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6/29/2011 11:37:18 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Ladies, I think you should give every guy who approaches you in a respectful manner and just see where it goes. I say step out the box and give any guy who took a chance to gain your attention and make it worth it for him. Let me know how it works out. I'll be the first to say, I like all the women on DHU

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6/29/2011 11:40:19 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
engioia
Boston, MA
53, joined May. 2011


Oh dear, duck!

6/29/2011 11:40:47 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
binderdundat
Over 7,500 Posts!! (8,303)
New Orleans, LA
55, joined Sep. 2008


<<<---ignores OP and carries on doing what works for her

6/29/2011 11:41:22 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from engioia:
Oh dear, duck!


Duck Duck ... Goose.. Your it

6/29/2011 11:42:38 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
mercedes01
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (77,358)
New South Wales
Australia
98, joined Jan. 2010


Quote from travon1984:
Duck Duck ... Goose.. Your it


Flip!~

6/29/2011 11:44:09 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from binderdundat:
<<<---ignores OP and carries on doing what works for her


If that was really true, you wouldn't be posting on my thread

Ignore means, to refrain from noticing or recognizing

6/29/2011 11:45:05 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
engioia
Boston, MA
53, joined May. 2011


No one likes rejection, in the real world or online. Unfortunately, it happens more online, because it's easier.

I see you have a good sense of humor. That's good! A good sense of humor (especially about yourself) is needed for online dating.

A thick skin helps too.

Good luck.

6/29/2011 11:45:57 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

chris_90352
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (16,743)
Sykesville, MD
44, joined Sep. 2010



(Image: this guy deserves a chance, too!)

6/29/2011 11:45:59 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
startnewchapter
Grand Junction, CO
47, joined Jun. 2011


Hey Mercedes, you should throw up the pic of the blond on all fours and lets see if OP will give her a chance




Be realistic, if there is no attraction then what is there?



[Edited 6/29/2011 11:47:27 PM ]

6/29/2011 11:46:00 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
cafeovino
Over 2,000 Posts (3,475)
Arlington, TX
43, joined Jun. 2011


Look OP you are 27 but, you are shirtless like a 19yo boy. A woman can't take you serious, because you look like an issue. Not that the women are always right; but your shirtless look is definitivly wrong.

6/29/2011 11:49:00 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

bbw47reader
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (18,074)
Frederick, MD
55, joined Jun. 2009


Oh, please. How pathetic can you be?

6/29/2011 11:51:14 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
slendermiss
Over 1,000 Posts (1,813)
Edmonton, AB
46, joined Feb. 2011


So are you saying when I get emails from guys in their 20's I should go for it



Sorry not gonna happen anytime soon





6/29/2011 11:55:40 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from cafeovino:
Look OP you are 27 but, you are shirtless like a 19yo boy. A woman can't take you serious, because you look like an issue. Not that the women are always right; but your shirtless look is definitivly wrong.


Come on my dude.. Do you really think I'm trying to find a
Women through online dating?

I like to meet my women in person with a full body picture and communication that I could hear. Most women post fake pictures or only face or body shots only and it's always their best picture which means you can expect less in person. That's not my style so my shirtless picture is for the ladies eyes in which I get plenty of compliments for it.. I'm not looking to find a wife on the Internet dude so clam down and worry about your profile and what you want out of it.

6/29/2011 11:55:54 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
hikingtommy
Escalante, UT
44, joined Apr. 2011


Yep, I betcha anything this guy is talking to one of his many girlfriends!



6/29/2011 11:56:18 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
flirty_n_fun67
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,299)
Belleville, ON
49, joined Sep. 2010


Sooooooo let me get all the dating rules straight here:


* Date all the guys who approach me in the grocery store...
* Sleep with them all on the first date sooooo they don't think i'm a cat playing with a string...lol
* Wear a nice summer dress out on my dates...
* Don't call for 3 days sooooo he doesn't think i'm needy...am i missing any??? lol




6/29/2011 11:56:25 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

mrld_ii
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,775)
Stockton, CA
57, joined May. 2011


ohforf**kingoutloud adisguisedniceguythread

OP, since you slipped in the back door with this crap, I'm not gonna do my standard cut and paste response to "Nice Guy" threads; I'm gonna edit it for your consumption:

We women are allowed to be as initially attracted to you men, as you men intially approaching us initially are. If we're not,

ohboof**kinghoo.

Really, it's true...it's in The Rules, and shit.

6/29/2011 11:58:02 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

bbw47reader
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (18,074)
Frederick, MD
55, joined Jun. 2009


I'd have to quit my job. And I'm not even a young hottie.

WTF? Am I not supposed to sleep?


I would love to hear what the OP thinks is the reason that no one, man or woman, tries to start relationships with everyone who uses a 'respectful' approach.

6/29/2011 11:59:37 PMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from slendermiss:
So are you saying when I get emails from guys in their 20's I should go for it



Sorry not gonna happen anytime soon






What's wrong with a 20 year old? I bought my first house at the age of 24 and owned my vehicle at the age of 19 with my own money from working since the age of 17. If you don't give him a chance you will never know what he can bring to the table. Age is just a number and their are a lot of older women these days who are immature so age means nothing when it comes to love

6/30/2011 12:04:03 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


". I say step out the box and give any guy who took a chance to gain your attention and make it worth it for him."

Ok, so the guy who came running across the Burger King parking lot while I was stopped at the red light yelling "Girl, hey girl, damn you look good. Gimme a ride on that bike" at lunch time today.....

I am suppose to give him a chance because he took a chance to gain my attention ? Hell no, I gunned the freaking throttle and ran the red light !!!



[Edited 6/30/2011 12:04:36 AM ]

6/30/2011 12:04:36 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from mrld_ii:
ohforf**kingoutloud adisguisedniceguythread

OP, since you slipped in the back door with this crap, I'm not gonna do my standard cut and paste response to "Nice Guy" threads; I'm gonna edit it for your consumption:

We women are allowed to be as initially attracted to you men, as you men intially approaching us initially are. If we're not,

ohboof**kinghoo.

Really, it's true...it's in The Rules, and shit.


My point is.. READY? .. Here it comes.... Let's look past the initial attraction phase and hear the guy out.. The attraction part will come later when he rubs off on you after spending time with him because you enjoy his company.. Don't knock it until you try it as they say

6/30/2011 12:05:08 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
cafeovino
Over 2,000 Posts (3,475)
Arlington, TX
43, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from travon1984:
Come on my dude.. Do you really think I'm trying to find a
Women through online dating?

I like to meet my women in person with a full body picture and communication that I could hear. Most women post fake pictures or only face or body shots only and it's always their best picture which means you can expect less in person. That's not my style so my shirtless picture is for the ladies eyes in which I get plenty of compliments for it.. I'm not looking to find a wife on the Internet dude so clam down and worry about your profile and what you want out of it.



You say this. Yet your complint is to recieve a chance; as if to say you haven't been given your share.

Ok Op.

Perhaps I'm wrong. I think the women you are looking for will love your pic and your profile (provided you haven't put too many words on it). But ablige my provoking comment from my history. If you are looking merely looking for any ol hookups; say so. It shows that you have some manners and have no desire to waste peoples time with your threads that make you seem a bit naive.

Best wishes



[Edited 6/30/2011 12:07:09 AM ]

6/30/2011 12:06:07 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
dancingplatypus
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,065)
Greensburg, IN
45, joined Dec. 2010


Quote from travon1984:
Come on my dude.. Do you really think I'm trying to find a
Women through online dating?

I like to meet my women in person with a full body picture and communication that I could hear. Most women post fake pictures or only face or body shots only and it's always their best picture which means you can expect less in person. That's not my style so my shirtless picture is for the ladies eyes in which I get plenty of compliments for it.. I'm not looking to find a wife on the Internet dude so clam down and worry about your profile and what you want out of it.


Oh really?!?!

I even include a photo of me in a mud mask. No surprises here.

6/30/2011 12:08:13 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

mrld_ii
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,775)
Stockton, CA
57, joined May. 2011


Quote from travon1984:
My point is.. READY? .. Here it comes.... Let's look past the initial attraction phase and hear the guy out.. The attraction part will come later when he rubs off on you after spending time with him because you enjoy his company.. Don't knock it until you try it as they say


Does this mean you men are going to begin approaching women YOU'RE not initially attracted to? You know, to see if you warm up to THEM and if maybe they rub off on you and then you WILL be attracted???



[Edited 6/30/2011 12:10:51 AM ]

6/30/2011 12:11:04 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

sedonaphoto
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,948)
Sedona, AZ
53, joined Dec. 2009


OP get dress and try again.

And seriously DUCK!

6/30/2011 12:11:32 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
pinochater
Over 1,000 Posts (1,301)
Dawson, MN
46, joined Jun. 2011


If guys want to get my attention it better be something more than...."Hey babe, you should text me, so we can trade pics".

You never get a 2nd chance to make a first impression, so make it a good one and maybe we'll give you a chance. But it is our right to say no, just like the men have a right to say no when we message them.

6/30/2011 12:13:52 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from lisa29405:
". I say step out the box and give any guy who took a chance to gain your attention and make it worth it for him."

Ok, so the guy who came running across the Burger King parking lot while I was stopped at the red light yelling "Girl, hey girl, damn you look good. Gimme a ride on that bike" at lunch time today.....

I am suppose to give him a chance because he took a chance to gain my attention ? Hell no, I gunned the freaking throttle and ran the red light !!!


Only a retard or a kid would approach a female in that manner.

I'm saying the mature guy who may say, "how are you doing? My name is bla bla and I think that dress looks amazing on you. Who are you here with (checking to see if your with a boyfriend). Oh ok, so are you single?" and the conversation goes from there. I can have a long and deep conversation with anyone.. Let's just say I have the gift of gab

6/30/2011 12:14:49 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
goodgirlfriend
Over 1,000 Posts (1,374)
Peotone, IL
46, joined Jan. 2010


I try to give men a chance if they seem like good guys. However, everyone has their deal breakers and when I meet a guy with a deal breaker I don't give him a chance. Sorry, but I can't give a chance to men who don't meet certain standards. For instance, I don't date men with children in most cases. I don't need a lecture on why I don't but this is something I will not bend on. However, I've been getting responses from father who saw my profile yet for some unexplained reason think they are the exception and in 90% of cases they aren't. I have friends who only date men in their religion and and race and will not even consider someone else. For them it doesn't work dating other people.

6/30/2011 12:15:23 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
slendermiss
Over 1,000 Posts (1,813)
Edmonton, AB
46, joined Feb. 2011


Quote from travon1984:
What's wrong with a 20 year old? I bought my first house at the age of 24 and owned my vehicle at the age of 19 with my own money from working since the age of 17. If you don't give him a chance you will never know what he can bring to the table. Age is just a number and their are a lot of older women these days who are immature so age means nothing when it comes to love




Well my son is only 3 years younger then you and ummm ya he would hurt me LOL


Sorry but I like men older then me and I will keep my preferences to that lol



[Edited 6/30/2011 12:18:01 AM ]

6/30/2011 12:20:28 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
swamp_donkey_v2
Over 1,000 Posts (1,276)
Chicago, IL
81, joined May. 2011


Quote from bbw47reader:
Oh, please. How pathetic can you be?



6/30/2011 12:20:37 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from cafeovino:
You say this. Yet your complint is to recieve a chance; as if to say you haven't been given your share.

Ok Op.

Perhaps I'm wrong. I think the women you are looking for will love your pic and your profile (provided you haven't put too many words on it). But ablige my provoking comment from my history. If you are looking merely looking for any ol hookups; say so. It shows that you have some manners and have no desire to waste peoples time with your threads that make you seem a bit naive.

Best wishes


Naw brotha, I bring up threads based on my past experiences as well as others I know (friends). My threads are not always intended for me, but to get a better understanding on the women's point of view on things. If I was looking for someone online my profile would indicate that with a nice long statement of what I have and what I want and don't want in a female. The professional profile which will show I'm serious about meeting someone on here. This is not the case for me.

6/30/2011 12:21:22 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
abu_dhabi
Over 1,000 Posts (1,185)
Porterville, CA
47, joined Dec. 2010


Quote from travon1984:
Ladies, I think you should give every guy who approaches you in a respectful manner and just see where it goes. I say step out the box and give any guy who took a chance to gain your attention and make it worth it for him. Let me know how it works out. I'll be the first to say, I like all the women on DHU

Quote from travon1984:

I like to meet my women in person with a full body picture and communication that I could hear. Most women post fake pictures or only face or body shots only and it's always their best picture which means you can expect less in person. That's not my style so my shirtless picture is for the ladies eyes in which I get plenty of compliments for it.. I'm not looking to find a wife on the Internet dude so clam down and worry about your profile and what you want out of it.


Okay, I feel it is pretty safe to say, if you are telling other’s what to do, you do the same thing yourself.

That said… okay, we are supposed to date every guy who approaches us in a respectful manner and just see where it goes. Therefore, it is safe to say we have to remove all thoughts, opinions, emotional red flags, etc. We need to ignore what we think and feel. So, if ladies are supposed to not looking for anything, what right do you have to even care if the woman’s picture is her best picture or not? What right do you have if it is a fake picture? Obviously, looks, emotional warnings, etc. mean absolutely nothing – so, why do you even mention about what women look like in your post? As long as she approaches you in a respectful manner you should just see where it goes – that is what you are telling us to.

6/30/2011 12:22:10 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from travon1984:
Only a retard or a kid would approach a female in that manner.

I'm saying the mature guy who may say, "how are you doing? My name is bla bla and I think that dress looks amazing on you. Who are you here with (checking to see if your with a boyfriend). Oh ok, so are you single?" and the conversation goes from there. I can have a long and deep conversation with anyone.. Let's just say I have the gift of gab


I would think you would get a lot of positive chatter with that approach, but most guys are not that smooth. If the attraction is not there it is not there.


This would be paramount to me telling you that you have to go up and talk to everyone woman in the place. Stupid right, because you are only going to approach the ones you are attracted to.

Should we be rude in the rejection ? No, it is better to take it as a compliment that he found you attractive enough to approach. But there is no reason he deserves a chance simply because he wants it.

6/30/2011 12:22:49 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

sedonaphoto
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Sedona, AZ
53, joined Dec. 2009


Quote from pinochater:
If guys want to get my attention it better be something more than...."Hey babe, you should text me, so we can trade pics".

You never get a 2nd chance to make a first impression, so make it a good one and maybe we'll give you a chance. But it is our right to say no, just like the men have a right to say no when we message them.


That has been my business montra for quite some time.

ON topic, it would be impossible to give every one a chance, as they say the cream rises to the top.

Good luck in your search.

6/30/2011 12:23:22 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

sedonaphoto
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,948)
Sedona, AZ
53, joined Dec. 2009


WAZ up lisa lisa

6/30/2011 12:25:11 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
andy7557
Mechanicsburg, PA
31, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from flirty_n_fun67:
Sooooooo let me get all the dating rules straight here:


* Date all the guys who approach me in the grocery store...
* Sleep with them all on the first date sooooo they don't think i'm a cat playing with a string...lol
* Wear a nice summer dress out on my dates...
* Don't call for 3 days sooooo he doesn't think i'm needy...am i missing any??? lol




Make him a sandwich when he so desires it.

6/30/2011 12:25:44 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from goodgirlfriend:
I try to give men a chance if they seem like good guys. However, everyone has their deal breakers and when I meet a guy with a deal breaker I don't give him a chance. Sorry, but I can't give a chance to men who don't meet certain standards. For instance, I don't date men with children in most cases. I don't need a lecture on why I don't but this is something I will not bend on. However, I've been getting responses from father who saw my profile yet for some unexplained reason think they are the exception and in 90% of cases they aren't. I have friends who only date men in their religion and and race and will not even consider someone else. For them it doesn't work dating other people.


I understand that's how most of us opporate when it comes to dating and that's why I said let's step out the box for a chance and see what happens. Obviously what your use to isn't working (for the single people) so why not try something new.. It won't kill you and it only takes 10 to 15 min to give a person an opportunity to attract your attention with his dialog

6/30/2011 12:26:37 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from sedonaphoto:
WAZ up lisa lisa


Hey, baybee !!! How is your night going ?

6/30/2011 12:27:31 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
flirty_n_fun67
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (14,299)
Belleville, ON
49, joined Sep. 2010


Quote from andy7557:
Make him a sandwich when he so desires it.



Does that come with a beer too...while he's watching the big game then???? lol




6/30/2011 12:28:52 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
blueeyedbratt
Martinez, CA
55, joined May. 2011


Great....how's yours hehe

6/30/2011 12:29:15 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

sedonaphoto
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Sedona, AZ
53, joined Dec. 2009


Quote from lisa29405:
Hey, baybee !!! How is your night going ?


Did a photoshoot and just finish the edit. Family of 7 kids 4 to 18 but it was fun.

6/30/2011 12:29:52 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from blueeyedbratt:
Great....how's yours hehe


6/30/2011 12:30:31 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

sedonaphoto
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,948)
Sedona, AZ
53, joined Dec. 2009


Quote from travon1984:
I understand that's how most of us opporate when it comes to dating and that's why I said let's step out the box for a chance and see what happens. Obviously what your use to isn't working (for the single people) so why not try something new.. It won't kill you and it only takes 10 to 15 min to give a person an opportunity to attract your attention with his dialog


Yeah but, oh never mind again good luck!

6/30/2011 12:30:52 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
flame36d
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,382)
Newcastle, NE
59, joined Nov. 2008


Ok, I'll give every one a chance.............as soon as I figure out how to keep their names and locations straight.

6/30/2011 12:31:27 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
andy7557
Mechanicsburg, PA
31, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from flirty_n_fun67:
Does that come with a beer too...while he's watching the big game then???? lol




Damn right. Coming out in nothing but a apron on as well is a must.

I understand that's how most of us opporate when it comes to dating and that's why I said let's step out the box for a chance and see what happens. Obviously what your use to isn't working (for the single people) so why not try something new.. It won't kill you and it only takes 10 to 15 min to give a person an opportunity to attract your attention with his dialog


Unfortunately not everyone is as opened minded as you like. Besides, people so closed minded or picky about things are people I don't really want to pursue anyways. You are only short changing yourself in those kinds of situations.



[Edited 6/30/2011 12:34:36 AM ]

6/30/2011 12:33:06 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from abu_dhabi:
Okay, I feel it is pretty safe to say, if you are telling other’s what to do, you do the same thing yourself.

That said… okay, we are supposed to date every guy who approaches us in a respectful manner and just see where it goes. Therefore, it is safe to say we have to remove all thoughts, opinions, emotional red flags, etc. We need to ignore what we think and feel. So, if ladies are supposed to not looking for anything, what right do you have to even care if the woman’s picture is her best picture or not? What right do you have if it is a fake picture? Obviously, looks, emotional warnings, etc. mean absolutely nothing – so, why do you even mention about what women look like in your post? As long as she approaches you in a respectful
manner you should just see where it goes – that is what you are telling us to.




When I stated that, I meant in person not on the Internet and I'm talking about giving a guy 10 to 15 min to impress you with his personality. Most women can't do that. A guy comes up to a women he wants to get to know better and the first thing she's does is either walk away and ignore him or say lie and say I have a boyfriend without even letting the guy say a sentence. I'm not saying you have to date the guy but give him a chance to impress you with his personality and look pass the physical attraction for once

6/30/2011 12:33:14 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from andy7557:
Damn right. Coming out in nothing but a apron on as well is a must.


What, you're leaving out her twin sister ?

6/30/2011 12:33:48 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

carbonv
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (22,576)
Faqus
Egypt
59, joined Jul. 2008


Quote from flame36d:
Ok, I'll give every one a chance.............as soon as I figure out how to keep their names and locations straight.



just Remember My Name

cause

you'll be screaming it later ...

6/30/2011 12:35:30 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
andy7557
Mechanicsburg, PA
31, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from lisa29405:
What, you're leaving out her twin sister ?


You are making this list all the more greater my friend.

6/30/2011 12:37:37 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

chris_90352
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (16,743)
Sykesville, MD
44, joined Sep. 2010


Goody, goody! I'm writing up my respectful form letter. I'm going to get zillions of dates with all the DH hotties!



6/30/2011 12:42:06 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
cschaeffer
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (22,077)
Evansville, IN
41, joined Apr. 2009


Quote from travon1984:
Ladies, I think you should give every guy who approaches you in a respectful manner and just see where it goes. I say step out the box and give any guy who took a chance to gain your attention and make it worth it for him. Let me know how it works out. I'll be the first to say, I like all the women on DHU


No disrespect intended.... But that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard...

6/30/2011 12:44:44 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

2wheelpilot
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,709)
Beatty, NV
49, joined Oct. 2010


Quote from andy7557:
Unfortunately not everyone is as opened minded as you like. Besides, people so closed minded or picky about things are people I don't really want to pursue anyways. You are only short changing yourself in those kinds of situations.


bingo, this is the point i was prepared to make, but it seems this young man has already made it for me.

the ones not interested in getting to know me do not get my attention and that is as it should be.

-chip

6/30/2011 12:49:02 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from 2wheelpilot:
bingo, this is the point i was prepared to make, but it seems this young man has already made it for me.

the ones not interested in getting to know me do not get my attention and that is as it should be.

-chip

BUUUT, how do you know they are not interested in getting to know you unless you approach them, or do you base that on what you see before approaching them ?

6/30/2011 12:50:23 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

travon1984
Studio City, CA
33, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from 2wheelpilot:
bingo, this is the point i was prepared to make, but it seems this young man has already made it for me.

the ones not interested in getting to know me do not get my attention and that is as it should be.

-chip



6/30/2011 12:54:14 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
andy7557
Mechanicsburg, PA
31, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from lisa29405:
BUUUT, how do you know they are not interested in getting to know you unless you approach them, or do you base that on what you see before approaching them ?


You can get a lot out of a person just by how they dress and take care of themselves. Granted its not always 100% accurate but you'll get a rough idea of what you are up against and consider it even worth approaching. We all do it right as we begin interacting with new people.

Granted the person could be a complete lie. You could come up to talking to a rich man and find out the guy is homeless and all he owns is the clothes on his back. But hey, he looked good so he passed the first phase allowing you to work on the next step and weighing his strengths and weaknesses and considering to move on forward in getting to know more about this person.



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6/30/2011 12:59:09 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from andy7557:
You can get a lot out of a person just by how they dress and take care of themselves. Granted its not always 100% accurate but you'll get a rough idea of what you are up against and consider it even worth approaching. We all do it right as we begin interacting with new people.


EXACTLY !!! YOU get to decide whether you want to approach her or not . But you guys are saying we should not get to decide whether we want to talk to you or not without a 15 minute conversation. I can tell by how a guy dresses and carries himself whether I am interested or not. Just cuz he has to balls to walk up and talk to me, and just because he wants a conversation to see where things could go , in no way , in any world, gives him entitlement to said conversation.

6/30/2011 1:00:23 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

mrld_ii
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (24,775)
Stockton, CA
57, joined May. 2011


Quote from travon1984:


OP, you can not give a to the guys saying they are not interested in women who are not interested in them AND speak of approaching those women you're attracted to.

You have completely missed their point, which means you missed their point that you're doing it ALL wrong; there's a basic flaw in your basic premise.



6/30/2011 1:01:23 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
andy7557
Mechanicsburg, PA
31, joined Jun. 2011


Quote from lisa29405:
EXACTLY !!! YOU get to decide whether you want to approach her or not . But you guys are saying we should not get to decide whether we want to talk to you or not without a 15 minute conversation. I can tell by how a guy dresses and carries himself whether I am interested or not. Just cuz he has to balls to walk up and talk to me, and just because he wants a conversation to see where things could go , in no way , in any world, gives him entitlement to said conversation.


You might be short changing yourself blowing off a guy who confronts and shows interest in you despite how he dresses. Of course the first few words that come out of side guy's mouth might seal the deal of if you wish to continue the conversation.

6/30/2011 1:04:59 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
lotus68
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,160)
Tokyo
Japan
48, joined Jul. 2010


op,your idea is totally failed,just mind how u get a woman for yourself and dont care about what women should do.

6/30/2011 1:05:36 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 
philogyny
Abra Pampa
Argentina
35, joined Jun. 2011


-If you do infact "gain her attention" would she not "give you a chance" by her own free will sir?

6/30/2011 1:05:50 AMI think women should give ever guy a chance 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


Quote from andy7557:
You might be short changing yourself blowing off a guy who confronts and shows interest in you despite how he dresses. Of course the first few words that come out of side guy's mouth might seal the deal of if you wish to continue the conversation.


Again, exactly. You might be missing out on a good thing by not talking to the girl you chose not to approach just by the way she is dressed too.

And if the first few sentences are a drag, why should I continue the conversation instead of excusing myself from the situation ?

IN other words, you are saying that you guys get to chose who you want to approach, while we women are obligated to talk to everyone of you who does. That's bullshit.