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8/25/2010 12:02:49 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
sunny_bee
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (27,226)
Torrance, CA
51, joined Oct. 2009


what would you have done differently? And do you think the outcome could have been different?

Me? My last true relationship ended 7 years ago. I could have done many things differently, but in the end...it was fated to end the way it did. I have finally made peace with it.

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8/25/2010 12:05:48 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

122750again
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,136)
Sioux Falls, SD
66, joined Dec. 2008


Nothing I could have done would change it. He never Loved me, even tho I Loved him

8/25/2010 12:07:24 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
sunny_bee
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (27,226)
Torrance, CA
51, joined Oct. 2009


I loved him, more than anyone I have ever loved. But pride made me want to hide it, and it was foolish.

I was too old for those games, and he was too young to understand it.

8/25/2010 12:08:32 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
grneydsnglmale
Over 1,000 Posts (1,977)
Glenwood Springs, CO
58, joined Jul. 2010


I would have ended it sooner. I saw the writing on the wall long before I finally said enough. I did everything I could think of in that relationship and was ultimately taken for granted.

8/25/2010 12:18:53 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
dorky_gal
Franklin Park, IL
24, joined Jun. 2010


I would have never gotten into the relationship in the first place

8/25/2010 12:23:53 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
arkansasnman
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,009)
Fayetteville, AR
54, joined Sep. 2008


In every relationship I've ever been in, I should have been a better man.

8/25/2010 12:46:53 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
firstlight
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,231)
Strasburg, VA
56, joined Feb. 2008


I've been sitting here thinking about this and I don't think I could have done anything to change the outcome. Only he could have done that. I gave him so many opportunities to do so that I have to face the fact that no matter what he says, he's doing what he wants.

8/25/2010 12:48:06 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
spicy_haggis
Scotland, TX
53, joined Jul. 2010


again?

8/25/2010 12:50:52 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

susansheart839
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,235)
Port Saint Lucie, FL
69, joined Mar. 2008


I'm with firstlight on this. Sometimes we just don't see the truth until it is so blatant that we can't ignore it anymore. I am finally at peace with my decision to end the marriage and am happy he is remarried and out of my life. Some drama came up over the weekend, people wanted me to get involved, but I just said "I have no dog in this fight" and let it go. I just proved to myself that I am finally over the craziness this man brought into my life! Thank you, God!



8/25/2010 12:58:34 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
tnspice
Over 1,000 Posts (1,882)
La Follette, TN
43, joined Mar. 2009


hey sunny im back

8/25/2010 1:05:33 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
still_blessed
Indianapolis, IN
97, joined Jun. 2010


I will love him for as long as I'm on this earth. Maybe I could have done things differently, but it was necessary to just walk away. I will always love him, but no looking back and no regrets.



[Edited 8/25/2010 1:11:24 PM ]

8/25/2010 1:21:28 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

ok1954
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,697)
Okmulgee, OK
62, joined Sep. 2008


I would have ended it sooner also. Can't fix stupid.....

8/25/2010 1:22:50 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
trueblkmann
Over 1,000 Posts (1,135)
Atlanta, GA
62, joined Jun. 2009


Strange but when I first met her.I was sure I was going to spend my life our life togetter and after a few years of her pure BS.
She know in her heart of hearts.
If I was to hear about a big mac truck hitting her in the face going 90 mph.
I say to myself what goes around come around.
You have good peoples and bad peoples.
This sub human was so low bugget.
Just because she dawg me around don't mean I will give up on love but could never care for her anymore.
NEXT

8/25/2010 1:24:20 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
sbaga
Tampa, FL
63, joined Jul. 2010


You have good peoples and bad peoples.


And then you have dumb peoples!



8/25/2010 1:25:44 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

liberallady
Over 2,000 Posts (2,871)
Sacramento, CA
56, joined Aug. 2009


I think I might've broken it off sooner.

8/25/2010 1:45:19 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
faithfulnhoping
Over 2,000 Posts (2,003)
Westwood, NJ
46, joined Aug. 2010


tell him what really was going on but it's too late now

8/25/2010 1:51:10 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
icuddle
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (17,624)
Salem, OR
64, joined Dec. 2009


This is a fool's game, and I refuse to play it. The past is dead, and I seek no do-overs. I never waste time thinking "what if?" about the past, because it takes time away from living the present, and so prevents the future. If an ex came around, trying to get a do-over, I'd sic the dogs on her. I'd rather be alone forever than try to re-do a past relationship. A woman gets one chance with me. If she blows it, she blows it forever.

8/25/2010 1:59:46 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
icuddle
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (17,624)
Salem, OR
64, joined Dec. 2009


Still - You love him, but don't regret that it ended, or that you are apart? Feminine Logic = Insanity. Either you are crazy, or you are dishonest, and do have regrets.

8/25/2010 2:00:30 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
mikeobrien
Hillsboro, OR
38, joined Aug. 2010


stuck my grounds and call her on her bull shit

8/25/2010 2:00:58 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
cupids_stunt
Over 2,000 Posts (2,859)
Houston, TX
49, joined Aug. 2010


Quote from sunny_bee:
what would you have done differently? And do you think the outcome could have been different?



I'd not have bothered.

8/25/2010 2:06:57 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

puddin1117
Front Royal, VA
52, joined Feb. 2010


If I could do it over again I would have married him the morning after he proposed to me, like he wanted, but I was silly and wanted to wait for warmer weather and have an outside ceremony. I regret that now. He past away a couple of months shy of our wedding date. I truly hope he knew how much I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.....I still struggle with that.

Rest in peace baby

8/25/2010 2:08:30 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
lotusfly0
Over 1,000 Posts (1,308)
Longmont, CO
58, joined Aug. 2010


I would simply shoot myself and get it over.

8/25/2010 2:08:45 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
faithfulnhoping
Over 2,000 Posts (2,003)
Westwood, NJ
46, joined Aug. 2010


I regret nothing....every person who comes into your life was put there for a reason

8/25/2010 2:10:14 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
trueblkmann
Over 1,000 Posts (1,135)
Atlanta, GA
62, joined Jun. 2009


I'm not smart and you can see in my post.
One thing I know for sure is.A sleeping dog can't bite you.
If a dog is sleep. Let the dog sleep!
True

8/25/2010 2:56:33 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
andi954
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (17,584)
Fort Lauderdale, FL
47, joined Mar. 2009


If I only knew then what I know now. I'd probably be living in another country hopefully blissfully happy. I've moved on but he will always have a spot on my heart like a tattoo (it will never go away)

8/25/2010 3:24:02 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

bigray62
Philadelphia, PA
54, joined Aug. 2010


I would have started it sooner. We were a good fit,even though she was much younger. Her father passed,and I really didn`t know how to read her.Iwas there for her,but she had too much on her plate.
My father passed Monday,she will be at the services. She`s a close friend of the family. It will be good to see her.

8/25/2010 3:37:42 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
doublehugx
Over 1,000 Posts (1,031)
Campbell, CA
90, joined Oct. 2009


I would have to leave it alone....I learned too much from that relationship. As hard as it was, I am a much better person for going through it, and got a beautiful daughter out of the deal!

8/25/2010 4:10:37 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
bleifa
Norfolk, VA
25, joined Aug. 2010


I would have never trusted her when we were gonna be in a long distance relationship for a while

8/25/2010 5:04:47 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
leobolden
Loma Linda, CA
39, joined Aug. 2010


Tell the truth, try not to be so jealous all the time and enjoy every moment that we had. Alas, it is probably too late now, that is why I am back here to take my mind off the fact i screwed up and try not to think about it. When you think about how you messed up, or the things you didn't do, you drive yourself nuts. Always look forward, learn from your mistakes but realize, that if it was meant to be, it will be.

If you let a bird go and it comes back to you it was always yours, if it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with.



[Edited 8/25/2010 5:07:07 PM ]

8/25/2010 5:48:28 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

tygerlilly73
Magna, UT
43, joined Jul. 2010


I would not do it again. I had to realize I was only a backup plan until someone better came along. Should have listened to my gut when it said he didn't care

8/25/2010 5:52:37 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
dj1969cb
Ocala, FL
47, joined Apr. 2010


I would tell her to shut up insted of her telling me too.

8/25/2010 5:53:22 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
kmc726
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (68,967)
Fruitland Park, FL
46, joined Jul. 2010


I never would have started it. Not worth the ten years I wasted on it.

8/25/2010 5:55:46 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

photoartistguy
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (69,442)
Minneapolis, MN
27, joined Dec. 2007


i wish i would have never left those tapes there

8/25/2010 6:23:53 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
still_blessed
Indianapolis, IN
97, joined Jun. 2010


Quote from icuddle:
Still - You love him, but don't regret that it ended, or that you are apart? Feminine Logic = Insanity. Either you are crazy, or you are dishonest, and do have regrets.


Why would I have regrets? I would never have ended it if it would give me regrets. It's a long story, and this is not the place to tell it. As I've stated in another thread, jealousy, suspicions, insecurities on his part. There were several reasons why I no longer wanted him in my life. And yes, I will always love him. But I had the good sense to walk away. If that makes me crazy, so be it.

8/25/2010 6:30:51 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
kisses8801
Missouri City, TX
28, joined Aug. 2010


Left sooner lol

8/25/2010 6:34:05 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
kindness68
Dedham, MA
49, joined Aug. 2010


I wouldn't have stuck around so long

8/25/2010 6:37:10 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

rodneyg668
Over 1,000 Posts (1,732)
Seattle, WA
43, joined Jan. 2008


If I knew then what I know now I would simply skip the whole thing and move on to somewhere/someone else eventually.



[Edited 8/25/2010 6:37:38 PM ]

8/25/2010 6:53:46 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

nunbttr
Over 2,000 Posts (2,822)
Middletown, OH
70, joined Apr. 2008


That's a tough one. My last S/O broke down all of my walls/defenses, and made me realize what love was. And that it was still possible for me to experience it, after all these years.
But, it ended way before I was hoping it would.

I'll take an educated guess, and say yes, it was worth it.

8/25/2010 8:03:50 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
strdreamer63
Lansdale, PA
53, joined Jul. 2010


I would have seen the red flags for what they were. Recognized that I can't save everyone and moved forward without him. It would have saved a lot of heartache, aggravation, money, time, mine and my daughters sanity. Happiness is a two way street, everyone's is important.

8/25/2010 8:09:35 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
monopolywise
Tinley Park, IL
60, joined Nov. 2009


Quote from dorky_gal:
I would have never gotten into the relationship in the first place


How true that is.

8/25/2010 8:09:58 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

lance10
Hyde Park, NY
27, joined Aug. 2010


If I could do things over again, I would hold her closer. If I could do it over, I would tell her I love her more. I find myself feeling guilty, and I miss her like crazy. She treated me like I was a person, and she was my queen. I wish she knew what she truly meant to me. I miss her everyday shes gone, and I have daily reminders of her. How does the pain stop? How do I tell her how I truly feel?

8/25/2010 8:17:50 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

br7ad8
Fort Sill, OK
26, joined Aug. 2010


i probably shoulhttp://dh-img.com/s/crazy.gifd have listened more, but it probably wouldnt have helped the out come.

8/25/2010 8:20:59 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

dorval
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,665)
Danville, IL
97, joined May. 2009


I wish I had recognized the signs that may have saved his life but he was able to hide all his pain until he finally committed suicide.

8/25/2010 8:25:49 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
milo1234
Jacksonville, FL
51, joined Aug. 2008


Quote from arkansasnman:
In every relationship I've ever been in, I should have been a better man.

----------------------
Agreed

8/25/2010 11:29:25 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
jennala
Surrey, BC
48, joined Jun. 2010


There is nothing to "do over" the relationship was what it become over the long haul, it was meant to happen and the end is over. Note to self continue on with my life and grow and learn from my mistakes and leaps and bounds within those 16 years!

8/25/2010 11:34:03 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
diver47
Houma, LA
53, joined Aug. 2010


Yes i just found that my husband signed up for datehookup.com this afternoon and he is already corresponding with two women on here about going out on a date with him when the ironic part about it all is he is the one accusing me of cheating on him. I have never cheated on him or never would. and he turns around and does it to me. I would just like every one to know that Allen Sexton is a pig and i hope everyone reads this and does not contact him. his account name is Diver47

8/25/2010 11:37:07 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
okmrchris
Over 2,000 Posts (2,752)
Hicksville, NY
55, joined Mar. 2010


I would have punched her father in the face.

8/26/2010 3:15:36 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
notrix
Dinuba, CA
35, joined Jul. 2010


Quote from okmrchris:
I would have punched her father in the face.
LMFAO Thats funny,i gotta give you props for that one

8/26/2010 3:19:51 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
cavie59
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (15,051)
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010


My last relationship should never of happened. It was doomed from the start. There was nothing I could have done to make it work or last.

8/26/2010 5:45:54 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
trueblkmann
Over 1,000 Posts (1,135)
Atlanta, GA
62, joined Jun. 2009


Well I know I'm a good person.
When it come to a relationship.I'm always up front and to the point.
If you say you love me thats what I be looking for!Same as if you say you hate me.Take my word for it,I will do my best to say away but if you tell me you love me but really hate me.What can I say or do.
Than to turn around and say I'm sorry for the BS.
Hell no theres noway I can forgive pure BS.
Over looking or over spending is something we all have done and will do again.
Now if you a low life low bugget dawg.
You need a low life low bugget pure dog.
My ex was a damn dog!
I'm happy I lost four years of my life with her.Cause now I know what love ain't.
true

8/26/2010 6:43:41 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

imrich29
Over 2,000 Posts (2,210)
Wessington Springs, SD
67, joined Aug. 2007


i would have found someone else to have itwith

8/26/2010 7:59:18 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
sunnygirl49
Avon, IN
67, joined Aug. 2010


I wanted it to work.....but I feel I tried, sometimes it just isn't worth the try, I am not sorry it happened, memories are wonderful, but the hurt never goes away!! There comes a time when you have to say...enough!! I wouldn't got through it again.....I deserve so much more!!! I wish him the best.....but I wish me more!!!

8/26/2010 10:48:01 AMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
izzystradlian12
Over 1,000 Posts (1,514)
Tupelo, MS
40, joined Dec. 2008


nothing my ex didn't love me she was a mom and dads girl and she still is

8/26/2010 12:36:18 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
ashadeofred
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,758)
Lansing, MI
66, joined Dec. 2007


I wouldn't have given him as many chances. He couldn't be trusted. Repeatedly professing his profound love for me and the future we were going to have together....and then turning around and going right back to his ex....because they had "history". WTF.

All we can do is try again and hope it turns out better than the last.



8/26/2010 12:53:17 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 

kittykat66
Over 2,000 Posts (2,032)
Scranton, PA
50, joined Jul. 2010


No I wouldnt

I couldve missed the pain but then I wouldve had to miss the dance..

And i wouldnt change that for anything in the world..





[Edited 8/26/2010 12:54:23 PM ]

8/26/2010 3:30:54 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
still_blessed
Indianapolis, IN
97, joined Jun. 2010


Quote from kittykat66:
No I wouldnt

I couldve missed the pain but then I wouldve had to miss the dance..

And i wouldnt change that for anything in the world..



My sentiments exactly, about the one I walked away from.

I have all of Garth's music, but it was a long time before I could listen to that one after we broke up.



[Edited 8/26/2010 3:35:20 PM ]

8/26/2010 3:45:38 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
trueblkmann
Over 1,000 Posts (1,135)
Atlanta, GA
62, joined Jun. 2009


I'm still very romantic maybe even more so.
Saving all my fun late nite bedstories for just one sweetie.
Like someone was saying about the history thang!
Forget the history and lets get into this here future thing!
Just me and you!

Toney Toni Tone


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GY8MeGtqOYY



8/26/2010 3:58:51 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
debi4961
Winona, MN
55, joined Aug. 2010


If I had my last relationship to do over again I would run like hell and keep running. The person I was with was 19 years younger than I, of another race, his family hates me because of color and I think he hates me too. I did not trust him & he did not trust me, he would play head games with me, he would be happy when i was sad & depressed; he always thought i was having sex with other guys because that is what they told him even though i didnt; he was hooked on illicit drugs; he whined and cried about everything; he is a grandma's baby and thinks i am a dumb & stupid white broad because that is really who he would rather be with. So there.

8/26/2010 4:14:20 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
jstyravguy
Palm Coast, FL
36, joined Aug. 2010


I don't think i would have done anything different. To me things happen for a reason. Every doomed relationship makes you stronger and teaches you something new. if it wasn't meant to be it's because something better is around the corner. It's up to you to realise this and when you do you won't think to much about what you would do differently in the last relashionship but what you will do differently now and in the next relashionship.



[Edited 8/26/2010 4:14:45 PM ]

8/26/2010 4:20:02 PMIf you had your last relationship to do over again 
jstyravguy
Palm Coast, FL
36, joined Aug. 2010


that is such a heart warming song.