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11/13/2017 10:03:32 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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New South Wales
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The guy I like
randomly was saying today that he doesn't even know how my voice sounds and hasn't talked to me on the phone (we have been texting for like 9 months)
and asked if we could talk over phone tomorrow and I said yes and
we are going to talk over steam (with my mic and gaming headset)

only issue is I literally never talk 1 on 1 on the phone with guys? LOl wtf I'm kinda sh*tting my pants right now huh

Oh gawd oh gawd

I've started feeling really anxious about it and
kinda sick like I'm gonna spew :X

ahh why did I not say no idk
I guess it was like too much of a risk like
saying no, since I'm going overseas on the 23 and I said I'd see him after I'm back like
he said he feels like the meets still like 'impossible/not gonna happen?' or something?

So I guess I agreed to it because of that, like there's only so many times you can turn (someone down) down meets and
stuff like this before they give up you know?

Still overarching issue of my rly bad social anxiety Ah

so like really at this point I have no choice but to do it otherwise its like really fking bad to turn around and say no lol fml
like 100x worse than if I'd just said nah in the first place

how do I get myself into these situations



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11/13/2017 10:11:08 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 
korbyn
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You'll be okay.

11/13/2017 10:22:52 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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I'm gonna dieeeee

I should be single but it's like I'm in too deep now kinda thing idk????

11/13/2017 11:11:13 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

easttowest72
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It will be fine. Hopefully he can hold his end of the conversation. Sometimes i say stupid things on the phone but honestly, guys dont care. They only want to hear a famine voice.

11/13/2017 11:12:09 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sillylaugher61
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Stay away from real men. you have proven to like pretend guys better.

11/13/2017 11:24:15 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from easttowest72:
It will be fine. Hopefully he can hold his end of the conversation. Sometimes i say stupid things on the phone but honestly, guys dont care. They only want to hear a famine voice.

The guys iv talked to gaming have all been really outgoing and charismatic and flirted with me hard but I had such stereotyped lame responses aka "awww" every time, fml lol.

So I was like fvck this and stopped playing and going on mic. All too much effort really. I hate talking to guys, its pointless waste of time unless they are real dating prospects (gaming ones usually aren't cos not in same location). Its like I already have social anxiety, talking to them is not really fun, its basically real exhausting effort and work for me. Afterward I'm exhausted

11/13/2017 11:26:26 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

driver406
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My God, sienna, no wonder you aren't married! Geez, you have more social anxiety than I have! If you don't talk to him you'll be penpals until he finds someone local and marries and starts a family of his own and then you'll think him a lying bastard for not waiting literally forever for you to get off dead center. Since you obviously want to get out of it then get one of those migraines you women always get and beg off the call. It will clear up the second he hangs up! Of course he might just decide that he wants something more than penpals and start looking about at the local girls again. At the rate you're going you'll definitely wind up like driver! 65 and ALONE. This isn't the guy's fault, this is your fault. You're guaranteeing that the relationship has nowhere to go and you'll look down on western men some more when he dumps you. Either be a woman and suck it up and talk to him or get the headache and be prepared to be dumped. YOUR choice, not his.

11/13/2017 11:31:53 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

driver406
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
The guys iv talked to gaming have all been really outgoing and charismatic and flirted with me hard but I had such stereotyped lame responses aka "awww" every time, fml lol.

So I was like fvck this and stopped playing and going on mic. All too much effort really. I hate talking to guys, its pointless waste of time unless they are real dating prospects (gaming ones usually aren't cos not in same location). Its like I already have social anxiety, talking to them is not really fun, its basically real exhausting effort and work for me. Afterward I'm exhausted


You have to give the guys something to work with. You're as cold and hard as the iceberg that the Titantic kissed. And do you think those guys will chase you forever? NO! They'll find themselves a girl who's willing to be caught and by that time even Driver won't be interested. On the other hand since you obviously don't want to meet or do anything more than exchange messages you ought to give driver a break. You're 12000 miles apart? BIG DEAL! It's not like you want to meet any of these guys anyhow and you're alays giving them the cold shoulder and then you think western men are bastards when they look for some girl willing to actually be caught. You are your own worst enemy, my dear.

11/13/2017 5:04:03 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

packersbabe920
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Let Jesus take the wheel and you will be fine

11/13/2017 5:55:31 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

driver406
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No dilemma. Get the headache, you gotta wash your hair, got clothes in the drier and you'll give him a ring a zillion millennium past the end of eternity. Then you'll be mad when he dumps you for someone else.

11/13/2017 6:48:43 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

bumblebee7
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hmmmmmmm, Sttttrrrreeeeettttcccchhhh!!!!

Yawn....

Never fails Sienna, whenever you tell these bedtime stories, it just puts me to sleep.

You have such a vivid imagination, you should become a fictional writer.

11/13/2017 7:26:09 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
doublethree
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I was always nervous to talk to girls on the phone. When I finally did, they claimed my voice is hot, but I never know when to believe females. lol.

11/13/2017 8:17:11 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

lareveur
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Clinton, TN
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Just convert you're nerves into excitement, recall things you love talking about so much - it makes you feel witty just anticipating it, etc...

^ I really wish I could follow my own advice (since I am an introvert, myself) but I am still in test mode and need a few more guinea pigs. So, let me know how it goes, lol.



11/13/2017 9:05:26 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

lucky_1million
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I hate talking on the phone too.

11/14/2017 2:19:55 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

pickygirl72
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Texting for 9 months and NEVER have spoken to you on the phone or has met you

You must love to be played.

11/14/2017 2:58:44 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

inkedandsassyy
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How do you know you like him if you have never spoke for real ... People can txt any old crap ... You need more real interaction. ..Good luck with the phone call

11/14/2017 3:14:09 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from lareveur:
Just convert you're nerves into excitement, recall things you love talking about so much - it makes you feel witty just anticipating it, etc...

^ I really wish I could follow my own advice (since I am an introvert, myself) but I am still in test mode and need a few more guinea pigs. So, let me know how it goes, lol.


I had a rough night last night and he hasn't mentioned talking Steam yet so idk whats going on lol (like if we will or won't).

he just said he was tired earlier when I said I was really tired so yea maybe we won't, which I'm kinda hoping for cos I'm really tired anyway.

I really neeed a break but there's work I need to catch up on and stuff I have to do ahhhhhhh
just been feeling weirdly depressed lately especially when I think of this situation, like
Dating wise, I just want to be alone and not date. Although that's probably the depression making me feel that way idk. Always makes me want to be alone and and lose hope in everything. Always happens though like I get interested in a guy then start getting depressed and don't want to date them anymore lol.

I mostly would feel bad about letting him down but I think people don't really notice when you kinda stop talking and just end up not meeting anyway so it's not much of a big deal.
Can't do things just to not let others down all the time, especially when it's just a nightmare for me.

11/14/2017 5:08:16 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

bumblebee7
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Quote from easttowest72:
It will be fine. Hopefully he can hold his end of the conversation. Sometimes i say stupid things on the phone but honestly, guys dont care. They only want to hear a famine voice.


What? the type of guys you talk with love the voice of starving women?

11/14/2017 5:09:39 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

bumblebee7
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Quote from pickygirl72:
Texting for 9 months and NEVER have spoken to you on the phone or has met you

You must love to be played.



Don't look now,...but she played you with this made up story....

11/14/2017 5:16:44 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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Quote from bumblebee7:
Don't look now,...but she played you with this made up story....

Why do you say every thing I say in terms of dating is made up? Wtf lol. What's so fictional sounding about it?

11/14/2017 1:02:40 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

driver406
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No, no dilemma. Get a headache, go into hiding. He'll find someone else in a week and you'll come in here whining that you hate western men and what bastards they are. But you have an opportunity here if you're woman enough to take it. Still, for you it isn't that far to find yourself a China boy.

11/14/2017 3:07:50 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
uncle_bulgaria
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If talking on the phone to them makes you nervous wait till you have to give them a blumpkin.

11/16/2017 5:58:59 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

testsignup
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Springfield, VA
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Best and easiest solution: make some phone calls to people who you are NOT hoping to impress, and practice talking to them.

Teach yourself to "banter" in that way. And yes, you can do it even when you have a looming deadline.

11/16/2017 6:06:53 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 
cavie59
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The only dilemma the O.P. has is getting people who have seen her posts to believe her. She has more issues than any one sane person could survive with.

11/16/2017 7:59:26 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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I talked to him on the phone :3

It went great, hoping to see him on Saturday

I just have really bad anxiety, I'm not really that socially inept lol





[Edited 11/16/2017 8:00:16 AM ]

11/16/2017 8:12:29 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 
stratus55
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make it a point to be the same on here....as you are in person..

just go for it,none of us are perfect,yet..im a real talker,an used to be very shy,thats cause of playing guitar an gettin compliments from tenn. to atlanta area through the years,your a people person on here for sure..just go for it hunny......


your a 25 year old loved grown woman..no one hates you i hope,some are maybe jealous,but just act like your on here...its past time sara..........and you should maybe soon consider men...not boys... someone past 30 or so even....dont go backwards..your not a child no more,but a pretty an cute sexy young woman...just go for it..i,ll be at 1 800 wherever,.... hunny..........p.s..never say a single word ever again about anyone shi .....g there pants,until maybe your tellin someone your baby had too much apple juice or whatever..wow...one step over the line there hunny...........



[Edited 11/16/2017 8:14:07 AM ]

11/16/2017 10:04:04 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

bumblebee7
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Yeah...you have a dilemma alright.


















































Being locked up in the nuthouse....

11/17/2017 5:28:56 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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ill lock you up in a minute

11/17/2017 11:05:58 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

sadlsticsienna
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Alright he is coming over my house on sunday hopefully
fingers crossed
all goes well lol *nervous laugh and giggle



11/21/2017 10:42:55 AMSo I have a Dilemma? 

Bubbl3gum
Thorlákshöfn
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Oh mmmmmy he was amazing :3

in more than one way
mmm

alrightyoo oI'm leaving country tomorrow peoplz

11/21/2017 2:42:51 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
nymeria73
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:

only issue is I literally never talk 1 on 1 on the phone with guys?


Why?

11/21/2017 2:55:47 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
uncle_bulgaria
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She prefers 2 on 1?

11/21/2017 3:08:26 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
nymeria73
Milan
Italy
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Threesome.

11/21/2017 4:14:51 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 
riteguyforu852
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Nymeria would like to have a threesome with Uncle Bulgaria and sadistic Sienna.

11/21/2017 5:42:30 PMSo I have a Dilemma? 

bumblebee7
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
Why do you say every thing I say in terms of dating is made up? Wtf lol. What's so fictional sounding about it?


Because early on, you told everyone here that you weren't allowed out of the house and not allowed to have relations.