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8/4/2011 5:41:59 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
Washington, DC
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This was a interesting topic of discussion on both twitter and chatter. I want to share it here.

You do know that underage dating is statutory rape? Even if the person lies about their age.

well the story is of a 16 year old white girl (well 17 years old), who was dating a 22 year old black dude. Her parents didnt approve of their relationship because of age and race, so the parents moved, and made her come with them.

The mother filed a no contact order put against the dude until 2012, which is why the girl decided not to stay. In that period of time the mother threatened her to move with her or she would report her as a runaway.

So on so forth...

Well something interesting came up from this discussion.

Well the main argument is that the Man should be ashamed of himself, because there is nothing a 22 year old and a 17 year old can have in common.

Another major argument, was the maturity of the girl vs a 22 year old girl(a girl the same age as the dude), some people say, a 17year old isnt mature enough for a 22 year old.

Than another topic was brought forth from the discussion.

Do people look at Men that date Younger girls differently than, Women that date Younger boys?

these arguments got me thinking about a few things.

Well for starters, I am not sure what Age number has to do with Maturity. (case and point : Madonna, Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj, etc) age aint nothing but a number.(~Aaliyah~) Many older women and men are immature.

Another interesting thing, is the Age of Consent. Why is this a state regulated law? If this was a shared view between all USA citizens, than wouldn't we have a federal law against all of this? something fishy there.

What are your thoughts on this topic?
I have seen many responses, just thought it would be interesting discussion to be shared here as well.

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8/4/2011 5:44:00 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slythy
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If it's cool with the cops, who gives a shit?



[Edited 8/4/2011 5:44:17 PM ]

8/4/2011 5:45:47 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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My thought would be if my little girl was 17 and a 22 year old was trying to date her,I would beat his azz within and inch of death and send him where he belongs!

You obviously are not the father of a young girl or you wouldn't even have asked this question!




8/4/2011 5:47:11 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
goodman4sum1
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Anyone over 21 trying to date anyone 17 or under is a pedophile. I don't care what is or isn't legal, the older person wants to bang a child. Is my opinion absolutely correct? I don't care. If a 22 year old showed up to take out my child, the best case scenario is that he'd never try it again.

Oh, and I have no idea why you wanted to throw racial difference into your OP. Is this about age or race?

8/4/2011 5:47:15 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
insight88
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Quote from honestami:
My thought would be if my little girl was 17 and a 22 year old was trying to date her,I would beat his azz within and inch of death and send him where he belongs!

You obviously are not the father of a young girl or you wouldn't even have asked this question!




This is truly hilarious...but I agree w/ this statement



[Edited 8/4/2011 5:47:30 PM ]

8/4/2011 5:48:01 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
gjlover
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I think with some couples where one is late teens and the other is early 20's it's fine. It all depends on the people involved.

For most people however there is too huge gap in experiences, maturity level, expectations, emotional development for that to be a successful relationship.

TBH, if the guy had been white, the parents probably would not have raised such a stink about it. For them it was probably about Race and not Age. This is sad really.



[Edited 8/4/2011 5:50:23 PM ]

8/4/2011 5:48:23 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

dasnixter
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I don't have any children and can only rely on the letter of the law. It's either doable or it's a crime.

8/4/2011 5:48:28 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slythy
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As a father of a daughter, I can assure you, by the time they're 17, they have felatted a moose, not to mention a 22 year old drop out.



[Edited 8/4/2011 5:48:52 PM ]

8/4/2011 5:49:05 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
settee_s
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Wow! You are wound for sound, OP..

When I was 17, I was mature enough to date a man 21 year old...my parents didn't object...nothing bad happened to me..

I think it should be left up to the parents, and the maturity level of the teenager..

8/4/2011 5:49:56 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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Quote from slythy:
As a father of a daughter, I can assure you, by the time they're 17, they have felatted a moose, not to mention a 22 year old drop out.


Maybe your daughter did,,but not all are being raised that way.

8/4/2011 5:51:37 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from goodman4sum1:
Anyone over 21 trying to date anyone 17 or under is a pedophile. I don't care what is or isn't legal, the older person wants to bang a child. Is my opinion absolutely correct? I don't care. If a 22 year old showed up to take out my child, the best case scenario is that he'd never try it again.

Oh, and I have no idea why you wanted to throw racial difference into your OP. Is this about age or race?


read again. the girl say that her parents were against the racial differences. they knew each other for a year. 16 -->17 is a year, I assume.

also 21 is not legal age in some states. I know there is a 3 year range, for people 18 and younger.

so

16-->19
17--->20
18---->21

8/4/2011 5:53:19 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
hewhois
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See this is tricky! I know states have the right to governing itself, so that's why the ages can be so different.

On 16 - 17 are some weird ages because some state you do have the right to consent and others you don't! The other thing is a lot of people have an age limit up or down 5 years,so those ages kinda put you in a lala land. I'm sure a few 16 and 17 young women don't want to date 16 and 17 young men. So both try to date old or young for many reasons!

The better question is when you hit 18 what do you do?

8/4/2011 5:53:22 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
teaurtei_2
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If they are so much in love, why couldn't they wait until the minor turned 18? Wouldn't they be in love then too?

8/4/2011 5:53:58 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slendermiss
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At those ages, I see nothing wrong with it. However is he were older then 23-24 now were we're getting into pedophile territory.

8/4/2011 5:54:29 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
th6231
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The chronic pursuit of young women and teens--often manifests in signs and symptoms that shows that man is stuck at a certain age level---has not grown up--and stays comfortable with girls in that age bracket. Despite the looks, the younger girls are NOT emotionally developed--and matured--and they think they are------often resulting in really poor decision making and being susceptible to a more adult age man's advances. Wanting to be GROWN UP--and actually being GROWN UP--are two diffeerent things. The man--on the other hand--will have a lifetime of trouble if he continues to target younger women.

8/4/2011 5:55:38 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
icuddle
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If the gal lies about her age it is still statutory rape. Adult females who do minor males are equally guilty of statutory rape...same as are adult males who do minor females. If you know any guilty parties, turn them in. Why it is state law does not matter. THAT it IS state law does matter. Do the wrong person, in the wrong state, and your a** belongs to the state for 20 years. If you think it's worth it, go ahead.



[Edited 8/4/2011 5:56:47 PM ]

8/4/2011 5:56:25 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slythy
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Raised that way? Hell no. They come by it naturally.

Settee, did they have moose in Texas, back them?

8/4/2011 5:57:12 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slythy
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Last time I checked, 18 is a teenager, too. So is 19. J/S

8/4/2011 5:58:38 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from goodman4sum1:
Anyone over 21 trying to date anyone 17 or under is a pedophile. I don't care what is or isn't legal, the older person wants to bang a child. Is my opinion absolutely correct? I don't care. If a 22 year old showed up to take out my child, the best case scenario is that he'd never try it again.



also another interesting thing brought up by a reader.

"not necessarily...I myself do think that a 22 year old dating a 16 year old is kinda strange, but as someone mentioned before...we ain't got enough details to judge the circumstance. I rather have the impression that because the parents make such a fuss out of it, the enhancement is put on the race and age difference. but if they took their time to get to know this guy a little bit better personally, they would probably realise the compatibility those two individuals might share with each other.
I don't know this young lady personally, but as already assumed that this girl partly wants to marry this guy to rebell against her parents and prove her independence with his action, I really believe that he might be correct with his thought. if her parents weren't so extreme, things would have probably not happened this way!
She is young and just starting to experience life, but that doesn't make her incompatible with this man...who knows how experienced he is with life? for sure more than her, but that also means that she could learn from him..in a good way!
I seriously know so many young man that are 22 and older and believe me, men develop very differently when it comes to their mental state. if a young girl age 16 and more is smart or intelligent, she won't have any difficulties to catch up with a 22 year old. "


here another


"Some people mature faster than others.. Not in all cases, but in many, age isn't a factor at determining the compatibility between two people in a relationship. Its what comes along with the age that matters.. as in views, common interests....etc. The age is merely a number that suggests an approximate level of experience and knowledge.. Some people have seen more than others.. some people know more than others.. and some people are just originally more perceptive than others. After all everyone is different for crying out loud. That 22 yearold guy might feel exactly like a teenager. or that 16 yearold girl might really be with an adult mindset. She might think look and/or act like a grownup.. and vice versa. I'm simply saying.. we can't judge this scenario adequately when we don't have all the necessary data.

Additionally, some people are mislead by this this niggling little cliche
'that age doesn't matter' & 'that love is love no matter how big or small the diversity is' .. which is TRUE but has become a cliche thanks to all the well-sold singers and the kleenex romance movies that have modified the whole concept of these phrases. They have commercialized it..and made us believe that it can only happen in movies, that it's something utterly cheesy and thus totally unrealistic. No. It is very much real and valid.

Another thing..

Not necessarily every living teenager on the planet feels as a grown-up when they're at that age.. Some are aware of what they're going through and view their life as a fleeting image that'll later pass them by. That this is just a temporary stage. And that there is so much out there to see and experience that in comparison it looks as if you know absolutely nothing of the world. Some adolescents do feel that they're green and inexperienced.. they comprehend that they're still kids.. and vulnerable.. which makes them more awake... and reasonable to an extent. People are just stuck with the common misconception that teenagers dont know what they want.. that they dont know what they feel. HEY! We are people. We have feelings.. and we are more pure than all of you guys.. exactly because we feel things more close to us.. we take everything more emotionally.. because thats the way you're supposed to take it.. Adults just grow out of it... because other urges and necessities take their spot. Urges and necessities most of which are totally unnecessary, mind you.

If the kids love each other and understand each other.. then so what? Let them be. A teenage romance isn't any less genuine that an adult one.. in fact it's even more. "


8/4/2011 5:59:23 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
happenstancetoo
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My daughter is 21 and the difference in maturity between ages 17 and 21 is huge. She did a lot of maturing during those years. The misconception some people have is if they’re physically mature, they must be mentally as well.

My thought would be if my little girl was 17 and a 22 year old was trying to date her,I would beat his azz within and inch of death and send him where he belongs!




8/4/2011 5:59:42 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
settee_s
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Quote from slythy:

Settee, did they have moose in Texas, back them?


Even at the ripe old age of 58, I've still not gotten to fellate a moose...

I was mature for my age...he was a family friend...

8/4/2011 6:00:04 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

bowlerxxx
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Quote from teaurtei_2:
If they are so much in love, why couldn't they wait until the minor turned 18? Wouldn't they be in love then too?


This ^^^^.

OP: Dating doesn't mean they have any sexual acts. For it to be statutory rape there has to be some sort of sexual act. Just because they are dating doesn't mean that happened. Just going by what you posted. Personally tho a 22 year has no business with a 17 year old.

8/4/2011 6:01:09 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
goodman4sum1
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OP, if you're trying to convince me of something, you're wasting your time. Maybe you can convince someone else that the adult isn't a pedophile.

8/4/2011 6:01:29 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from icuddle:
If the gal lies about her age it is still statutory rape. Adult females who do minor males are equally guilty of statutory rape...same as are adult males who do minor females. If you know any guilty parties, turn them in. Why it is state law does not matter. THAT it IS state law does matter. Do the wrong person, in the wrong state, and your a** belongs to the state for 20 years. If you think it's worth it, go ahead.


no the point I was making about it being state law, is similar to why Gay Marriage is also a state law, and not federal.

Because people all dont have a common view of this situation.
Not all people look at Gay marriage the same, for many different reasons. Same thing here. Not all people view this age limit the same way. or else this wouldnt be a state regulated issue.

8/4/2011 6:01:36 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
slythy
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8/4/2011 6:02:16 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
jenlynn84
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I think the term, "grown man" can't be applied to someone who wants to date a teenager. There are other terms that would be more appropriate. Just sayin.

8/4/2011 6:02:24 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
pwhit
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Quote from honestami:
My thought would be if my little girl was 17 and a 22 year old was trying to date her,I would beat his azz within and inch of death and send him where he belongs!

You obviously are not the father of a young girl or you wouldn't even have asked this question!









Sorry but I have a little girl and have been 22 so id have to agree that's a grown man ill tell him once then I'm whippin that ass

8/4/2011 6:03:22 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

bumblebee7
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I'm just glad I had no daughters.....

Sorry, here's my thoughts the difference between 17 and 22 is greater than 40 over 30, in experience and maturity.

No dice.

19 and 17 yes, 22 and 17 no.



[Edited 8/4/2011 6:06:50 PM ]

8/4/2011 6:04:37 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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Quote from goodman4sum1:
OP, if you're trying to convince me of something, you're wasting your time. Maybe you can convince someone else that the adult isn't a pedophile.












8/4/2011 6:04:43 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from bowlerxxx:
This ^^^^.

OP: Dating doesn't mean they have any sexual acts. For it to be statutory rape there has to be some sort of sexual act. Just because they are dating doesn't mean that happened. Just going by what you posted. Personally tho a 22 year has no business with a 17 year old.


Not sure if they had sex. but the girl does say the dude got arrested because they violated the restraining order and he went to jail.

So I dont know what could have happen during that encounter.

8/4/2011 6:05:54 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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Quote from bumblebee7:
I'm just glad I had no daughters.....



You should be,,,I know I am going to prison !!!!!!!!!!





8/4/2011 6:06:23 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

truckdriverjohn
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I had some guy who wanted to date my daughter when she was 17 yrs old. He was about the same age. I made him a deal, Get off my land and stay away from my daughter..Or I would break his F-en neck right off. It worked he didn't want some trucker kicking his a** big time.

8/4/2011 6:08:04 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

bumblebee7
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Dude...I think your a racist and jusr trying to stir up trouble on here...thats my opinion.

8/4/2011 6:08:36 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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"I've always had a thing for older guys, especially since my father is in his 80's and my mother is 51. I also went through a phase of only want guys who were dark like my dad and physically fit an tall. Usually, I never ended up with the guys who looked like I want, but the age thing was very serious to me. I'm 20 now but at 14 I dated and 18 yr old (didnt have sex) and at 15 I dated a 28 yr old (no sex either). When I was looking for love in all the wrong places, when I was 16, I had a one night stand with a different 28 yr old. I didn't know that what called "statutory rape" till years later. I look back on it now, and I can honestly say that yes I was a grown 16 yrs old and I didn't have a car or my own place. I have been able to be a child since I was born and now that I'm in college, I am just not able to know freedom and peace. I could definitely see, at around 13, that I knew a lot more about too much since I was a toddler, and that guys my age couldn't relate or understand, so I sought the affection of older guys because it seemed more likely that they would have been through or knew about what I had been through by that time. I always, and still to this day, feel about 5 yrs older than my age and 5 yrs older than the people around me. I typically surround myself with older friends, and even my freshman year of college I was assumed to be a junior or senior because of the way I carried myself, spoke and behaved. I've honestly never been young till now.

When I think back on it, I don't regret dating older men because they taught me a LOT and matured me even more than I already had been. I do regret the desperate way I searched for love in them and I didn't learn till later that someone can only be in your life to teach you, not to love you. Those men should have also known better because nobody wants to go to jail, but we all want to do wrong and not get caught. I agree that this girl should wait a while. She grew up, sounds like, with a silver spoon in her mouth and that can shelter a child sometimes from learning how to make their own decisions. My life, growing up, I had to find my own dang on spoon and most times I made it work with just my hands. Currently I'm dating someone my age, 20, who grew up a lot faster than normal like I did, and he proved me wrong because I thought it was impossible that I would find a guy my age who could mentally challenge me. Guess I was wrong. "



This young lady had this to say. I also thought it was interesting read.

How many people knew, that you could legally get married at age 16 in certain states?

8/4/2011 6:09:57 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
donajaii
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NOT my daughter!!!

8/4/2011 6:10:02 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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The only reason you think maturity has nothing to do with age is because you're 21... Js.

8/4/2011 6:10:54 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
th6231
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No sex or sex--the whole idea is stupid--she should be out with her friends or WORKING--or doing fun stuff that teens do. No need for her to be out with an older man---it just does NOT make any sense. She can do anything that she wants when she earns the right to do it---and reaches the age to be out on her own. I would like to trust her--but I would NOT trust an older male. The Hormones are raging and we all know it!!



[Edited 8/4/2011 6:11:19 PM ]

8/4/2011 6:11:54 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
maryg2
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OP................NO


end of thread

8/4/2011 6:15:48 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from audlove515:
The only reason you think maturity has nothing to do with age is because you're 21... Js.

No, because I have dated older women. Not all people no matter of age, are mature. Also I gave examples in the Op of people that arent mature.

RKelly pee on a child. Yes How old is he again? Soo mature there....

8/4/2011 6:16:11 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

maniacmassager
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Id date an 18 year old faster than you can say pervert. hell, why not. 18 to 60 is my dating range.

8/4/2011 6:16:11 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from bumblebee7:
Dude...I think your a racist and jusr trying to stir up trouble on here...thats my opinion.

Who? I know you not talking about me.

8/4/2011 6:18:59 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

truckdriverjohn
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Quote from knighthonor:
Who? I know you not talking about me.
Yep I think he is.. Now what lol. Let me get the Pop Corn hold on.

8/4/2011 6:21:24 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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Quote from knighthonor:
Who? I know you not talking about me.



I think he is too!

8/4/2011 6:22:16 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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Quote from knighthonor:
No, because I have dated older women. Not all people no matter of age, are mature. Also I gave examples in the Op of people that arent mature.

RKelly pee on a child. Yes How old is he again? Soo mature there....


Ok so your argument is that older people can be immature? Im sorry but I've NEVER met a 16 year old at full adult capacity. Myself included. And I was emancipated and on my own at 15. And I'd like to THINK I'm pretty mature for my age. JMO. Any 16 or 17 year old is not at par with an adult, therefore in my opinion shouldn't be dating one. And no 16 year old is going to admit that because they don't have the MATURITY to.

8/4/2011 6:24:40 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from audlove515:
Ok so your argument is that older people can be immature? Im sorry but I've NEVER met a 16 year old at full adult capacity. Myself included. And I was emancipated and on my own at 15. And I'd like to THINK I'm pretty mature for my age. JMO. Any 16 or 17 year old is not at par with an adult, therefore in my opinion shouldn't be dating one. And no 16 year old is going to admit that because they don't have the MATURITY to.


Ok interesting that you brought this up.

Seems like this term "MATURITY" is subjective.

May I ask. What is Maturity means to you?

8/4/2011 6:25:33 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
maryg2
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Quote from maniacmassager:
Id date an 18 year old faster than you can say pervert. hell, why not. 18 to 60 is my dating range.



grosssssss - im totally disappointed in u, MANIAC

im dumping u

8/4/2011 6:25:50 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from honestami:
I think he is too!
and what was racist about it?

8/4/2011 6:30:07 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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@knight

I don't know about everyone else but i think your "quote" on the interesting read is total bs.

Being an ignorant idiot, quoting another ignorant idiot doesn't make you sound smarter.

8/4/2011 6:30:59 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

maniacmassager
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Quote from maryg2:
grosssssss - im totally disappointed in u, MANIAC

im dumping u


Relax, its just a fantasy anyway.

8/4/2011 6:32:23 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
honestami
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Quote from knighthonor:
and what was racist about it?


I think he is talking about you too! Why don't you ask him?

8/4/2011 6:32:27 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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Quote from knighthonor:
Ok interesting that you brought this up.

Seems like this term "MATURITY" is subjective.

May I ask. What is Maturity means to you?


ma·tu·ri·ty \m?-'tu?r-?-te, -'tyu?r- also -'chu?r-\
noun
1 : the quality or state of being mature; especially : full development
2 : termination of the period that an obligation has to run
Examples
His behavior shows a lack of maturity.
He reached emotional maturity late in his life.
the maturity level of a child
First use: 15th century
Synonyms: adulthood, adultness, majority
Antonyms: immaturity, minority, nonage

8/4/2011 6:35:47 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
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Quote from audlove515:
ma·tu·ri·ty \m?-'tu?r-?-te, -'tyu?r- also -'chu?r-\
noun
1 : the quality or state of being mature; especially : full development
2 : termination of the period that an obligation has to run
Examples
His behavior shows a lack of maturity.
He reached emotional maturity late in his life.
the maturity level of a child
First use: 15th century
Synonyms: adulthood, adultness, majority
Antonyms: immaturity, minority, nonage


Huh

that definition doesnt have a age stamped on it. those apply to anybody beyond puberty. just saying.

8/4/2011 6:37:31 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

claudius5
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What does race have to with this? Seems you are baiting someone to make an issue of it. Why not be upfront about the real reason you posted this thread.

8/4/2011 6:38:13 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
goodman4sum1
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Here's a better working definition of maturity. You'll know you have it, when you can look at yourself from the ages of 16 to 25 and realize you were a complete idiot who should have paid attention to the advice you were given by mature people.

8/4/2011 6:39:07 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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Quote from knighthonor:
Huh

that definition doesnt have a age stamped on it. those apply to anybody beyond puberty. just saying.


I'm not surprised you wouldn't get it. You sound so highly intelligent and mature yourself.

8/4/2011 6:39:08 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 
turtledove4u
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I don't know if it's the age that has the parents enraged....seems like a convient excuse.

I was 16 y/o and my boyfriend was 21 y/o. Both families were ok with it and we were happy for 17 yrs.

But things were a little different over 20 yrs ago, we lived in a working class neighborhood and it was expected.

8/4/2011 6:40:03 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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Quote from goodman4sum1:
Here's a better working definition of maturity. You'll know you have it, when you can look at yourself from the ages of 16 to 25 and realize you were a complete idiot who should have paid attention to the advice you were given by mature people.


Thank you. You're my new hero!

8/4/2011 6:44:35 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
Washington, DC
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Quote from audlove515:
I'm not surprised you wouldn't get it. You sound so highly intelligent and mature yourself.


Quote from goodman4sum1:
Here's a better working definition of maturity. You'll know you have it, when you can look at yourself from the ages of 16 to 25 and realize you were a complete idiot who should have paid attention to the advice you were given by mature people.


Quote from turtledove4u:
I don't know if it's the age that has the parents enraged....seems like a convient excuse.

I was 16 y/o and my boyfriend was 21 y/o. Both families were ok with it and we were happy for 17 yrs.

But things were a little different over 20 yrs ago, we lived in a working class neighborhood and it was expected.


See this is what I am trying to explain to Aud and Gm4s.
Aud, linked a definition of Maturity, but as I pointed out,, nothing in it, relates to age, beyond puberty. She doesnt understand that, she is using the term in a subjective manner, but insist on insulting my intelligence. smh. well its the internet after all.

8/4/2011 6:45:57 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

knighthonor
Washington, DC
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Quote from claudius5:
What does race have to with this? Seems you are baiting someone to make an issue of it. Why not be upfront about the real reason you posted this thread.


I did.

As pointed out in the OP,, The Girl say her parents didnt approve of the racial difference nor the age difference. Thats what the girl say. yet you call me a Racist?

8/4/2011 6:55:36 PMShould a Grown Man be Able to Date a Teenager? 

audlove515
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Quote from knighthonor:
See this is what I am trying to explain to Aud and Gm4s.
Aud, linked a definition of Maturity, but as I pointed out,, nothing in it, relates to age, beyond puberty. She doesnt understand that, she is using the term in a subjective manner, but insist on insulting my intelligence. smh. well its the internet after all.


I never said that it came at a certain age. What I stated was that in my opinion no, at 16, teenagers are not at the same level as an ADULT, so therefore, in MY opinion they shouldn't be dating one. And I stated why I felt that way. That was your original question was it not? In retaliation, you wanted me to define maturity. Not at "what age" one became mature.