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6/1/2012 1:26:14 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
pure_excellence
Pittsburgh, PA
33, joined Aug. 2011


~WARNING: This post is not an attack on women, read all the way through before you comment~

I can't speak for anyone else but me but when it comes to dating when I 1st meet a woman I don't believe in buying her dinners or drinks, EVER!...My own personal philosophy is that when I meet a girl I believe things should be split 50/50 & it should be simplistic, fun & brief. I personally like to go grab a coffee & chat & see if this is someone I want to continue to get to know.

Alot (not all) women walk around with this self entitlement complex & think men are obligated to buy them dinner & drinks...The reason I can make this statement is because numerous women over the years have just walked up to me & said "hey buy me a drink" & they think just because they're cute & their cleavage is hanging out that I'm just another sucker who will do whatever they ask.

I go out to the clubs/bars strictly to dance & socialize & I don't drink...So since I don't drink why the hell should I buy a girl a drink?!?
My thing is i don't care how cute a girl is or how cute she "thinks" she is I'm nobodies ATM machine. If you got a job then you're perfectly capable of buying your own drinks & if you don't have a job then get one!
Some girls go to the bar with no money knowing guys will buy them drinks all night long & ladies I'm not knocking you for that, if some sucker is dumb enough to buy you drinks all night then more power to you, do your thing ladies!

The same thing goes with dinners, some guys are so pathetic that they will buy a girl they 1st met dinner, movie, roses & jewelery & no woman will turn that down but all that says to most women is that that guy is trying to "buy" her affections & attention & buy his way into her pants...Then he wonders why she puts him in the dreaded "friend zone" because she knows he has an agenda & he comes off as to desperate & "nice"

Now once you're in a established relationship I see nothing wrong with taking my girl out for a fancy dinner but I personally think it's more romantic to cook one for her & surprise her.
But the point I'm trying to make is when a guy 1st meets a girl I don't think we are obligated to buy a woman drinks or dinners as some women think they are entitled to ...I prefer to make the 1st meeting about having fun & getting comfortable with each other. There's nothing comfortable about watching someone shove food in their mouth & sitting through a boring 2 hour movie.
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6/1/2012 1:27:35 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

hbguy311
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6/1/2012 1:28:53 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
mercedes01
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New South Wales
Australia
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In other words you're a tight arse.

6/1/2012 1:30:19 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
jad071571
Over 2,000 Posts (3,862)
West Memphis, AR
50, joined Oct. 2011


you should duck now

6/1/2012 1:31:46 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
fun2bchattin
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Hedgesville, WV
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Me: try buying a decent personality.

6/1/2012 1:31:50 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
bestsnever
Savannah, GA
32, joined May. 2012


Oo weee imma take you home with ne

6/1/2012 1:40:28 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

lisa29405
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,971)
Oak Harbor, WA
54, joined Jun. 2007


OP, I believe it all comes down to the generation and culture that you were raised in. Most men in my age group who were brought up in the Southern way were raised to pay for things. I admit that it is unfair. I admit that we have been spoiled, and I know the younger generation doesn't feel this way.

6/1/2012 2:14:42 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

amargosa
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Riddle, OR
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Quote from mercedes01:
In other words you're a tight arse.




Dunno about that, but I have a feeling he does not get laid very often.

6/1/2012 2:15:26 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
mercedes01
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (77,358)
New South Wales
Australia
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Quote from amargosa:
Dunno about that, but I have a feeling he does not get laid very often.


I reckon you're onto some thing.

6/1/2012 2:23:20 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

clint724
Bellevue, NE
35, joined May. 2012


Dude I can't read all that got bored but from what I read it sounds like you really let some girl take way to much advantage of you and are hell bound not to let it happen again don't let that one person ruin it for everyone else



[Edited 6/1/2012 2:24:24 AM ]

6/1/2012 2:28:22 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
annapawlova
Buckinghamshire
United Kingdom
50, joined Feb. 2012


Quote from pure_excellence:
But the point I'm trying to make is when a guy 1st meets a girl I don't think we are obligated to buy a woman drinks or dinners as some women think they are entitled to ...I prefer to make the 1st meeting about having fun & getting comfortable with each other.


You still have a lot to learn.

6/1/2012 2:44:42 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
stephenpavia
Rochester, NY
52, joined Feb. 2012


I buy drinks for friends all of the time. It's just a courtesy. I do it when I'm broke too. I don't ply skanks with booze though, and I get what you're saying. Society has set up this standard. The man usually asks the woman out and pays. That's just the way it is. I've had girls buy me drinks on occasion too.

6/1/2012 2:49:41 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
mrfartypants
Over 1,000 Posts (1,159)
San Antonio, TX
33, joined Nov. 2011


Actually he's spot on.

numerous women over the years have just walked up to me & said "hey buy me a drink"



Hand them a water.




The flip side of the coin is - why make a big deal about it at all? I mean...only the lamest person would ever go to a dinner and movie for a first date anyway. Doind something casual is usually best, and so what if one person has to pay for each of the $3 coffees.

6/1/2012 2:55:51 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

thiscityisdead
Columbus, OH
28, joined May. 2012


If its actually a date then whoever asked if the other would go out with them should pay..
If you're at a bar and some random chick comes up to you and asks you to buy her a drink.. well those are two different things...
Also, ever think she wants you to buy her drinks so she has an excuse to why she'll let you in her pants later? Ha.

6/1/2012 3:10:05 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

rubberbanman
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Sherman, TX
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I agree with the part about not buying chicks drinks,but when it comes to going out on a date....well with me,I pay for the date. Couple reasons why.....



1: 99% of the time,I asked the girl out. So since the whole thing was my idea,why should she pay for it. (Just my own personal opinion)

2: With all the SH1T,roadblocks,and hurdles you sometimes have to go through just to get the date set,paying for the date is the LAST THING I care about.


On this site,you have.....


messages that get deleted WITHOUT being read
messages that are read WITHOUT a reply
messages that get replied to,then the convo dies out
chicks agreeing to dates,but the date somehow never comes to fruition
chicks agreeing to dates,then cancelling
getting stood up on date


and on and on and on. After ALL THAT SH1T,I don't give a DAMN about paying for it.


To me,it's just STUPID to navigate your way through all that hassle just to CREATE another hurdle about who's gonna pay for it.



That's just how I see it,I respect other views on it as well.

6/1/2012 3:10:12 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
shay3029
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Fort Worth, TX
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i completely understand where you're coming from. but also knowing from past dh history... you're about to be labeled CHEAP. you have made such a big deal about the whole money thing....

6/1/2012 3:23:30 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

ayemie
Over 4,000 Posts! (6,236)
Granite Bay, CA
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Quote from thiscityisdead:
If its actually a date then whoever asked if the other would go out with them should pay..
If you're at a bar and some random chick comes up to you and asks you to buy her a drink.. well those are two different things...
Also, ever think she wants you to buy her drinks so she has an excuse to why she'll let you in her pants later? Ha.
this

6/1/2012 4:59:07 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

amargosa
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Riddle, OR
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If buying drink and/or dinner for someone is going to break your budget, you seriously need to get a better job before worrying about dating.

6/1/2012 5:21:23 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
mac023
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,826)
Salem, NH
47, joined Nov. 2011


If evrything was good on that first meet I would take her out and soend the money on food and drinks even if it meant breaking the budget.

I would think that most good women would offer to pitch in. It shows mutual respect.



[Edited 6/1/2012 5:23:54 AM ]

6/1/2012 6:05:10 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
aries_girl
Over 2,000 Posts (2,925)
Franklin, NJ
51, joined Jan. 2008


Quote from rubberbanman:
I agree with the part about not buying chicks drinks,but when it comes to going out on a date....well with me,I pay for the date. Couple reasons why.....



1: 99% of the time,I asked the girl out. So since the whole thing was my idea,why should she pay for it. (Just my own personal opinion)

2: With all the SH1T,roadblocks,and hurdles you sometimes have to go through just to get the date set,paying for the date is the LAST THING I care about.


On this site,you have.....


messages that get deleted WITHOUT being read
messages that are read WITHOUT a reply
messages that get replied to,then the convo dies out
chicks agreeing to dates,but the date somehow never comes to fruition
chicks agreeing to dates,then cancelling
getting stood up on date


and on and on and on. After ALL THAT SH1T,I don't give a DAMN about paying for it.


To me,it's just STUPID to navigate your way through all that hassle just to CREATE another hurdle about who's gonna pay for it.



That's just how I see it,I respect other views on it as well.


Wow...Rubberbanman, what woman in their right mind wouldn't respond to your emails, let alone do a vapor act when it comes down to an actual date? You're a good looking man, articulate and from what I see of your posts, extremely well written and intelligent.

I guess there really isn't any rhyme nor reason to people nowadays....

6/1/2012 6:06:19 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

stobil
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Gallatin, TN
37, joined Nov. 2009


I'm with the OP on this. I don't go to clubs, but even if I did, I wouldn't buy strangers drinks. It's got nothing to do with cheap. It's about pride. Who likes to be used? For many women, it's like a game. How many men can I get to buy me things? It's an ego boost.

If I'm dating her, I'll buy her things. Not a stranger who thinks I'm a drink fountain.

6/1/2012 6:28:30 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

vickyxo
Lakeland, FL
28, joined May. 2012


You made your point....over, and over, and OVER. SHEESH.

It's fine to think that way but you give a little you get a little. Make up for not wanting to pay for her by showing her other ways you're interested in her. These days most men aren't wiling to do much-they rather the woman approach them, ask them out, and some want her to pay their way on dates- so you should figure out something fast because the way you go about it isn't attractive

6/1/2012 6:39:15 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

stobil
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Vicky, isn't that kind of the way a wh*re works? Give a little to get a little?

6/1/2012 6:58:31 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
jjay1970
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Syracuse, NY
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Cheapskate.

6/1/2012 6:58:44 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

vickyxo
Lakeland, FL
28, joined May. 2012


That's how everything works and I wasn't referring to sex, since I don't sleep with anyone on the first few dates.

If you want a potential relationship then you have to show one another you're interested (and it doesn't have to be with money or sex since you can get that anywhere these days). I don't mind a guy making me pay for myself but don't be a jerk about it and at least make up for it in other ways like listening, sharing future date ideas, calling me, texting, etc.

In life period you give something to get something. That's why we have to go to school to get decent paying jobs and give our employers our time and work to earn a paycheck that pays our bills

6/1/2012 7:02:57 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
lovetosmile57
Over 4,000 Posts! (4,934)
Cincinnati, OH
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The rules have changed with on-line dating. First dates are now meetings, a chance to see if both people at least look like their picture, can carry a conversation and get a feel for their intentions.

Heck, sometimes people don’t even show up, some don’t look close to their picture. Some are just looking for sex; some have dates two or three nights a week.

Dinners and movies are now reserved for latter when you get to know the other person and have a good feeling about their intentions.

6/1/2012 9:00:52 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

mazrod
Fort Pierce, FL
55, joined Oct. 2010


hahahahahahahaha....

oh op,i'm going to call you out.
Yea, you probably treat women online that way and fine- always suggest something like a coffee, or free: a walk on a nearby beach or park? walk dogs? tons of free ways to get to know someone without coming across as a pennyskimmer. Thats fine for setting up dates online.

Real life approaches are different. A woman found you attractive/hot/interesting enough to approach.the likelihood is that she tried to start with some eye contact but you weren't paying attention."buy me a drink?" method will tell her either you found her attractive enough to buy a drink for, or you didnt find her attractive enough. the drink is a prop. get it?

what your actually saying is that you turned away a woman who approached you. the reason why is because you didnt find her attractive/interesting/hot ENOUGH to want to buy her a drink. So if Jessica Alba sidled up to you and asked you to buy her a drink you'd refuse and tell her to get a job? Cameron Diaz? Jennifer Lopez?

hahahahah.

you could try a different LESS NASTY response, like "I'd love to but i just spent my last 10" and at least come across as a nicer guy. she might still stick around and talk to you.

6/1/2012 9:06:49 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
barrydalmi
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Belleville, IL
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If I ever go to prison am I going to be this angry when I get out? Wow....and we wonder why there is a recidivism rate.

6/1/2012 9:08:00 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

fuzy_wuzy
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West Yellowstone, MT
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Hope the OP has tireless palms on each hand

6/1/2012 9:12:16 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
tashalake
Enfield, CT
29, joined May. 2012


Maybe it's how I was raised, but I feel like the man should pay for the first date. It doesn't have to be crazy expensive. I once met a guy from another dating site and he took me to a bar for dollar draft night because a local band we both liked was playing. I think he spent about $10 on me the whole night, but it was still a great first date.

6/1/2012 9:13:16 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
spiceythang
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Fayetteville, NC
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Quote from amargosa:
Dunno about that, but I have a feeling he does not get laid very often.


Sad but true!! Lmao!!

6/1/2012 9:18:06 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
grneyedluvr2
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Sebastian, FL
52, joined Apr. 2011


Quote from shay3029:
i completely understand where you're coming from. but also knowing from past dh history... you're about to be labeled CHEAP. you have made such a big deal about the whole money thing....

you're right shay. there's an aweful lot of women here that believe they are "entitled" to be spoiled by men on the 1st date, and every other date for that matter. I have created almost this same exact kind of thread a long time ago, so I know how this is gonna play out.
Good luck OP. Wait till settee gets here. (duck)



[Edited 6/1/2012 9:18:25 AM ]

6/1/2012 9:19:58 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
lanabritt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,663)
Chatsworth, CA
39, joined Jul. 2009


DON'T buy anything.

NO one forces you.

Just quit constantly whining.

6/1/2012 9:45:38 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

nuttycoconuts
Over 1,000 Posts (1,967)
New Port Richey, FL
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The guy has a point..a valid tiny one ..but he has a point. Men are taken advantage of every minute of every day. ( Ever heard of Kim Kardashian) Thats why men treat women they way they do. In this case, A few "BAD APPLES" seem to have spoiled the whole bunch for him.

Let's not act like he is making this stuff up, and he's lost his mind. In fact he is using factual club data that he himself have researched and proven true. Speaking of clubs..that is not a place to meet your dream wife. Clubsare places where you get lucky with one night stands, buy drinks to the point that they're trashed (thus the luck factor) return next week and do the same thing all over again.

Perhaps you need a simple down to earth, charming lady, with class and dignity like all the women here on DH. ..and stop going to clubs unless you want to buy drinks and get laid.

6/1/2012 10:07:18 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
singlelifesweet
Over 4,000 Posts! (5,584)
Waterford, CT
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OP, if you want a nice relationship with someone you should consider some self help, your threads are pretty reviling.

6/1/2012 10:08:41 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

onnightwings
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Quote from singlelifesweet:
your threads are pretty reviling.


Nice typo!

6/1/2012 10:11:10 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

nuttycoconuts
Over 1,000 Posts (1,967)
New Port Richey, FL
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Quote from leggsallover:
If a man is stupid enough to allow himself to be taken advantage of then he deserves what he puts out.
By you not taking control of the situation, you allow yourself to be taken by greed. Only you can stop it from happening. Ever hear of the word NO?


Ever heard of the word CONIVING???

1.devious: devious and scheming
Synonyms: devious, scheming, conspiratorial, sly, crafty, deceitful.

6/1/2012 10:11:31 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
singlelifesweet
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Wasn't a typo, my sense of humor is a little off.

6/1/2012 10:11:52 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
esmeraldar
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Toms River, NJ
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I've never asked a man to buy me a drink, but plenty of times men will do it. Sometimes I went to the VFW with a dollar in my pocket but still managed to have several drinks. Other times I didn't. I've also been known to buy a drink for a male friend. When I was younger I knew of young women who went to bars just to have men buy them drinks.

If you are meeting someone for the first time, by all means meet for coffee and go Dutch. I certainly would not want a man to buy me dinner, decide that he doesn't like me, and feel cheated.

6/1/2012 10:31:46 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
rescueranger245
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Windsor, VA
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If I made first contact with her, or I mentioned meeting, isn't it expected that I pay for everything?
If she makes first contact and I reply, regardless of who asks who to meet...I pay for it.
If she insist that she pay, I politely refuse to allow it and still I pay.
She didn't drag me there and didn't hold a gun to my head if I were to refuse to meet her.
The only time it is permetted for a lady to pay is under certain circumstances I can not control. Such as...She purchases two concert tickets and invites me to join her. Obviously, I can't pay for the tickets. However...Any food or drinks before, during or after the concert is on me!
The only other time she gets to pay is if she asks me out and she states at that time that she intends to pay for dinner. Even then, I try to pay the bill. Sorry guys...It's just how my dad taught me.

6/1/2012 10:36:11 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

mrld_ii
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Stockton, CA
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When not out together, each pays their own way. Other than that, whoever does the inviting, does the paying.

That's the way things are done in *normal* society: when you invite someone to do something with you, whether it's a one-on-one date with a member of the opposite sex, a same-sex friend, and/or the neighborhood kids to tote along with your kids...

if you invited, you pay.

There have been numerous times I've wanted to do something, don't want to go alone, think of someone (often, a man) who might enjoy it and invite him.

If he accepts, I pay.

It's really not rocket science. And, it's really not as complicated as we like to make it. Keeping it complicated ensures we have another good reason for never finding someone who's compatible enough to form a relationship with.




Just let the cat out of the bag.



6/1/2012 10:38:12 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
patron_1
Over 2,000 Posts (2,275)
Garland, TX
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reading between the lines(and there were quite a few), it appears the OP is a broke d*ck and can't afford to buy her a drink.

nothing wrong with that, but that's what i gleemed from the initial rant



[Edited 6/1/2012 10:38:35 AM ]

6/1/2012 10:39:48 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
barrydalmi
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (21,544)
Belleville, IL
54, joined Dec. 2007


freshly released cons often have cash flow issues....

Our society doesn't always give them a fair shake on getting reassimilated.



[Edited 6/1/2012 10:40:07 AM ]

6/1/2012 10:40:40 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
peteycal
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Santa Rosa, CA
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The problem is that most women think it's perfectly acceptable to take advantage of a guy offering things. If you aren't willing to compensate strangers, deny their offerings, otherwise get used to the fact that a lot of people are going to be pissed off at you.

6/1/2012 10:40:41 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

crock567987
Escondido, CA
59, joined Apr. 2012


dude,if you ask a chick out it implies you wanna show her a good time AND you usually want to do things that will show her you are interested...if you ask someone for a date it is usually your treat....when just meeting for the first time,pay for the coffee...

Shit ,,,,, that being said,alot of us are not made of money and can't afford to take someone out all the time,a smart girl understands this and offers to pay halves on stuff sometime after the first date...

6/1/2012 10:47:28 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

nuttycoconuts
Over 1,000 Posts (1,967)
New Port Richey, FL
57, joined Aug. 2009


Quote from leggsallover:
Ever hear of the word "Blind" or "Stupid"? Or how about "Desperate"?
"Obvious"?
If you can't SEE what's happening right before your eyes that you're being taken, then I would suggest you practice fixing stupid if that's at all possible. Don't use me or my opinion as blame for your lack of intelligence


I'm not going to war over who's right or wrong here..but if being taken advantage of is as clear and evident as you make it out.. Then I don't know anyone that should be a victim.

The fact of the matter is certain people ( or players, cheaters etc..)have alterior motives. They make you think all is well ..when underneath they are scheming. So it is not as easy to detect as you make it out to be. Thast what I'm pointing out.

But if it's helps I will bow down and scream at the top of my lungs - YOU ARE RIGHT. how's that.

6/1/2012 10:54:55 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
lanabritt
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (11,663)
Chatsworth, CA
39, joined Jul. 2009


Quote from fuzy_wuzy:
Hope the OP has tireless palms on each hand





6/1/2012 11:18:24 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
grneyedluvr2
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,446)
Sebastian, FL
52, joined Apr. 2011


how about you split a 30 pack, grab a couple subs, and hit the ol fishin hole. Stay out of the clubs. Nothing but players, users and cheaters in them.

6/1/2012 11:23:17 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
grneyedluvr2
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,446)
Sebastian, FL
52, joined Apr. 2011


Quote from leggsallover:
Too bad for you that you can't see the Forrest for the trees here. This is about a simple drink/ dinner and maybe flowers etc... We're not talking bank accounts etc... Where there's more reason to plot/ scheme to a higher more intelligent degree.
Simple common sense is all that's necessary when being asked for a cheap drink or dinner.
Btw...bow down if you must, that's on you!
Hmmmmm

bullshit, why should any man spend his hard earned money on a woman that he doesn't even know he will see ever again? Women have used this shit to their advantage for centuries, hense the cleavage and leg shots. Players, then when they get called out on their own game, they get all defensive and call the guy a cheap ass. That's why you NEVER...EVER...take a woman to dinner or anyplace where you may be coerced to spend a ton of money on her. If she's that shallow, she doesn't deserve a good man anyway. Go for a walk, to the park, a drive to the mountains. Go to the beach. Whatever, but never spend a shitload on some stranger that may, or may not be playing you.

6/1/2012 11:35:47 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
grneyedluvr2
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,446)
Sebastian, FL
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Quote from leggsallover:
That's just it grn, No man/woman should do anything they don't want to do. If a woman is successful at being a con, that's his fault for caving. and shame on her for attempting to con a man out of his hard earned money just so she can call it a good night/time.
All I'm saying is, if a man is able to, and should be able to spot a con and gives in, then it's on him for doing so. Like I also said, he can say no!
BTW...Lets get to fishin, know any good holes?
My hook is baited waiting to drop

that's like saying it's a woman's fault for getting raped, or a person's fault for getting mugged. Scamming money with intent, "IS" a crime, although it's hard to prove.
ETA...yes I know a few good "holes", all we need is my...er...some worms.



[Edited 6/1/2012 11:36:37 AM ]

6/1/2012 11:37:44 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
trenton81
Paradise, TX
35, joined May. 2012


If a girl walks up and says hey get me a drink at a bar just politely unzip your pants. As for a date i pay. Dont do the whole random hey get me a drink thing. All the women bashing you for this are the same ones asking how much you make... about two steps from the pole if you ask me.

6/1/2012 2:20:02 PMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

hbguy311
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (12,422)
Huntington Beach, CA
36, joined Aug. 2010


Quote from leggsallover:
Too bad for you that you can't see the Forrest for the trees here.




6/1/2012 5:14:37 PMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

bigdrummerboy
Washougal, WA
37, joined May. 2011


Leykis 101

6/1/2012 5:20:25 PMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
grneyedluvr2
Over 4,000 Posts! (7,446)
Sebastian, FL
52, joined Apr. 2011


Quote from leggsallover:
It's a drink and maybe dinner, it's no where near a bank heist. Men scam money as well as sex. It's a known fact. I don't condone stealing in any fashion. But, if she's asking for selfish reasons, that's not taking, it's still asking. If he falls for her hidden agenda, then he's out a drink/dinner. He can still say NO!
She'll just move to the next shcmo until she gets what she wants.

we call them One Trick Mary's.

6/1/2012 5:30:50 PMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

greenstraveler
Webster, FL
27, joined Jun. 2012


rubberbanman has the right idea.

6/3/2012 4:19:34 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

freetobeme08
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,702)
Tallahassee, FL
51, joined Sep. 2011


I have personally never asked a man to buy me a drink or anything else. I am not sure where you hang out or what type of women you are attracting to where they actually come up to you and ask you to buy them a drink. That is a little bold and trashy. I have refused drinks because I did not want to accept something from a man with whom I had no intentions of even entertaining a conversation.

I grew up in a different time era than you and the attitude you have expressed is one of the huge reasons that even thinking about dating a younger man is out of the question for me. I can afford to buy most any man dinner and drinks upon occassion, but if a man even begins to balk or whine about buying dinner for us when he invites me out, he would not be someone who would continue to be in my life.

6/3/2012 8:02:18 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
hardhardedman
Citrus Heights, CA
53, joined Mar. 2012


Quote from freetobeme08:
I have personally never asked a man to buy me a drink or anything else. I am not sure where you hang out or what type of women you are attracting to where they actually come up to you and ask you to buy them a drink. That is a little bold and trashy. I have refused drinks because I did not want to accept something from a man with whom I had no intentions of even entertaining a conversation.

I grew up in a different time era than you and the attitude you have expressed is one of the huge reasons that even thinking about dating a younger man is out of the question for me. I can afford to buy most any man dinner and drinks upon occassion, but if a man even begins to balk or whine about buying dinner for us when he invites me out, he would not be someone who would continue to be in my life.
double

Balk and whine? OP, later for these females who think they are entitled. You are right! And later for men like Rubberbanman who are still too weak to try and correct the main problem w dating - the money issue. Let them call you cheap, better than being called stupid. What people refuse to do is take a step back and examine why male/female relations are so bad anyway - unrealistic expectations. What right does a woman have to expect a man to pay her way just because he asked her out? None, but the reason they have that expectation is because of men like Rubberbanman who are just so damn happy to get a date that they'll pay for almost anything on the date. It's a no win situation for men; challenge the status quo and be belittled and labeled cheap; go with the status quo and be Rubberbanman.

The whole idea about men initiating and paying is rooted in outdated religious mores surrounding control issues. Men insisted that a "good" woman would wait to be asked, and he would "provide" thus control the relationship. Fine, til women became just as educated and employable as men. Only thing is, the previous dynamic of initiation and paying has not changed. Women know this but they're not gonna say nothin cause that would ruin it for them and they'd have to start carrying their share of the load. Women make as much or more as men now, despite the misconception that Lilly Ledbetter continuues to spread. THey have every opportunity to become educated and earn as men now, but they still play by the old rules because it's convenient. And damn any man who doesn't play by those rules!

When I see men writing comments like, "well I guess you won't be getting laid any time soon", I realize just how far we still have to go to bring equality to dating like women have brought equality to working and pay. DOn't give up bro, you're not alone in this. It's gonna be tough and it's gonna be a long haul cause even the young chics are still being taught that a man should pay for everything. It's something every man complains about in secret but most don't have the balls to take up in public. Case in point, Rubberbanman.

6/3/2012 8:22:57 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 

kclady41
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (13,422)
Kansas City, MO
48, joined Jun. 2011


Well I sort of agree. I am fine with paying my own way on the first date. It is understandable giving we are strangers but if there is a second date I think the guy should go for the dinner. BUT it a man wants to pay I just think it is all the more romantic and I walk away very impressed but I would not be offended at all if i am asked to pay my own way as long as its communicated to me upfront. Money is very tight with me so some times I can not afford it or I am broke so the guy will have to wait till payday. I personally do not like strangers buying me drinks. It is super awkward if your not attracted to him then you feel bad for taking the drink.

But as far as some women feel entitled.. it is called power of the p*ssy... if you want to get some you got to give some LOL Buying dinner is all part of impressing and drawing in the woman you are trying to nail



[Edited 6/3/2012 8:25:18 AM ]

6/3/2012 9:12:53 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
hardhardedman
Citrus Heights, CA
53, joined Mar. 2012


"But as far as some women feel entitled.. it is called power of the p*ssy... if you want to get some you got to give some LOL Buying dinner is all part of impressing and drawing in the woman you are trying to nail"

Told ya. Stick to your guns! But, as soon as you compare them to a ho (Wh*re) then they get all self-righteous on you and want to break down the difference between ho's and "real women". It's a game, and all these women who post in their profiles they don't want a man who plays games are all about games themselves. They want you to play THEIR game, not yours cause they win at theirs. But when you tell them to pay their own way that means there are no games on either side and that just ain't right.

6/3/2012 10:02:26 AMGIRL: Buy Me A Drink...ME: Get A Job 
pigpen67
Ballerup
Denmark
39, joined Jun. 2012


Op
If you ever have the chance to sit across from a lady and enjoy food and wine with them again, I will be suprised. Now if your lucky enough to be sitting across from a beautiful one your even luckier. The lady across from you can probably do better but she was willing to get to know you honestly that should be payment enough.