what your beliefs

11/6/2008 10:59:21 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
lust4love
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I think that is a personal issue.I would start wondering why she did this.Maybe she was unfaithful and didnt want to find out whos baby it was.If just didnt want children it would be understandable.However a doctor will only allow 3 abortions as far as I know.
After that there is a chance a scar tissue building up and other complication that may even result in death.If you dont mind a women that going to be having health problems down road I guess it doesnt matter.I for one do not agree with abortion unless some type of medical emergency arises or they are raped.The raped part I would have some red flags put up though,As any women can claim it was unwanted sex.



[Edited 11/6/2008 11:00:03 AM ]

11/6/2008 11:00:07 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 

angelips
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abortion doesnt make u unpregnant it just makes u the mother of a dead baby that u killed 5 times over!!! what kind of moral person are they if they do that !!!! thats what i think would be a huge judge of charecter



[Edited 11/6/2008 11:01:33 AM ]

11/6/2008 11:00:22 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
missmmeoftheday
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Abortion is not an easy topic of conversation- anytime, anywhere- because it deals with our basic morality.

I had a conversation recently with a very, very good friend about abortion- and it was enlightening.

You have to wonder, tho, about a woman who has had 5 abortions and then tells her current lover during pillow talk... what is going thru her mind at that moment? Is she looking for absolution? Is she looking for consolation? Is she only beginning to come to terms with her past decisions?

As a previous poster mentioned, a guy would be thinking what kind of slut has 5 abortions- and I can see that thinking.

But, I think there is a lot more to it. I'm hardly pro-abortion, but for someone to have made that choice 5 times- if she was not disturbed prior to making those choices, she probably is a bit now.

It would take a very, very strong relationship to be able to come to terms with all that those 5 decisions represent. JMO

11/6/2008 11:02:28 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from silkpanties53:How could anyone live with them selves after one much less 5

google abortion and watch the video's - then answer your own question.
Thats some nasty shit and why, just ask yourself why ? So you can have fun with sex
I say again

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At no point has anyone said let's go kill them. It is a fact of life..It happens everyday.

The question is still the same...Would if affect your relationship? In your case change it from dating to a very close friend that confided in you. Would you turn your back in disgust or help her work thru her issues?

11/6/2008 11:03:13 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Quote from angelips:
abortion doesnt make u unpregnant it just makes u the mother of a dead baby that u killed 5 times over!!! what kind of moral person are they if they do that !!!! thats what i think would be a huge judge of charecter


I could be wrong...I thought a fetus wasnt actually, technically a child until 3 months, so before then, what is the problem?

Again, just a simple question, please dont get all pissy...please

11/6/2008 11:04:35 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 

angelips
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thats all personal beliefs!!! in my opinion if its growing its alive ???? jmo

11/6/2008 11:05:13 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
missmmeoftheday
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Quote from bigman76:
I could be wrong...I thought a fetus wasnt actually, technically a child until 3 months, so before then, what is the problem?

Again, just a simple question, please dont get all pissy...please


this debate is for another thread... lol

the time of conception is when many believe life begins. when the sperm meets the egg and they embrace

I believe that an abortion is "safest" during the first trimester- the first 3 months. I don't even think it's legal after that... unless there's is a danger to child or mother, but then some don't consider it an abortion as such. The decision to end the pregnancy was for other reasons.



[Edited 11/6/2008 11:10:54 AM ]

11/6/2008 11:05:39 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
cuteyonduty
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Ok, How many first dates have you been on and the guy asked this question? I have never had a man ask me...So how many abortions have you had? You Pro life/choice?

Simple thing is do we ever ask this question?

Do we say....Hey men how many times have you asked a women to have an abortion?
Or Hey girly how many abortions have you had?


Well, not many, I'm sure...

It's not so much a physical thing because the body can recover from surgery, even five times, its a matter of that persons lack of morals and their lack of judgement. That would be like drowning a bag of kittens. What kind of person would DO that?

I wouldn't hook up with anyone who had such deep set emotional and mental problems. Seems like, even though the questions may not be asked on the first date...if the dude could just wait and keep it in his pants...after the second or third date...the insecurities, the weirdness would start to manifest itself in other ways...

Trouble is, most guys can't see past a set of boobs and a pair of legs. Sorry, guys, no offense intended, but do you ever look at a woman and think about what kind of PERSON she may or may not be?? Just wondering.

11/6/2008 11:05:56 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from missmmeoftheday:Abortion is not an easy topic of conversation- anytime, anywhere- because it deals with our basic morality.

I had a conversation recently with a very, very good friend about abortion- and it was enlightening.

You have to wonder, tho, about a woman who has had 5 abortions and then tells her current lover during pillow talk... what is going thru her mind at that moment? Is she looking for absolution? Is she looking for consolation? Is she only beginning to come to terms with her past decisions?

As a previous poster mentioned, a guy would be thinking what kind of slut has 5 abortions- and I can see that thinking.

But, I think there is a lot more to it. I'm hardly pro-abortion, but for someone to have made that choice 5 times- if she was not disturbed prior to making those choices, she probably is a bit now.

It would take a very, very strong relationship to be able to come to terms with all that those 5 decisions represent. JMO
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Great point. Do you turn your back or do you try to come to terms and understand the decisions behind this choice? Would you be willing to throw everything away because of prior judgments made earlier in that person's life?



[Edited 11/6/2008 11:06:13 AM ]

11/6/2008 11:06:07 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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its not personal beliefs, its science...but i dont know, so dont quote me on my previous statement

11/6/2008 11:06:23 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
missmmeoftheday
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geo- you say you might still date her.... but would your thoughts about her physicality- sex- would they change? would you look at her body as less attractive?

11/6/2008 11:07:33 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
wisegirl33
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Angel - that is a good point.

Most certainly an abortion past a certain time frame, would be a travesty against a human life. Obviously the moralists argue when is a 'fetus" a human being ?

I personally think abortion is Ok but not beyond 7-8 weeks.

Age old question. But there are exceptions (such as rape and so forth), which make it a good solution.

Regards, wisegirl33 - 7 Nov 08 at 311am
(and I have posted twice now).

11/6/2008 11:07:45 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
metu
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Quote from bigman76:
I could be wrong...I thought a fetus wasnt actually, technically a child until 3 months, so before then, what is the problem?

Again, just a simple question, please dont get all pissy...please



That's a question that has bothered me for a long time. "Technically" it isn't a child...I've also heard the term "potential human being"...what a load of shit that is! Yet if someone murders a pregnant woman, he is charged with TWO murders...explain that one to me!

11/6/2008 11:08:33 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Quote from mistymae34:
Quote from missmmeoftheday:Abortion is not an easy topic of conversation- anytime, anywhere- because it deals with our basic morality.

I had a conversation recently with a very, very good friend about abortion- and it was enlightening.

You have to wonder, tho, about a woman who has had 5 abortions and then tells her current lover during pillow talk... what is going thru her mind at that moment? Is she looking for absolution? Is she looking for consolation? Is she only beginning to come to terms with her past decisions?

As a previous poster mentioned, a guy would be thinking what kind of slut has 5 abortions- and I can see that thinking.

But, I think there is a lot more to it. I'm hardly pro-abortion, but for someone to have made that choice 5 times- if she was not disturbed prior to making those choices, she probably is a bit now.

It would take a very, very strong relationship to be able to come to terms with all that those 5 decisions represent. JMO
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Great point. Do you turn your back or do you try to come to terms and understand the decisions behind this choice? Would you be willing to throw everything away because of prior judgments made earlier in that person's life?





in your original post, you say we have been dating 6 months...Easy answer, yes, kick her to the curb!!!!

I finally went back and looked

11/6/2008 11:10:03 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
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Quote from cuteyonduty:

I wouldn't hook up with anyone who had such deep set emotional and mental problems. Seems like, even though the questions may not be asked on the first date...if the dude could just wait and keep it in his pants...after the second or third date...the insecurities, the weirdness would start to manifest itself in other ways...


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I hate to play Devil's Advocate......

But if it's a legal and accepted practice, why would you assume there is weirdness or insecurities involved?

11/6/2008 11:10:26 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from lust4love:I think that is a personal issue.I would start wondering why she did this.Maybe she was unfaithful and didnt want to find out whos baby it was.If just didnt want children it would be understandable.However a doctor will only allow 3 abortions as far as I know.
After that there is a chance a scar tissue building up and other complication that may even result in death.If you dont mind a women that going to be having health problems down road I guess it doesnt matter.I for one do not agree with abortion unless some type of medical emergency arises or they are raped.The raped part I would have some red flags put up though,As any women can claim it was unwanted sex.
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Only if you were in love with this person then you would be willing to help and try to understand this decision?

11/6/2008 11:11:22 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
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Quote from metu:
That's a question that has bothered me for a long time. "Technically" it isn't a child...I've also heard the term "potential human being"...what a load of shit that is! Yet if someone murders a pregnant woman, he is charged with TWO murders...explain that one to me!


I think it depends on the trimester...please dont hurt me



I want to applaud Misty for bringing some excitement into my day...thankyou

11/6/2008 11:12:06 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
missmmeoftheday
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Quote from arkansasnman:
Quote from cuteyonduty:

I wouldn't hook up with anyone who had such deep set emotional and mental problems. Seems like, even though the questions may not be asked on the first date...if the dude could just wait and keep it in his pants...after the second or third date...the insecurities, the weirdness would start to manifest itself in other ways...


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I hate to play Devil's Advocate......

But if it's a legal and accepted practice, why would you assume there is weirdness or insecurities involved?


legal does not equate to accepted.

and for many, the belief is that life begins at the moment of conception.



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11/6/2008 11:12:16 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
mistymae34
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Quote from bigman76:in your original post, you say we have been dating 6 months...Easy answer, yes, kick her to the curb!!!!

I finally went back and looked
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Your saying that love can not exsit prior to 6 months? Had it been a year or ten years then it would matter?

11/6/2008 11:14:25 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
bigman76
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Yes, I do not think you can "love" anyone in 6 months...I think that "loving" too earley could be one of the factors in having abortions...Or just being careless

11/6/2008 11:14:46 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
metu
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Quote from bigman76:
I think it depends on the trimester...please dont hurt me



I want to applaud Misty for bringing some excitement into my day...thankyou



I won't hurt you Bigman...much...

I'm still interested in who was elected to determine when "life" begins...?

11/6/2008 11:15:36 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
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WOW, I guess I pegged it correctly to be a firestorm... Peace people... One Love...

Earth Cry - Alaine

JMO, Ken



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11/6/2008 11:15:38 AMWould you continue to date a woman that had abortions? 
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Doctors...Or Nixon...you choose