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3/4/2011 5:12:29 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 

New Kensington, PA
46, joined Dec. 2009

Yes, it's true, VERY true, and extremely bothersome. Just wanted to see if you women out there despise a guy my age not having had sex yet. Its not due to religion, not due to waiting before marriage, it's most likely due to not being more outgoing with women (this means if I see an attractive woman, if she doesn't talk to me first, i most likely won't say anything). This is due to 2 things: 1. i have a speech impediment which makes my voice sound extremely nasally...like I have food in my mouth. Secondly, I assume that all women, when a guy comes up to them out of nowhere to talk, know exactly what he's trying to do. I guess maybe the third thing is that I'm not the most handsome guy in the world, who knows? My friends were always chosen by women, in fact, drooled over. I'm 5"3 so maybe that's an issue. Now my friends are married, but NONE of their wives have any single girlfriends. Wow...this is sounding depressing..I'll stop here before I start a pity party..lol.

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3/4/2011 5:15:35 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Grand Junction, CO
35, joined Jan. 2011

To late

3/4/2011 5:16:57 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 

New Kensington, PA
46, joined Dec. 2009

True dat..sorry folks...just curious that's all.

3/4/2011 5:25:03 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Duncan, OK
47, joined Nov. 2010

I think you are a nice looking man. I really hope you find what you are looking for.

3/5/2011 1:20:16 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Over 1,000 Posts (1,205)
Prescott, AZ
71, joined Apr. 2009

Man I am still shy as hell. First off smile If she smiles back say something about the weather or something. What is the worst that can happen you get ignored. Hell go to an AA meeting or church a dog-park.

Good luck

3/5/2011 1:24:08 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Memphis, TN
38, joined Feb. 2011

U gotta approach more of the women who don't intimidate you. Plus some women like men who are 5'3", I see a lot of shorter guys with taller women. Confidence is what gets a woman going.

3/5/2011 7:37:58 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Over 2,000 Posts (2,787)
Marinette, WI
70, joined Apr. 2009

Definately a pity party. You need to go get some self confidence. Find something you excell at, maybe it will spill over into the rest of your life.

3/8/2011 6:58:27 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Duncan, OK
47, joined Nov. 2010

I agree with letsplay, find something your good at and get better at it. You will be suprised at how much it helps.

3/8/2011 7:28:33 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Rapid City, SD
31, joined Oct. 2009

Well, first, I'm sure you've noticed by now that the waiting-for-them-to-come-to-you approach isn't really a good one. For some guys, it works, but I'd guess that that for most it doesn't. I'm 6'5", in good shape, dress nicely and am well kept, and I don't think I'm too bad looking of a guy and I almost never get approached. So you're not alone there. I have that same issue with girls, though, and the idea that all girls know you're trying to hit on them... I'm still working on that hurdle myself, but understand that a girl's not going to be upset that you're hitting on them, and would probably even be flattered... and even if they're not interested, they'll usually be polite about it. I would think at your age, the ones you should be approaching age-wise are going to be less willing to hold something silly like the sound of your voice against you also.

3/8/2011 9:13:15 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Camp Hill, PA
35, joined Aug. 2009

I agree with the confidence thing. Man up and say hello...you're a good looking guy. I'm 5' 6" and have dated shorter guys because it doesn't matter all that much. Stop making excuses and grow a set.

3/8/2011 9:33:10 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,478)
Auburn, WA
42, joined Jan. 2008

It's not a big deal man. You just need some self-confidence. That turns women on more than looks, trust me.

3/9/2011 12:58:34 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Sugar Land, TX
41, joined Feb. 2011

WOW, you think that's bad try not having sex after having sex that the worst. It like being blind you don't know what your missing until you had it. Dude don't have sex, because once you do your at the mercy of your penis and he don't care about nothing but himself

3/9/2011 1:22:46 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (77,358)
New South Wales
98, joined Jan. 2010

Stop stressing before you give yourself a heart attack!~

I suggest you go to an elite brothel

3/9/2011 1:29:07 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Over 7,500 Posts!! (9,857)
Sitka, AK
39, joined Dec. 2009

3/9/2011 1:53:58 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Flagler Beach, FL
26, joined Feb. 2011

I'd go to the Bunny Ranch if I were you, OP. j/s

3/9/2011 1:56:34 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (18,098)
96, joined Jun. 2010

^^^not a bad idea^^^

maybe that's what i should do

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3/10/2011 3:17:59 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Gatlinburg, TN
65, joined Jan. 2010

i have found the more beautiful a woman is the easer it is to approach her.Because she is so beautiful most men are afraid to approach her so she is lonely.i speak from experience i am dating a beautiful 44 year old woman.when i first meet her she was lonely had no boyfriend no male friends so she was so glad i talked to her we are still loving each other after 3 years.So go for it.one approach that works for me is to walk up to them say they are beautiful and kiss them i haven't gotten slapped yet.

3/10/2011 3:20:47 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Over 2,000 Posts (3,699)
Hamilton, ON
30, joined Feb. 2011

Don't worry I'll be in the same boat as you in years to come...for your same reasons too mostly.


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3/10/2011 3:21:32 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Brooklyn, NY
42, joined Nov. 2010

i had to laugh u funny

3/10/2011 3:23:48 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Brooklyn, NY
42, joined Nov. 2010

dam thats messed up u fuked go to escort service for help.

3/10/2011 4:36:23 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Staten Island, NY
29, joined Mar. 2011

women like confident men

3/10/2011 5:08:26 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Seattle, WA
27, joined Feb. 2011

40??? and you havent had none yet? Bro get ur passport go take a trip to Europe where women there dont have the same hang ups about talking to men that women seem to have here in the US ( and to anyone getting ready to crack that joke about women there getting with u for an opportunit to come to the US have u seen the dollar on the market in the last 10 years? LOL). Dont wait until your married or fall into these woman themed fantasies about losing your virginity to "the one". Just go get laid, heck Im sure if you went to a bar and talked with some women they might (or will cuz of ego lol) find that your virginity is a turn on and or even a challenge to them.

Anyways man get over yourself and go get laid already, not for bragging rights (never kiss and tell) but just for the personal experience of sex. If not them find a royal family, chop ur balls off and get a job as a enuch lol jk man but seriously go get laid already

3/10/2011 5:14:43 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Jersey City, NJ
30, joined Mar. 2011

I hate talking to girls I don't kno n don't do it a lot cuz I hate rejection but u gotta open the door now n then or ur gonna die a virgin n that would b a horrible thing.

3/10/2011 8:02:02 PMA 40 year old virgin here. 
Over 2,000 Posts (3,699)
Hamilton, ON
30, joined Feb. 2011

Apparently some famous guy did. Kudos to him! Man that guy was smart.

(I think Isaac Newton)

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3/11/2011 1:17:01 AMA 40 year old virgin here. 

Over 10,000 Posts!!! (16,817)
Mount Pleasant, MI
46, joined Sep. 2008

Go to nevada to the bunny ranch.. might as well lose it to a pro pluse you can have as many women at one time as you want if you got the money.