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2/20/2015 6:30:12 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Im guessing you do to. Mine are called kids.
When is it considered appropriate to introduce them to someone your dating?
I dated a man for over 6mos. When he told me he loved me i said mabe it was time to meet my boys.... he balked and the relationship deteriorated.

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2/20/2015 6:37:20 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
lily_bblove
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Orlando, FL
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did you tell him before you had kids or waited 6mos to let him know...

2/20/2015 6:39:56 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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He knew. Im not asshamed of my children. Thier awesome!

2/20/2015 6:42:10 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mistermister81
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Opa Locka, FL
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Quote from m10420:
Im guessing you do to. Mine are called kids.
When is it considered appropriate to introduce them to someone your dating?
I dated a man for over 6mos. When he told me he loved me i said mabe it was time to meet my boys.... he balked and the relationship deteriorated.


My boys are baggage and any woman I deal with no off rip that I have children. Rather not they will meet them depends on how far the relationship goes and if they are even worth it. I can't introduce my boys to every chick I'm dealing with. Since I'm not dealing with anyone that's no worries to me.

2/20/2015 6:42:22 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
lily_bblove
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Orlando, FL
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Maybe he's terrified of children?
I would say he had a fear of a serious relationship, but 6 months and then blurt out ILY...
Did you guys sleep together?

2/20/2015 6:47:36 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
cubcougar
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)

2/20/2015 6:48:38 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mistermister81
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Quote from lily_bblove:
Maybe he's terrified of children?
I would say he had a fear of a serious relationship, but 6 months and then blurt out ILY...
Did you guys sleep together?


I would think they did. 6 months a long time to wait.

2/20/2015 6:50:14 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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Quote from mistermister81:
My boys are baggage and any woman I deal with no off rip that I have children. Rather not they will meet them depends on how far the relationship goes and if they are even worth it. I can't introduce my boys to every chick I'm dealing with. Since I'm not dealing with anyone that's no worries to me.




Agreed

2/20/2015 6:55:04 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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Quote from lily_bblove:
Maybe he's terrified of children?
I would say he had a fear of a serious relationship, but 6 months and then blurt out ILY...
Did you guys sleep together?



Yes we did. We actually got along pretty good until the ILY....

2/20/2015 6:57:08 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

dixie_dancer
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mine are pretty nice!

the kind with the flexible fiberglass sides, with the multi-directional wheels.



2/20/2015 7:13:23 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
unique_woman
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I have one child &

2/20/2015 7:16:37 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

packersbabe920
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I don't consider my kids being baggage

2/20/2015 7:21:51 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
truckerdaddy915
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Quote from packersbabe920:
I don't consider my kids being baggage


My kids aren't baggage but my little one sure loves to bring half her shit over when her and her sister spend the night.

2/20/2015 7:26:56 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

packersbabe920
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Quote from truckerdaddy915:
My kids aren't baggage but my little one sure loves to bring half her shit over when her and her sister spend the night.




now that's what i call baggage

2/20/2015 7:31:52 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
ruthsan6
Orlando, FL
56, joined Dec. 2013


I did not have the opportunity to have children..but I would NEVER consider them baggage...I would consider the EX baggage...baggage left at the door...lol

The guy was a loser...question would be did he have kids? Maybe if he didn't he just didn't want to deal or reality of the next step hit him and he freaked out...something to wonder...

2/20/2015 7:38:05 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
truckerdaddy915
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Quote from packersbabe920:
now that's what i call baggage


I inherited all the toys and books my mom (RIP) had for her visits so she has stuff to play with, but she still brings a bunch.

2/20/2015 7:42:45 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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Quote from ruthsan6:
I did not have the opportunity to have children..but I would NEVER consider them baggage...I would consider the EX baggage...baggage left at the door...lol

The guy was a loser...question would be did he have kids? Maybe if he didn't he just didn't want to deal or reality of the next step hit him and he freaked out...something to wonder...




He did have. Grown and out of the house...

2/20/2015 7:44:02 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

packersbabe920
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Quote from truckerdaddy915:
I inherited all the toys and books my mom (RIP) had for her visits so she has stuff to play with, but she still brings a bunch.



guess she wanna make sure she have enough to plày with

2/20/2015 7:49:38 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
truckerdaddy915
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All her toys, books and her tablet, plus her NAna (grandma on mom's side) lives in the same apartment complex I do, she can never be bored at dad's.

2/20/2015 7:51:11 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

packersbabe920
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Yes that's true

2/20/2015 8:07:04 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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I guess im wondering why men are afraid of children. Im not looking for someone to raise them for me. I got that handled. But they are part of my life. If theres going to be a steady relationship then eventually my kids are going to know you...

2/20/2015 8:29:58 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

dixie_dancer
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there are two types of people in this world.

people who's lives are accepting and accommodating to children

and those people who's lives are not

I have nothing against kids, but my life and lifestyle are not accommodating to children, it would not be fair to start dating someone with kids, because the relationship would not work out and kids would be caught up in it all.

live and let live OP. if someone isn't accepting of kids, thank them. they're being honest with you. they're saving you and your kids from inevitable heart break when things don't work out



[Edited 2/20/2015 8:30:25 PM ]

2/20/2015 8:35:25 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

driver406
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Not surprising, OP. If you have kids you ought to let the guy know on the first date so you're not wasting your time and his. He can meet them when you think you have a keeper, but let him know you have kids on the first date. I'm quite surprised he never asked.

2/20/2015 8:35:43 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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True that!

2/20/2015 8:38:02 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

driver406
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Quote from dixie_dancer:
there are two types of people in this world.

people who's lives are accepting and accommodating to children

and those people who's lives are not

I have nothing against kids, but my life and lifestyle are not accommodating to children, it would not be fair to start dating someone with kids, because the relationship would not work out and kids would be caught up in it all.

live and let live OP. if someone isn't accepting of kids, thank them. they're being honest with you. they're saving you and your kids from inevitable heart break when things don't work out


I quite agree, Dixie! I'm not overly fond of kids either unless they're potty trained, self sufficient and living on their own. Oh, and financially independent. I'd mix much better with a very friendly dog. Cats? Your cat, you change the litter box, sweetie.



[Edited 2/20/2015 8:38:29 PM ]

2/20/2015 8:39:06 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

driver406
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Quote from lily_bblove:
did you tell him before you had kids or waited 6mos to let him know...


Sounds like she sprung it on him after six months.

2/20/2015 8:43:27 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sea_
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Children are never baggage...Their presents with great big bows...You just got to make your date think they are...lol

2/20/2015 8:53:08 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Quote from driver406:
Not surprising, OP. If you have kids you ought to let the guy know on the first date so you're not wasting your time and his. He can meet them when you think you have a keeper, but let him know you have kids on the first date. I'm quite surprised he never asked.



He did know....

2/20/2015 8:54:36 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Quote from driver406:
Sounds like she sprung it on him after six months.



Haters be hatin

2/20/2015 9:01:15 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

artist820
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Oh no! So sorry!

2/20/2015 9:10:08 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
idliketotalk
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My baggage usually consists of a case of beer on ice and a toothbrush. Hopefully a change of clothing just in case.

2/20/2015 9:18:24 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

lovethelake17
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Quote from m10420:
I guess im wondering why men are afraid of children. Im not looking for someone to raise them for me. I got that handled. But they are part of my life. If theres going to be a steady relationship then eventually my kids are going to know you...


Men are not afraid of children, nor are children baggage. I'd steer clear of anyone who called their kids that. Like Dixie said, some people are not in a place in their lives to welcome children in it. They've already done it and they are on the next phase in their lives, or they know they cannot do it for various reasons, or they just plain do not want to.

You are also wrong in saying that the new man in your life will not have a hand in raising your children, because he will, just by virtue of being in all of your lives. If you are together, and all in the same house together, he has signed on to be a part of their lives, and as such, gets a say in what happens. Otherwise, you're cutting him off at the knees and letting your children know he means nothing and doesn't have any authority and they do not have to listen or respect anything about him.

You cannot do that to him and you cannot do that to your kids. It is wise of someone to know that they cannot be a part of kids' lives if they cannot or are not allowed to be an influence and to, yes, help raise them. You are not abdicating your role to him, he's just enhancing it. And that is what you want, a person who can not just accept, but warmly welcome the kids involved. And it sounds good that this guy realized that that wasn't gonna happen for him.

2/20/2015 10:04:26 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
lily_bblove
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good point

2/20/2015 10:05:38 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Sage as always lake but this time it dosent really help me

2/20/2015 10:10:03 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sea_
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Quote from lovethelake17:
Men are not afraid of children, nor are children baggage. I'd steer clear of anyone who called their kids that. Like Dixie said, some people are not in a place in their lives to welcome children in it. They've already done it and they are on the next phase in their lives, or they know they cannot do it for various reasons, or they just plain do not want to.

You are also wrong in saying that the new man in your life will not have a hand in raising your children, because he will, just by virtue of being in all of your lives. If you are together, and all in the same house together, he has signed on to be a part of their lives, and as such, gets a say in what happens. Otherwise, you're cutting him off at the knees and letting your children know he means nothing and doesn't have any authority and they do not have to listen or respect anything about him.

You cannot do that to him and you cannot do that to your kids. It is wise of someone to know that they cannot be a part of kids' lives if they cannot or are not allowed to be an influence and to, yes, help raise them. You are not abdicating your role to him, he's just enhancing it. And that is what you want, a person who can not just accept, but warmly welcome the kids involved. And it sounds good that this guy realized that that wasn't gonna happen for him.




Couldn't of said it any better...My son is in a relationship with a lady with 2 boys...I hope there are not any problems of this kind...I.m pretty sure he would tell me. He is so good to her boys..and she is good to and for my son..

2/20/2015 10:11:18 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
tjl503
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Portland, OR
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Always protect your kids first, keep them away until you have a feeling that he's not just going to bust a nut on your face and text dump you.

If I was dating a woman and she didn't trust me after a few months to meet her kids I would be gone. If I was just boning you I wouldn't care if I ever saw the kids, I would rather keep those little f**kers far away.

If I really liked you I would want to meet your kids. They are part of the relationship. I would need to make a decision if I wanted a relationship, I wouldn't make that decision until I met them. Don't waste 6 months next time.

2/20/2015 11:09:45 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
vagmasterflash
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No kids.

2/20/2015 11:11:24 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Quote from sea_:
Couldn't of said it any better...My son is in a relationship with a lady with 2 boys...I hope there are not any problems of this kind...I.m pretty sure he would tell me. He is so good to her boys..and she is good to and for my son..



Excellent, im glad to hear it!

2/20/2015 11:13:44 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Quote from tjl503:
Always protect your kids first, keep them away until you have a feeling that he's not just going to bust a nut on your face and text dump you.

If I was dating a woman and she didn't trust me after a few months to meet her kids I would be gone. If I was just boning you I wouldn't care if I ever saw the kids, I would rather keep those little f**kers far away.

If I really liked you I would want to meet your kids. They are part of the relationship. I would need to make a decision if I wanted a relationship, I wouldn't make that decision until I met them. Don't waste 6 months next time.


Fool me once, yadda ya....
But ill wait another six months if it comes to that.. im not in a hurry

2/20/2015 11:18:56 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sarahgoldsmith
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@m10

I think he has second thoughts about the situation. He thought about the situation over some more & decided he doesn't want to raise another's man children. Some men will look at it as a burden & another financial burden to have to deal with. He gave it some more thought & decided it's not for him & he doesn't want to deal with it. He decided to back out of the situation. Some women are this way too.

2/20/2015 11:21:27 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sarahgoldsmith
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Must men do not want to raise another man's children or provide for another man's children financially. They see it as a financial burden.

Some men will be willing to do it. Those kind of men are generous with their money.

2/20/2015 11:39:54 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mizzangeleyezo4
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I would never consider my kids baggage. I think a good time to introduce your kids to a man is when you feel it's starting to get serious. You don't want to wait too long because if the man decides to run then you haven't waisted too much time.

2/20/2015 11:54:04 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sarahgoldsmith
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Men do not want women with kids because they don't want to provide the kids financially, especially if the kids are not his. It's a financial burden for the men so most of them don't want to deal with it.

2/20/2015 11:55:55 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mizzangeleyezo4
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Quote from sea_:
Couldn't of said it any better...My son is in a relationship with a lady with 2 boys...I hope there are not any problems of this kind...I.m pretty sure he would tell me. He is so good to her boys..and she is good to and for my son..


That is good to hear!!

2/20/2015 11:56:41 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
sarahgoldsmith
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Women will accept a man with kids but most men don't want to accept a woman that has kids. It's a financial but red for the man so he doesn't want to deal with it.

If he is providing for the kids financially he has the right to discipline the kids even if they are not his own.

2/20/2015 11:59:00 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mizzangeleyezo4
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Quote from lovethelake17:
Men are not afraid of children, nor are children baggage. I'd steer clear of anyone who called their kids that. Like Dixie said, some people are not in a place in their lives to welcome children in it. They've already done it and they are on the next phase in their lives, or they know they cannot do it for various reasons, or they just plain do not want to.

You are also wrong in saying that the new man in your life will not have a hand in raising your children, because he will, just by virtue of being in all of your lives. If you are together, and all in the same house together, he has signed on to be a part of their lives, and as such, gets a say in what happens. Otherwise, you're cutting him off at the knees and letting your children know he means nothing and doesn't have any authority and they do not have to listen or respect anything about him.

You cannot do that to him and you cannot do that to your kids. It is wise of someone to know that they cannot be a part of kids' lives if they cannot or are not allowed to be an influence and to, yes, help raise them. You are not abdicating your role to him, he's just enhancing it. And that is what you want, a person who can not just accept, but warmly welcome the kids involved. And it sounds good that this guy realized that that wasn't gonna happen for him.

I agree!! Men are not affraid of kids..now boys are affraid of kids because it means responsibility and most boys are not ready for that in their life.

2/20/2015 11:59:59 PMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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Quote from sarahgoldsmith:
Men do not want women with kids because they don't want to provide the kids financially, especially if the kids are not his. It's a financial burden for the men so most of them don't want to deal with it.


Im not looking for help, really. Like i said, my kids are covered.

2/21/2015 12:00:43 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

mizzangeleyezo4
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Quote from truckerdaddy915:
My kids aren't baggage but my little one sure loves to bring half her shit over when her and her sister spend the night.

little girls love to have purses full of stuff.

2/21/2015 12:04:00 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Big Lake, AK
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Quote from mizzangeleyezo4:
I would never consider my kids baggage. I think a good time to introduce your kids to a man is when you feel it's starting to get serious. You don't want to wait too long because if the man decides to run then you haven't waisted too much time.


When he blurted the ILY, i assumed it Was getting more serious..

2/21/2015 12:31:58 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
grneyesrme
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Kids are not baggage!! Baggage is the hurt feelings, resentment, ex that is always stirring the pot..etc.... that many carry around when a relationship has ended. But kids should never be referred to as baggage.

2/21/2015 1:17:47 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

Gardenguy68
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Wake Forest, NC
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Quote from m10420:
He knew. Im not asshamed of my children. Thier awesome!

First Ms m10420

You Need To Learn How To Spell

It's 'assumed'

Not 'asshamed'

Please Put Down Your Toys And Go Back To 1st Grade Spelling














2/21/2015 1:32:57 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
m10420
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Thank you Mr Garden. I actually added an extra 's'. Forgive me. I probably should have said "I dont hide the fact that i have kids".

2/21/2015 2:50:28 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

dr_i_got_answer
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Introducing him to the kids may have giving him the impression you were saying, "Here's your new DADDY!" And after 6 months might be a bit much to go from getting along to "DADDY"

Were there any conversation about the kids? Where he could understand the circumstances? Or did you just feel it was time and introduced them?

2/21/2015 3:21:44 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

bumblebee7
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OP...since you did let him know upfront.

I'm guessing you were something to pass the time with, just to have someone...but he never really had any feelings....or he did, but time showed him, you were not the one.

Seeing the kids, tipped the scales to say...its time I move on.

Sorry it happened...but many of us have someone do that to us and move on...with no apparent reason.

its just how it is sometimes.

2/21/2015 3:28:16 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

bumblebee7
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Quote from m10420:
Sage as always lake but this time it dosent really help me


I didn't read lakes response when I made my first comment.

well, op it looks like to me he likely heard the horror stories of getting with the wrong single moms, and you showed that's what he will experience with you, and saw it coming and got out while he could.

what do you mean it doesn't help you?....its what you need to know to make changes so this doesn't happen again.

When to introduce them was not the problem...its your attitude towards men and how you wouldn't let them be a parent...just fork over the money.

2/21/2015 3:34:12 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

bumblebee7
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My answer to the question would be....I wouldn't introduce people too quickly, in case you go thru several, because the kids see too many coming and going.

but I wouldn't wait so long, to invest too much time...only to find they might bail over the kids

but apparently...this really wasn't the problem.

2/21/2015 3:54:07 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
amusicluvr
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Everyone has baggage. It is the type of baggage, and what you do with it that matters. If a guy says he loves you, but vanishes when you mention meeting your kids, he didn't love you. He was just sweet talking you to get / stay in your pants. Most guys get burned out on the women with kids thing, because the kids are so often undisciplined brats, whom the woman will not discipline, or allow the guy to discipline. The thing to do is have the guys yo date meet the kids on the first, or second, date,so he knows what he is going to have to deal with. If he stays around a bit, he will either get to like the kids, or get tired of them. The love talk can begin after he has bonded with the kids. If he chooses to flee, rather than bond, you are ahead of where you would be if you had played at being in love, and then been dumped.

2/21/2015 9:43:37 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 

Gardenguy68
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Quote from m10420:
I dont hide the fact that i have kids".

I don't either..

And I have grandyoungin's too! Luv Em All To Death...












2/21/2015 10:16:43 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
irenes_shadow40
Conway, AR
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Kids should never be considered baggage, baggage is and EX or DEBTS, past relationships, I`d say you was a steady booty call. the ILY, was just to keep you around, but without the kids. So I`m with some of the other post, date a guy introduce the kids and go from there.

2/21/2015 10:45:10 AMWhy yes i do have baggage? 
cubcougar
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Quote from irenes_shadow40:
Kids should never be considered baggage, baggage is and EX or DEBTS, past relationships.




Also ... don't let the kids 'SEE' a bunch of males running through mom's life.

When you get a guy who WANTS to give him self to you ... then he will bond with you and the kids.

You will get a man, a husband and a father to your kids.

Then let the kids know about this guy ... who loves you .. and wants a life with you.

Then ask the kids .. if they want a life with him.

They say no ... then no it is.

Keep him on the side ... you raised your kids and only you is to blame.

Later on when they find out about the Duck Disease and the Toddler Tantrum mentality in the Human Condition they can fix it up .. or have a f**ked up life like they had with dear old mom and dear old dad.

sumbuddie wear blind sea