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8/2/2011 2:55:42 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

knighthonor
Washington, DC
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I read a interesting article on the misinformation of Family Domestic Violence, that I would like to share.

There seems to be a common misconception that men are the primary abuser in most domestic violence in relationships.

The first reaction upon hearing about the topic of battered men, for many people, is that of incredulity. Battered husbands are a topic for jokes (such as the cartoon image of a woman chasing her husband with a rolling-pin). One researcher noted that wives were the perpetrators in 73% of the depictions of domestic violence in newspaper comics.

Battered husbands have historically been either ignored or subjected to ridicule and abuse.


"Violence against family members is something women do at least as often as men! There are dozens of solid scientific studies that reveal a startlingly different picture of family violence than what we usually see in the media. For instance:

1)Women are three times more likely than men to use weapons in spousal violence.
2)Women initiate most incidents of spousal violence.
3)Women commit most child abuse and most elder abuse.
4)Women hit their male children more frequently and more severely than they hit their female children.
5)Women commit most child murders and 64% of their victims are male children.
6)When women murder adults the majority of their victims are men.
7)Women commit 52% of spousal killings and are convicted of 41% of spousal murders.
8)Eighty two percent of the general population had their first experience of violence at the hands of women.

Complete scientific citations are included in this report. Leading researchers have validated the statistics used, "Murray Straus (a sociologist and co-director for the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire) verified the statistics from his report printed by "Sam and Bunny" (Sam and Bunny are the authors of this report) and Richard Gelles of the University of Rhode Island and author of Intimate Violence and other studies, also validated the statistics used by matching it to previous research." Alice Lovejoy, Brown University. "Counter Punch")"

How can it be that wives hit husbands as much as husbands hit wives and none of us knew it?

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8/2/2011 2:57:13 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
lawnpro979
Bellville, TX
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YES, But with women, it's CALLED PMS.

8/2/2011 2:57:19 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

knighthonor
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)

8/2/2011 2:59:50 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

tjir1l
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this has nothing to do with dating, take it elsewhere!

8/2/2011 3:03:58 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
brother_sunrize
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Killeen, TX
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"Most battered men dont report because they are afraid and ashamed.


I have a couple that lives across from me. He is in a wheelchair and the women is taking care of him. Everyday I hear her yelling at him, calling him names blah blah. She takes his wheelchair so he cant leave. Its sad and it blows my mind."
-------
^^^Oh that's all messed up!

8/2/2011 3:04:07 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
venichhe
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Brooklyn, NY
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Quote from loveyes123:
Most battered men dont report because they are afraid and ashamed.


I have a couple that lives across from me. He is in a wheelchair and the women is taking care of him. Everyday I hear her yelling at him, calling him names blah blah. She takes his wheelchair so he cant leave. Its sad and it blows my mind.



yet you do nothing about it

8/2/2011 3:07:32 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
lawnpro979
Bellville, TX
55, joined Apr. 2011


Quote from brother_sunrize:
"Most battered men dont report because they are afraid and ashamed.


I have a couple that lives across from me. He is in a wheelchair and the women is taking care of him. Everyday I hear her yelling at him, calling him names blah blah. She takes his wheelchair so he cant leave. Its sad and it blows my mind."
-------
^^^Oh that's all messed up!


I think this falls under a diffrent catagory...

Why dont you do everyone a favor. and report it.


PLEASE

8/2/2011 3:14:59 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

codeguru
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Huntington, WV
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If a man is that pathetic, I have no sympathy for it. Sorry, but that's life. He had his chance, and he blew it...

8/2/2011 3:16:44 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bitsybon
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I could tell you stories that would curl your hair and leave you saying
or at least why?
But It does happen more than you would expect.

8/2/2011 3:18:53 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bitsybon
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Believe me, if I see a battered wife or child and know for sure who is doing the battering,
I will be the one to press charges.

8/2/2011 3:24:23 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
slythy
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Did the poor OP's GF beat the shit out of his poor little ass?

8/2/2011 3:25:33 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

cayman144
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Quote from codeguru:
If a man is that pathetic, I have no sympathy for it. Sorry, but that's life. He had his chance, and he blew it...


a little sexist are we today???

8/2/2011 3:26:32 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
gjlover
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Grand Junction, CO
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A buddy of mine was getting his a** kicked by his wife. In his efforts to save his life, he screamed for help. Got arrested for Disturbing the Peace.

Yes, men are not the only abusers out there.

8/2/2011 3:26:57 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

shandikiss
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8/2/2011 3:27:07 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
brother_sunrize
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"If a man is that pathetic, I have no sympathy for it. Sorry, but that's life. He had his chance, and he blew it..."
---
C'mon man. Some people might be too afraid to leave. Maybe their significant other threatened them or maybe they just feel like no one else will love them and don't want to face loneliness. Those people simply need a little more help.

8/2/2011 3:27:23 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

knighthonor
Washington, DC
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Quote from slythy:
Did the poor OP's GF beat the shit out of his poor little ass?


I was beat on by my ex girlfriend. She was very aggressive. This is why I cant date aggressive women. You may never understand the pain.

8/2/2011 3:31:11 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Why do these people get together in the first place??? The signs were there before the marriage.

My friends girlfriend stabbed him in the hand one night while they arguing. He still married her!!

8/2/2011 3:33:30 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
wrldsgr8estkssr
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Not even trying to read that wall of text.

If he tied it into dating, someone condense it and give me the meat of what he said...please.

8/2/2011 3:34:39 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

shandikiss
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Quote from wrldsgr8estkssr:

Not even trying to read that wall of text.

If he tied it into dating, someone condense it and give me the meat of what he said...please.


ok...here goes....bullschmit, bullschmit, bullschmit.....does that answer your question?

8/2/2011 3:35:46 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

stl1
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What do you say to a man with two black eyes?

Nothing, damn it!

His wife has already told him twice.



8/2/2011 3:35:57 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bitsybon
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@ brothersunrise

Some leave so as not to injure the abuser.

If I would have ever let go and retaliated, I would have done a worse thing than her.

I think if you are a real man, be a man and walk off. Don't be a p*ssy assed little boy and fight.

Real men don't hit women. Period.



[Edited 8/2/2011 3:37:58 PM ]

8/2/2011 3:36:30 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Quote from shandikiss:
ok...here goes....bullschmit, bullschmit, bullschmit.....does that answer your question?



Not all of it. There are many aggressive and abusive women out there. I already posted an example.

8/2/2011 3:37:53 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

knighthonor
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Quote from bitsybon:
And some leave so as not to injure the abuser.

If I would have ever let go and retaliated, I would have done a worse thing than her.

I think if you are a real man, be a man and walk off. Don't be a p*ssy assed little boy and fight.

Real men don't hit women. Period.


Yes and Real women dont hit Men. Where else in the world, do Women get away with attacking their male partners?

8/2/2011 3:38:29 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

shandikiss
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I get it dona...but still trying to figure out wtf this has to do with dating.....can I post a seafood recipe too? It has about as much to do with dating as this does!

<<<<<<<< irritated to f with dh today...can ya tell?

8/2/2011 3:42:11 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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This has everything to do with dating. Like I said, the signs are there. We do things to educate teens when they are in abusive dating relationships. But, so many adults don't seem to know the signs.

Women do not have the right to hit any more than men do.

I don't hit or throw things or "have fits", when I am angry. Does your date?

8/2/2011 3:54:28 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

stl1
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Whip me, beat me and tell me I'm no good.

Now there's the kind of relationship I'm looking for.
























Oops, nevermind.

I've already been married.



8/2/2011 3:56:07 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
brother_sunrize
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@bitsybon, I hear you. I'm not sure why you singled me out though because I do not think I was implying that a man should ever hit a woman at all? I was just saying that some people stay with abusers (men and women) because they are afraid to leave or don't want to be lonely. This was in response to the man that appeared to have little sympathy for those who stay with abusers after having a way out.

8/2/2011 4:00:24 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bitsybon
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My bad brother

He was the one I probably referred to.

I don't usually get PO'd in the forums, but men hitting women, or thinking it's ok, get under my skin.

8/2/2011 4:07:31 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

shandikiss
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omg....so annoyed....

1) I never 'hit' a man, except in jest (oh, you dork, smack)
2) i was put in the hospital by a man after he beat me and held a shotgun to my head, before he was put in prison for attempted murder....soooooooooo


SO, MAYBE I AM A LITTLE JADED ON THIS?

8/2/2011 4:10:48 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
brother_sunrize
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@ bitsybon, no doubt. Understood.

@ shandikiss, I'm really sorry to hear about that and can understand why you would be jaded. Even though I am sure there are instances of women abusing men, men abusing women is probably way more common and probably way more fatal and really NEEDS to be looked into. That's crap right there!

8/2/2011 4:19:37 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

shandikiss
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yeah, that's what I figured....I guess that might explain why the d.v. houses are overflowing with women, and it's difficult to even get into one...

<<<<<<< never heard of a dv house for men.

8/2/2011 4:23:15 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
ruthsan
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too much to read...but i have no opinion since i've never had the situation. However domestic violence can be women hitting on men...which happens..either way whoever is doing it should be arrested.

8/2/2011 4:26:14 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
jkuehnau
Marinette, WI
32, joined May. 2011


Quote from tjir1l:
this has nothing to do with dating, take it elsewhere!


If you have ever been on the forums, then you would know it in fact does have everything to do with dating. Fact is, at least once a week there is a thread popping up asking why men beat their wives or girlfriends.

The view people have on these forums are almost always biased and skewed and I am glad to see someone brought this up, men can easily be the targets of domestic violence and abuse.

I had a Ex girlfriend who yelled at me for everything, even stuff like leaving the blinds in the kitchen open. A lot of times she'd take her frustrations out on me by hitting me or slapping me. I told her a lot of people could view her actions as abuse and she told me, "It isn't called abuse, it's called what you deserve."

She never sent me to the hospital but she sure as hell did have violent tendencies. I am glad to be rid of her.

My uncle had a wife who would call the cops over to the house any chance she could get. There were a few times she even hit herself in the face with a beer bottle or something just so she could blame it on him. The final straw for him was when she grabbed him by the testicles, twisted, pulled and squeezed them so hard he actually ended up in the hospital for three days.

Fact of the matter is, I've known of and heard of a lot of women who take things way too far and take advantage of any services or law enforcement as often as they can.

People are always b*tching about women's rights, but what about men's? We get labeled as lazy, wife beating, child abusing monsters. In most court cases the court will favor women in custody cases and so will law enforcement in domestic abuse cases. In some cases men can be at just as much of a disadvantage as women.



[Edited 8/2/2011 4:32:11 PM ]

8/2/2011 4:31:29 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

knighthonor
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Quote from shandikiss:
yeah, that's what I figured....I guess that might explain why the d.v. houses are overflowing with women, and it's difficult to even get into one...

<<<<<<< never heard of a dv house for men.
again misinformation. women attack men more so than men attack women.

Men have no VAWA

8/2/2011 4:36:35 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
jkuehnau
Marinette, WI
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For me, it's never been about men VS women, it's always been people VS people. People abusing one another and mistreating one another.

And I'll say it right now, if I was ever in a situation where there could be a serious danger to my well being, I'd beat her a** on the spot. I don't care if you are a woman or not. They demand equal rights, but then f**king sit there and cry brutality when one of them get's their asses beat for a good reason.

I had a step sister who started fights with people when she was pregnant on purpose because she knew no one could lay a finger on her. Talk about low.

Like I said, I don't see it as men and women, I see you all as people.



[Edited 8/2/2011 4:37:50 PM ]

8/2/2011 4:39:37 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Then why your little tirade about men's rights??

8/2/2011 4:41:15 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
slendermiss
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This is really not a gender specific issue. I was in an abusive relationship and so yes I know the pain and hurt you can go through. I have also seen woman who are just as bad as men.

People who are like this usually have some kind of personality disorder. The reason it is not as out there how many men are also abused is the fact they do not want to come forward. Woman didn't for a long time either. If men want this brought out to the masses then they need to get it out there.

8/2/2011 4:44:17 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

stl1
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Quote from donajaii:
Then why your little tirade about men's rights??




A woman used the words "men" and "right" in the same sentence?

8/2/2011 4:49:46 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

2wheelpilot
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many states now have domestic violence laws, no matter who strikes who.

but imho, men are more apt to survive a hand to hand combat situation, take their licks and get the f**k out.

as an avid 'cops' fan, out of 10 domestic violence calls on the show only 2 will be women striking men, but they do go to jail now. the men usually just stand there bleeding and shaking their head as the cops load the woman up.

-chip

8/2/2011 4:50:25 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
flame36d
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Newcastle, NE
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My ex is now with the former mail order bride of a wheelchair bound vet. She's a beautiful Romanian woman and claims her ex beat her. Can someone explaine to me how one can be beaten by someone in a wheel chair? I have a feeling she'll be using my ex for his money as she used the vet for citizenship. Crazy world huh?

8/2/2011 4:52:41 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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It can happen, Flame. They can run into them on purpose with their chair, throw things. Verbal.

Or she could be a user.

8/2/2011 4:54:05 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
jkuehnau
Marinette, WI
32, joined May. 2011


Quote from donajaii:
Then why your little tirade about men's rights??


Maybe it's people's rights instead? Why do people always have to make it about a gender? There was a big debate before about how men have no say on what happens to a unborn child, but as soon as it's born they are at the very least financially responsible for it. It takes two people to make a child, so why aren't both parents considered when it comes to the welfare of a unborn child?

A friend of mine is currently going through a divorce, he is worried that because he is a man, he won't have any chance of getting custody of the children and the sad truth of the matter is, that's really accurate. Why is it women are given the benefit of the doubt while men are left outside in the cold? Why aren't both genders given the same amount of consideration?

There's clearly issues with both men and women and genders should totally be thrown out of the window when it comes to a lot of things, men or women shouldn't be judged differently because of their reproductive organs.

8/2/2011 4:55:33 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
jkuehnau
Marinette, WI
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Quote from donajaii:
It can happen, Flame. They can run into them on purpose with their chair, throw things. Verbal.

Or she could be a user.


I've seen ripped cripples before. So I wouldn't throw that out the windows as an impossibility.

8/2/2011 4:56:31 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
turtledove4u
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OP...I don't believe anyone would argue the fact woman can be abusive; however, you might want to look a little deeper.

First off, statistics can be finagled to show a particular view point.

The responsibility for care giving within a family falls on women. Making them more likely due to frustration and poor 'self care'. Also, sheer number increases the overall amount of women involved in this type of abuse.
BTW...men in this situation are at risk as well if they don't take care of their own needs.

Women are more likely to kill their abusers with a weapon because they don't have the physical strength to fight back with their fists. Your post would have then be gun slingers.

8/2/2011 5:03:33 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
grneyedluvr2
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Quote from shandikiss:
I get it dona...but still trying to figure out wtf this has to do with dating.....can I post a seafood recipe too? It has about as much to do with dating as this does!

<<<<<<<< irritated to f with dh today...can ya tell?

no offense but 99%of your posts have absolutely nothing to do with datig and more to do with entertainment...kinda callin the kettle black arent you?
OT...theres a lot of reasons why a man may not report a woman hitting him with a frying pan. ridicule, shame, maybe he has pot growing out back and she threatened to tell the cops if he calls them. who knows?all i know is women think its ok to slap, punch, push, men, and when they finally get knocked on their ass...its cop calling time. ive seen this more times than ive got times on the toilet...

8/2/2011 5:11:04 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bbw47reader
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Quote from 2wheelpilot:
many states now have domestic violence laws, no matter who strikes who.

but imho, men are more apt to survive a hand to hand combat situation, take their licks and get the f**k out.

as an avid 'cops' fan, out of 10 domestic violence calls on the show only 2 will be women striking men, but they do go to jail now. the men usually just stand there bleeding and shaking their head as the cops load the woman up.

-chip


There are many things that explain the disjointed 'information' the OP claims. Too bad he doesn't pick a topic, any single topic, and cite the actual studies for it.

For example:

"In a survey of 2,500 students at UF and the University of South Carolina between August and December 2005, more than a quarter (29 percent) reported physically assaulting their dates and 22 percent reported being the victims of attacks during the past year. Thirty-two percent of women reported being the perpetrators of this violence, compared with 24 percent of men. The students took selected liberal arts and sciences courses. Forty percent were men and 60 percent were women, reflecting the gender composition of these classes."
http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/a/male_abuse.htm

Who can convince me that the stigma of saying that you physically assaulted a woman is less than the stigma of saying that a woman assaulted you?

Because I would have to argue that as men tend to hide their abuse more, so they hide their battering more.


Biased remarks from misogynist web sites count no more than those from misandrist web sites.

Just like you can't compare decades of being beaten to the point of repeated hospitalizations to one incident of shooting that results in death.



[Edited 8/2/2011 5:12:46 PM ]

8/2/2011 5:12:26 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bbw47reader
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Quote from turtledove4u:
OP...I don't believe anyone would argue the fact woman can be abusive; however, you might want to look a little deeper.

First off, statistics can be finagled to show a particular view point.

The responsibility for care giving within a family falls on women. Making them more likely due to frustration and poor 'self care'. Also, sheer number increases the overall amount of women involved in this type of abuse.
BTW...men in this situation are at risk as well if they don't take care of their own needs.

Women are more likely to kill their abusers with a weapon because they don't have the physical strength to fight back with their fists. Your post would have then be gun slingers.


Abuse of children, disabled and elderly persons are committed by women at much higher rates because women are overwhelmingly the sole or primary caregivers. You can't compare the two unless you take that into consideration. It's like saying women have more breast cancer than men - duh. The field is not even.

75% of elder care is performed by women.
Of grandparents caring for grandchildren 63% are women.
http://mchb.hrsa.gov/whusa_05/pages/0303hcwc.htm

Women spend twice as much time as primary caregiver for household children (1.72 hrs per day) than men (0.87). http://www.bls.gov/news.release/atus.t09.htm


"Myth -- Mothers perpetrate more child abuse than fathers, which is one reason that children are at more risk of abuse in father-absent homes.

Fact: "Children living with their only their mothers experienced maltreatment under the Harm Standard at a rate of 26.1 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 36.6 per 1,000."

Fact: PHYSICAL ABUSE: Children living with only their mothers: 6.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 10.5 per 1,000 children. "When specific types of abuse under the Harm Standard are examined, it is apparent that the findings described in the previous paragraph stem from the disproportionate incidence of physical abuse among children in father-only households..."

Fact: NEGLECT: Children living with only their mothers: 16.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 21.9 per 1,000 children.

Fact: EMOTIONAL NEGLECT: Children living with only their mothers: 3.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 8.8 per 1,000 children.

Fact: SERIOUS INJURIES: Children living with only their mothers: 10.0 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 14.0 per 1,000.

Fact: MODERATE INJURIES: Children living with only their mothers: 14.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 20.5 per 1,000.

Fact: ALL MALTREATMENT: Children living with only their mothers: 50.1 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 65.6 per 1,000.

Fact: ALL ABUSE: Children living with only their mothers: 18.1 per 1,000 children. Children living only with their fathers: 31.0 per 1,000."

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/statistics.html
Data from The Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect (1996).



[Edited 8/2/2011 5:14:44 PM ]

8/2/2011 5:13:47 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
struckbylightn
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Oelwein, IA
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Quote from turtledove4u:
OP...I don't believe anyone would argue the fact woman can be abusive; however, you might want to look a little deeper.

First off, statistics can be finagled to show a particular view point.

The responsibility for care giving within a family falls on women. Making them more likely due to frustration and poor 'self care'. Also, sheer number increases the overall amount of women involved in this type of abuse.
BTW...men in this situation are at risk as well if they don't take care of their own needs.

Women are more likely to kill their abusers with a weapon because they don't have the physical strength to fight back with their fists. Your post would have then be gun slingers.


I thought women favored poison but maybe that was just for female serial killers.

8/2/2011 5:15:21 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Lansing, MI
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Maybe black widows.


BBW, I agree with your post.

8/2/2011 5:16:40 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
turtledove4u
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (10,785)
York, PA
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@BBW

Girl, you are a google master! Thanks for proving my points.

BTW...my kitchen smells {{floral}}.



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8/2/2011 5:17:22 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
robmk2
Spring Hill, FL
46, joined Jul. 2011


I've had women batter me but i had to draw the line when they wanted to put me in the huge deep fryer.

8/2/2011 5:18:39 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Lansing, MI
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Deep fried Rob, I hear it is a delicacy.

8/2/2011 5:20:59 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
grneyedluvr2
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Sebastian, FL
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how did i know some women wouls start getting defensive...denial is NOT a river in egypt..just sayin...no matter how many statistics people post...violence is nevr a good thing. i dont give a rats patootie what the circumstances are. theres always the choice to walk away...

8/2/2011 5:23:32 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
exctbleboy
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)

8/2/2011 5:24:18 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
robmk2
Spring Hill, FL
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Quote from donajaii:
Deep fried Rob, I hear it is a delicacy.


You have been misinformed its a GOREmet dish.

8/2/2011 5:29:56 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 

bbw47reader
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)

8/2/2011 5:33:32 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
pwhit
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Tulare, CA
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I wont hit her back unless it was serious Injury or loss of life involved and in that cas it wouldn't matter who what when or where 8 to 80 blind crippled or crazy! But I wont let it get that far I'm out I don't care if I'm in dubai on vacation and she trys that crap I would leave her a** where she stood and not look back j/s.

8/2/2011 5:33:38 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
flame36d
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,382)
Newcastle, NE
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C'mon people look around, read the papers. Men perpetrate far more violence than woman.
It's a no brainer.

8/2/2011 5:39:27 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
robmk2
Spring Hill, FL
46, joined Jul. 2011


Quote from pwhit:
I wont hit her back unless it was serious Injury or loss of life involved and in that cas it wouldn't matter who what when or where 8 to 80 blind crippled or crazy! But I wont let it get that far I'm out I don't care if I'm in dubai on vacation and she trys that crap I would leave her a** where she stood and not look back j/s.


I agree if i begin to see signs of it escalating into a boxing match i'd bail on her to.No need for that shit.

8/2/2011 5:44:11 PMBattered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence 
donajaii
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Lansing, MI
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Yes, please, just walk away. If you try and restrain her, to make her stop, you will leave marks on her. You will be in trouble.